Your advice is sound and mirrors what I've been told by friends and my divorce attorney.
At this point I have it setup to the point that I simply logon to my online banking accounts in the morning and initiate the transfers to separate bank accounts in different banks. By transferring to different banks, there's no way she can talk them into transferring funds back since she won't be on the account AND not being the same bank as existing accounts.
Immediately after funds are transferred, moving crew shows up. I'm not taking much (frankly don't want much) as all I want are my clothes, computers, guest bedroom set and my amateur radio gear (which I'll be selling off anyway.) She can have the house, everything that's in it, and half of all the accounts. I'm just walking away. She'll be financially well off and capable of taking care of herself, I can always make more money --- and I will.
Not bitter or angry and not out to "screw her" financially -- just want my life back and move on.
I understand. I had what I thought was a good marriage for 21 years and 2 wonderful children. Divorce is a terrible thing to go through, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. There will be dark days and lonely nights where you ask yourself all sorts of questions. How did it go so wrong? Is there anything I could have done differently to change the direction? How am I going to face our mutual friends and family? It’s no fun. Keep your chin up and be assured you are looking out for #1. Things get brighter, I promise you. I wish you well whatever you decide. Anytime you feel like venting or just need a reminder that someone wants you to go on, feel free to drop me a line.