Posted on 06/15/2015 1:39:48 AM PDT by Kaslin
White girls like Rachel Dolezal and black girls like Dajerria Becton go wild without the presence of strong father figures.
No one knows why Rachel Dolezal—a 37-year-old adult Caucasian woman—pretended to be black for the past 20 years. No one understands this woman’s full motivation for falsifying her heritage, donning wigs and feigning her adopted African American brother is her biological son.
Likewise, no one knows—given conflicting eyewitness accounts—exactly what happened at the McKinney, Texas pool party on June 5 where 15-year-old black girl Dajerria Becton tussled with a white police officer.
In Dolezal’s case, cynics would blame her greed and narcissism. Cynics would say Dolezal’s disguise made it easier for her to become the president of Spokane, Washington’s N.A.A.C.P.; chair a police watchdog committee; and earn her living as a professor in the Africana Studies Program at Eastern Washington University.
I blame her father, Larry Dolezal. I blame him in order to make a bold point: we must stop blaming the police, sexism, racism or even our own children every time our children go wild. Instead, we need to develop, hold accountable and appreciate great fathers.
Research shows that a girl’s father—more than her mother and certainly more than the local police department—shapes how confident and mentally secure she becomes later in life.
Here are the facts: Rachel Dolezal’s father gave her custody of his 16-year-old adopted black son about five years ago and then lost touch with both his son and his daughter. Today, Rachel is in a mentally unstable place. She cashed in on her false African American identity for lofty leadership roles (Spokane N.A.A.C.P. president and police oversight commission chair), a paid Africana professorship and has made thousands of dollars selling her “authentic” civil rights artwork.
Why did Larry wait until Rachel was a grown, 37-year-old woman to hold her accountable—in a very public and embarrassing way—for deceiving her employer, her students and her community? Why did he allow her to grow so psychologically confused that she now calls an imaginary man her father?
Back to Dajerria Becton. We know (by her own admission) that this 15-year-old, bikini-clad partier was not an innocent bystander. “I’m guessing he thought we were saying rude stuff to him,” Becton told KDFW news in explaining why she thought Cpl. David Eric Casebolt lost his cool with her.
If you watch the online video of Casebolt and Becton’s interaction, it certainly looks as though Casebolt overreacted to Becton’s sassy comments. It is also clear that she verbally accosted him while he was being swarmed from all sides by a throng of volatile adults and teens. A more realistic explanation for his behavior (than racism) was the combination of bad timing and high stress.
Fathers like Jahi Adisa Bakari, whose 13-year-old daughter claims an officer punched her at the party—stood before dozens of national media cameras and microphones and moaned how he was “disappointed the [McKinney] Police Department did not send any female or black officers up there [to the party].”
Seriously? Does Bakari want to teach his daughter to regress to the era of segregated busses? Does he expect you and me to applaud his backwoods mentality? Forget it.
Bakari either has no understanding or zero empathy for the stress cops face on the daily beat. The Australian Institute of Criminology has found “Police suffer stress through constant exposure to danger, traumatic events, prisoner threats, conflicting task demands, short-staffed stations, court appearances…” and that “[s]tress risks may be increased for female officers…” University of Buffalo research published in
Science Daily also finds that “23 percent of male and 25 percent of female officers reported more suicidal thoughts than the general population (13.5 percent).” So, police face enormous trauma—especially the female cops that Bakari was whining were not at the pool party.
Officers handcuffed Caucasian teen Grace Stone for a full 30 minutes after she merely approached them. All the officers—not just Casebolt—were under high stress and were doing whatever they could do to get the party under control. Unlike Becton, Stone did not make disparaging comments toward the police officers yet she was still slapped with handcuffs.
From Larry Dolezal to Jahi Bakari, can all fathers—white and black—please step up to the plate and stop blaming your daughters; your local police officers; racism or sexism when your girls go wild? Can you take responsibility for the compound influence of years of poor parenting? Can you become mature father figures so that your daughters can flourish socially and emotionally?
I’m blessed to have a good father. Without his powerful and consistent influence, I too would be a girl gone wild. I’d be pretending—much like Elizabeth Warren—that I’m Pocahontas’ sister, Katiehontas.
So, it moves me to speak up when I see other young girls whose fathers are selling them short. Last week, some folks on Twitter decided to tell me how police are “a-holes” and “psychopaths” who “don’t deserve their jobs, respect or safety.” Police are not always perfect but they are not crazy and we should not expect them to referee our grown children after we fail as parents.
A 2014 MTV study found that nearly 90% of Millennials oppose affirmative action. Plus, a 2015 Fusion study found that 70% of Millennials think the police are the “good guys.” If only Millennials’ fathers would grow up and stop perpetuating petulance.
Every woman wants a strong father figure in her life. This Father’s Day, especially if you are a woman, show your father how much you appreciate him. Tell him “thank you” for being there for you—and for sometimes showing you tough love. If you’re looking for a way to express this, consider giving him a copy of “Let Me Be Clear,” which includes a chapter called “Why Fathers Matter.” You’ll learn why all women—including lesbian women—desire strong father figures. You’ll also learn why Trayvon Martin deserved better than a father like Barack Obama, who once called Martin “my son.”
Thank you, fathers. Without you, gals like me would go wild.
Fathers like Jahi Adisa Bakari, whose 13-year-old daughter claims an officer punched her at the party—stood before dozens of national media cameras and microphones and moaned how he was “disappointed the [McKinney] Police Department did not send any female or black officers up there [to the party].”
