Posted on 05/20/2016 7:34:08 AM PDT by C19fan
Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine I’d earn the ire of a character named Turd Flinging Monkey, the nom de plume of a popular online activist. A leader in the Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) movement, which encourages men to avoid romantic relationships with women, Monkey did not take kindly to my new Prager University video talking up the benefits of marriage for men.
In the video, I noted, among other things, that married men work harder (about 400 more hours), smarter (they’re less likely to quit without having found another job), and more successfully (they make about $16,000 more per year) than their single peers. I described these as features, not bugs, of married life for men.
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Depends on your state. The ultimate solution has to come from the church returning to enforcing the pataratcal family but there’s nothing I can do about that.
Men without children have no future. Hedonism isn’t the good life.
Love is fleeting. Good sex is a memory that lasts a lifetime.
It works for the Jews and Muslims. Why not the Christians?
Whenever I’m asked why we went to China to adopt our daughter, I answer “because there’s no such thing as a binding contract with a woman in this country if a child is involved.”
The point is and remains, one does not get married to be celibate. That is not God's intention. Sex within the construct of marriage is, and always was intended by God to be a beautiful thing, designed to draw man and woman closer.
When one partner decides to unilaterally stop what God designed, that IMO is a violation of one's wedding vow's and frankly, means the marriage is over.
I know it seems like the end of the world, or at least the end of your life. It isn’t.
Life is going to suck for a while. More than you ever thought it could. You will have some dark days and sleepless nights. It will seem as if the sorrow will never end.
Then, to your surprise, it will get better. Gradually at first, then much quicker than you can imagine.
Then, life will be very good indeed. I promise.
If you ever want to talk it out, freepmail me. God bless.
As I've come to learn, women who are sexually abused at a young age tend to do one of two things:
First is to become sexually promiscuous (think pole dancers, hookers, adult films that kinda thing, serial cheaters) and the other is to completely withdraw.
Mine has completely withdrawn which frankly is depressing, considering she did that long ago.
Tempting, but not interested in the trophy wife. Honestly, want someone who's comfortable in their own skin and shows some affection. We men are pretty simple: feed us, show us some affection and every once in awhile be enthusiastic about sex with us and we're happy. Simple beings we are.
I tremble in abject misery whilst fearfully dreading her tongue-lashingly tarty comments. *tries manfully to remove tongue from cheek*
Your advice is sound and mirrors what I've been told by friends and my divorce attorney.
At this point I have it setup to the point that I simply logon to my online banking accounts in the morning and initiate the transfers to separate bank accounts in different banks. By transferring to different banks, there's no way she can talk them into transferring funds back since she won't be on the account AND not being the same bank as existing accounts.
Immediately after funds are transferred, moving crew shows up. I'm not taking much (frankly don't want much) as all I want are my clothes, computers, guest bedroom set and my amateur radio gear (which I'll be selling off anyway.) She can have the house, everything that's in it, and half of all the accounts. I'm just walking away. She'll be financially well off and capable of taking care of herself, I can always make more money --- and I will.
Not bitter or angry and not out to "screw her" financially -- just want my life back and move on.
“The point is and remains, one does not get married to be celibate.”
I don’t see the point, the comment I made was about a guy whose kids DIDN’T want to get married, and someone had said his kids were basically consigned to a life of fornication, as if there was no alternative. I don’t know where you got stuck on this thing about celibacy IN a marriage, I never said anything about that.
Indeed. In the majority of programmes on the telly these days the male(s) in the picture are always portrayed as buffoons that the females always are having to rescue from one situation or another.
While the women have all the brains and every situation is about how she is the one so necessary for everything to continue functioning despite the blundering male.
No strong and capable housewife content to take care of the children and maintain a happy and caring home for the family to take pride in while the man is out working to support everyone on his meagre earnings. Even sometimes on his not-so-meagre earnings. The wife (if they are married, not always the case) must have an equivalent job that pays just as well or preferably more so, because after all the male should not be the main provider, no. Only a cave-man still believes in such outmoded concepts.
That being the case, why would a man want to be in a relationship where he is bound to a competitor who views him as not much more than another source of income and a constant source of problems and needs for rescueing whilst also constantly expecting sex?
Everyone knows women are far better off after the divorce when she has him by the 3@11s and can then go out and DO BETTER -with all she acquired from him in her pocket.
No Feminists have created Women Haters,,, this guy is a Moron..
I have been reading this thread and thinking the same thing. I have been married for 35 years, was a stay at home mom when kids were young. I did not fall for the feminist garbage. I am reading all these horror stories and I know they are mostly true because these things have happened to people we know. There really are still good women out there, my daughters are good women and happily married to great men.
I understand the idea of avoiding a relationship because of the odds but how sad it is for me to read this.
Decent women have a hard time finding decent men as well, so there must be few of both.
We have had an adventure together, of course not always smooth, of course worked on by both of us, but the journey has been more than worth it. Without her, life would be miserable, I know she feels the same. Love for your spouse is very rich, very deep, and truly wonderful.
I read this thread, and it makes me really sad that a lot of others have had totally opposite experiences.
I’ll bet my eye teeth your family subscribes to the paternalistic family model, at least in practice if not in name.
I have discovered over the years that women have an uncanny ability to forever arrive at the determination that everything indeed is all our fault.
Try this one: one girl I had been seeing for some time and been living together with for a bit started with the all-your-fault habit and began making a constant refrain of it. One morning, after she had been out late with some friends I arose when she was in the shower and on the way to the kitchen noticed a small slip of paper on the couch and half-hidden between two cushions. Reading it and bypassing the first part, it ended with a handprinted sentence that read: “Remember, sit on a happy face!”
When confronted with this slip of paper after she exited the shower, was she embarrassed that she had been caught cheating? Worried that I would think less of her? Uncertain of how I might respond or frightened that I would break up with her?
No. She instantly stated that I was to blame for digging through her purse like some manner of untrustworthy street-thief, and went on a long-winded excoriation of evil intents proven by the fact that I would go through her purse, then proceeded to tell all our friends about how untrustworthy I was because I had gone through her purse.
Right. Too bloody right that it was not at all about how she had been caught, it was rather about that she now knew I was unworthy of her trust because I had gone digging about her purse.
I know this is not a comparison compared to your experience, but I thought you might appreciate the laugh.
Cheers.
We started that way, but changed after the first fifteen years to an equal partnership in our own business.
The thing that didn't change is she could do her part from home (home office that she ran), so she was always home when the kids got back from school. We both loved that part.
Working so close and being married is not for the feint of heart......:-)
The "sexual harassment" on both our parts was most excellent.
I would add: Serial Numbers, and for any computers get the logins, passwords, OS types, part numbers, activation codes and registration keys.
Backup all computers as well. Yesterday. Before any changes can be made. DVDs are less than the cost of a postage stamp, or you can set up cloud accounts and back them up that way. Immediately remove all external drives, flash drives, and media chips such as SD devices.
Do not forget: appliance serial numbers and model numbers. If they do not have one for whatever reason such as age, add one -not with a name or phone number, please. It’s been some time but a reliable engraving pencil cost about 8 AUSD so you might think about investing in one.
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