Posted on 02/18/2016 7:14:59 PM PST by Fester Chugabrew
Hey there, honey. It's me, Cheryl. I just got the "save the date" announcement for your impending nuptials. Looks like you're planning on a November wedding. That will certainly be a beautiful time of year to get married, and I am glad to see you so excited and full of hope. You deserve some happiness.
Here's the thing, though. I've been watching you with this guy Donald for a while now, and I'm concerned. I know how loudly he professes his love for you. He's taken you to some amazing parties and promised you an incredible future. After the way you were treated by the last guy, it must be exciting to have found someone who seems to put you on a pedestal. I can understand why you think he's the one you've been waiting for.
But I have to be honest — I am worried about you. When I look at you with him, I see red flags everywhere. I just don't trust the guy. So I'm going to take a deep breath and tell you what I think you need to hear, whether you want to or not. It's what your parents would say if they were still around (may they rest in peace).
Don't Expect Him to Change
First, you need to remember what your mama always taught you: you cannot fix someone. What you see is what you get, and a wedding isn't going to change that. So if he gambles too much now, he'll gamble too much then. If he insults and calls people names and uses foul language now, he'll do it then. If he lies now, he'll lie later.
He never asks you what you think, but tells you what you ought to think.
He may say he will clean up his act after the wedding, but he won't. You only need to look at the way he treats others now to know how he will treat you later. If you think he will be better with you, you are wrong.
Second, marriage is not supposed to be a dictatorship, but a two-way street. I have watched you around this guy and it seems you are always in the shadows and he is in the forefront. He never asks you what you think, but tells you what you ought to think. He makes all the decisions, and if you disagree with him on something, you are stupid.
You know, you are your own person, with your own history and identity and worth. You had a life before him. But he doesn't seem interested in that. Instead, he wants to start from scratch and remake you in his own image. That is not love but narcissism. I am afraid if you marry this guy you are going to lose yourself forever.
Third, I know that our politically correct culture has been oversold on the value of sensitivity. But that doesn't mean you should throw the baby out with the bathwater. Gentleness and sensitivity are good things. So are thoughtfulness and caring.
In fact, sometimes strength is exhibited best in the exercise of restraint.
Yes, you want someone who is strong and who will stand up for you, protect and defend you. But a man can be strong as well as sensitive. The best men are both. In fact, sometimes strength is exhibited best in the exercise of restraint. But restraint isn't anywhere in this guy's vocabulary that I can see.
Look, I know you were bullied and abused by the last guy. But the answer is not to yoke yourself to another bully. Please don't make the same mistake again. It's not too late to reconsider. You are beautiful and smart and have so much to offer. You've just had a rough run of it lately and have lost your confidence. But you deserve so much better.
This guy—he doesn't really care about you. He doesn't want to serve you; he wants to lord over you, put you on his arm and parade you around to all his friends, a new trophy added to his collection. Don't let him do that to you. Don't be his trophy. Be the independent-minded, thoughtful, intelligent, and self-respecting woman you were brought up to be.
And, hey, when you're ready, there's someone I'd like to introduce you to. His name is Ted.
Love,
Cheryl
Go Trump!
Kind to think of it, I haven't heard him ranting about tort reform.
That is the most succinct summation so far.
I think you've got it wrong there. In almost any other election I'd be for Cruz. I suspect, though could be wrong, that most Trump supporters are similar. I'm not going to accuse you of it, but I think a significantly higher percentage of those who support Cruz are more likely to insult the other side and/or see it as an either Cruz or Trump thing.
That is to say, in everything I've been reading, the Cruz supporters are more often 2-dimensional.
You say: "it stuns me that these Trump supporters can only think in two dimensions."
So I say: "When a plane looks at something three dimensional, it can only see two dimensions."
Do you understand that statement? It's not the pot calling the kettle black ... it's one step further ... it's the pot calling the kettle a pot.
I assure you I am a kettle - in all three dimensions. You on the other hand, should check the mirror.
I do not see Trump as having the depth of conviction Cruz has, but I certainly understand the desire to ride his train into the face of the GOPe and political correctness. Would like to see both of them in office less than a year from now.
We are currently, but neither permanently nor irretrievably, on divergent paths. I know where you are coming from.