Back in the 60s that father would have whupped this teen for talking back to an adult...thanks Lefties for destroying that now teens run amok and parents are too weak to reign them in
What I want to know is why is this woman given so much attention when Elizabeth Warren who currently a Senator is allowed to stay in office when she was outed as a fraud and a con artist as well? I think it goes without saying this Rachel Dolezal is going to step down as Prez of the NAACP and maybe even get fired from her job at the university. Warren made pretend she was a Native American for 9 YEARS and nobody says anything. It’s amazing how liberal politicians are defended in this country.
Without fathers, anyone can go wild — male or female, whatever “race” — read Theodore Dalrymple “Life at the Bottom”
The blame game is a weak argument. This is an unsupported assertion without evidence of the role of her father during her formative years, say birth until teens.
Blaming the parents is silly. Maybe the parents were waiting to see if anyone even cared to connect the dots and ask them. Many organizations made zero effort to validate her claims. Not a single decision maker checked anything about her claimed background. Finally the parents stepped forward.
We live in a crazy world!
Amazing, 20 years, and not a single person came forward to blow the whistle. No one does their job, no references, no background checks. All lies. And acceptable.
I had an awesome black coworker. He’d been married and after two children his wife divorced him and went the welfare queen route with seven or eight children by different fathers. He stayed local making a fraction of what he could have made if he’d moved so he could be near his kids. Then his fifteen year old daughter got pregnant by a twenty-one year old who moved away to New York. He sat in his cube, opposite mine, and cried. When he told one of his friends he said, “What can you expect; raised in a house where everybody she saw was pregnant an unmarried?”
The importance of father figures in the lives of teenagers is very important - even for elephants.
http://loe.org/shows/segments.html?programID=00-P13-00050&segmentID=7
http://thesestonewalls.com/gordon-macrae/in-the-absence-of-fathers-a-story-of-elephants-and-men/
Certainly the fake black woman came from a weird family. The mother is a bit of nut as well - as are the boys.
This is what LBJ’s “Great Society” has bought us
Can’t wait for Bruce Jenner to be voted “ father of the year”
He fathered 6 children after all. He was married to the mothers though
Yes; it was all set out prophetically in George Gilder’s Wealth and Poverty in 1981.
Next came the breakup of the traditional family thanks to the sexual revolution, birth control and no fault divorce, followed by alimony and a nanny state full of support for single moms.
As a result, decade by decade, each new generation loses the traditional truths and understanding of the world that only comes from growing up with the teachings and influence passed down by moms and dads and grandmothers and grandfathers.
Given the accumulated effect, it's no wonder we are so messed up and confused now, stuck on stupid in a sort of mass societal arrested development, lost and growing evermore so.
In the greater cosmic food chain, I fear we are becoming like the herd's sick straggler, soon to be picked off by something hungry.
Actually, everyone who was there and saw it knows, which is why I believe the local residents over the leftist media and the ferals.
The Civil War killed off a lot of dads, but that didn’t cause a breakdown of the traditional family. I took a concerted effort by the progressive politicians installing a nanny state replacement to cause the breakdown of the traditional family. I don’t think the loss of dads in WWII had anything to do with current conditions any more than the Civil War did. This is strictly a man-made phenomenon that was planned in advance and executed by the progressives to intentionally destroy the traditional family.
The Civil War happened in a different world, to a different society with different rules and beliefs.
Plus, we also fought that war here, with ourselves alone, and the damage from it was never fully healed, but instead was (progressively) perpetuated and played forward until the second civil war in the 1960s.
One thing leads to another. Events set up the conditions that lead to the next event and WWII and its aftermath set many things in motion.
I don't think our losing so many men to WWII is the sole cause for the breakdown of the traditional family, but such a loss, along with the war-changed warriors who did come home, made it more likely to happen.
Absent and/or damaged people tend to raise damaged children and I think it's significant that the children of the WWII generation gave us the societal upheaval of the 1960s that lead here.
It's almost as though the enemy got back at the parents by going after their children.
One thing leads to another and if you stay on a road long enough, you'll get to where it goes. The benefit of having elders and their time-tested wisdom means knowing not to take the wrong roads.
Unfortunately for us, that chain of inheritance was broken with WWII.
world War 2 did not cause a breakdown of the family whatsoever. Heavens man! After World War 2 all the GIs wanted was a wife and to make as many babies as humanly possible. The 1950s were as family oriented as any decade in american history. Followed by a massive baby boom. And these were not bastard children either. The Baby Boomers were probably the last great generation for the cohesive conventional nuclear family. It is not until LBJs Great Society nanny-state programs took hold in the 1960s that the conventional nuclear family began to break down. It was the 60s hippies and liberal progressive do-gooders that destroyed the family. World War 2 had nothing to do with it.
Rather I'm saying that WWII created several conditions along with the damage necessary for us to do be willing to do it to ourselves. One thing leads to another.
For whatever reason or reasons, the children of the generation who fought in WWII turned out much differently than their parents had been when they went off to fight in the war. Something didn't get passed along from one generation to the next. Perhaps it was lost in the war.
Looking back in history, I think the war changed everything in the world but human nature and the actual rules the world runs by, and then, so did the peace and prosperity that followed it. I think we are nearing the end of that season and the beginning of another.
It appears that an enemy who couldn't defeat us in war has gotten us to defeat ourselves in peace by getting us to turn ourselves into them...starting with the children of the generation who beat them in war.
The breakdown in the family has been the key to our defeat and reprogramming, an effort begun long before WWII, btw.
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