I understand. I had what I thought was a good marriage for 21 years and 2 wonderful children. Divorce is a terrible thing to go through, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. There will be dark days and lonely nights where you ask yourself all sorts of questions. How did it go so wrong? Is there anything I could have done differently to change the direction? How am I going to face our mutual friends and family? It’s no fun. Keep your chin up and be assured you are looking out for #1. Things get brighter, I promise you. I wish you well whatever you decide. Anytime you feel like venting or just need a reminder that someone wants you to go on, feel free to drop me a line.
“Divorce is a terrible thing to go through, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. There will be dark days and lonely nights where you ask yourself all sorts of questions. How did it go so wrong? Is there anything I could have done differently to change the direction? How am I going to face our mutual friends and family?”
When my situation blew-up I resolved not to “Look Back” and focus on the future as much as possible. Mutual-friends? I maintained very few — dropped the rest including all the women. It’s a ‘sisterhood’ anyway and when they get together to discuss a couple having a problem the discussion doesn’t end until the guy is assigned the blame. I am confident that despite my ex-wife’s admitted cheating they will all agree that it was somehow my fault.
Maintaining mutual friends also keeps the old relationship front and center. Not good. Now I had an advantage — no kids — so I always had the possibility of a clean break.
My "saving grace" in all of this is that the only family I have left are a brother and sister (everyone else has passed on) who are both well aware of what's going on.
I could frankly give two sh*ts about her family at this point.
As for our two sons who are going on 18 and 20, I will be sitting them down once I'm out and telling them exactly why I left and letting them know who the family member is that damaged their mother so badly. They deserve the truth (two counselors have told me that.)