If Trump can’t restore it, nobody can. America is already dead, but many of us think Trump might have the gusto to turn things around.
If we are wrong, it won’t matter. Cruz or Rubio or Anyone else will not be able to move the ball further..even if they are ‘perfect conservatives’.
We have a house and senate filled with traitors. My 3 kids are going to live in a banana republic, it sickens me that they have to live in this marxist world.
Maybe Trump will be 75% conservative and fulfill his big promises. Or maybe he will be white Obama. I think he will do the right thing because he puts American interests first and cannot be bought. I’m willing to take the gamble because the alternatives like Cruz and Rubio are just the same old song.
There's only one candidate who has a PROVEN record of swimming in the opposite direction in the GOPe stream. Just ONE. He's never been a pro-single payer health care system supporter. He's never been pro-abortion. He's never been for limitations on the 2nd Amendment. He's never been in favor of funding Planned Parenthood. He's never insulted a POW for getting captured, ridiculed a person who is physically disfigured, nor waded into bizzaro truther territory by accusing a former president of knowingly lying about such things as the Iraq war and the 9-11 attacks. His convictions weren't recently (and conveniently) arrived at. Constitutional conservatism is in his bones.
I agree with the author of this piece. Trump's not to be trusted. IMHO, a vote for Trump is even more dangerous than a vote for a Dem, because with a Dem, you already know what you're getting. With Trump, all you know is what he wants you to know at this juncture. Once he has his way with you (the American electorate), you'll find out what kind of deception you've swallowed hook, line and sinker.
There is a candidate who actually fits the description of all the things I listed above, yet he gets pass after pass after pass from the Republican voter. These are the same voters who extend not a shred of grace to any of the other Republican candidates, yet are willing to overlook all the liberal positions and downright rudeness of Trump. If anyone -- ANYONE -- would have told me in June that FReepers would be following Trump as if he were the pied piper, I'd have told them they were nuts. Now I'm the one who has to bear the embarrassment of too much optimism.
But here's what I'm saying about Cruz.
I agree with him on every single point. So, should I be president? Does the fact that he's right about everything translate into the country FOLLOWING THAT DIRECTION? Because he can't do any of it without the country following. Trump is the only one who's GOTTEN THE MESSAGE ACROSS TO PEOPLE to PERSUADE THEM that some of this stuff must happen.
The country will survive ObamBernieCare. it will not survive the the border issues, which will lead not only to so so so much damage and debt, but also a permanent Democratic electorate. Both of those things end America.
I say Cruz can not move America. I say Trump already has.
Following on that, I can certainly defend Trump on some but not all of his deficiencies. But note of those deficiencies translate into him actually enacting any of that stuff.
I'm not saying I'm right about my interpretation of this point -> I just don't see Cruz supporters answering the questions: WHO CARES HOW PERFECT HE IS? CAN HE MOVE THE COUNTRY IN THE DIRECTION OF HIS PERFECTION?
I say NO, at least not yet. The country MUST move if it is to survive. Even the worst of Trump's deficiencies taken to their extreme do not threaten the survival of the country. Cruz's deficiency does - that the country won't follow him in enough numbers, that he's not persuasive enough.
He's a lawyer and a debater, he's not yet a leader. Leaders MOVE things. Leaders BUILD things. Leaders CHANGE PEOPLE'S VIEWPOINTS. Along the way - they often make messes and do things that stain their reputations.
That's what all the Cruz supporters do not seem to include in their equation: We don't win by electing the perfect man. We win if in 8 years someone has led the country to a different place, to a different outlook.
With Cruz you will always get to be right. But there is a saying "you might be right, dead right."
Pardon misspellings I'm running out the door and can't proofread!!!
Yes, of course, why would we want a self-confident, aggressive leader who can make decisions and actually can throw a baseball like a man and has successfully built businesses while knowing how to shut down start-ups that don’t work? After all we have done so well with a man who is on all sides of every issue and gives people a big smile while he has Ci-cago types go out and stab them in the back. And we could have our choice of two ineligibles who would never be able to withstand a Democrat candidate court attack.
Gotta go feed the dogs, so I did a hasty reading of your post and didn’t detect any typos. I’ll respond later as I’m very tired and very dejected tonight.
I do appreciate a THOUGHTFUL reply from a Trump supporter. Talk to you later.
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