Posted on 12/05/2014 6:39:10 AM PST by C19fan
Edited on 12/05/2014 9:19:12 AM PST by Admin Moderator. [history]
"My generation of boys is f****d," says Rupert, a young German video game enthusiast I've been getting to know over the past few months. "Marriage is dead. Divorce means you're screwed for life. Women have given up on monogamy, which makes them uninteresting to us for any serious relationship or raising a family. That's just the way it is. Even if we take the risk, chances are the kids won't be ours. In France, we even have to pay for the kids a wife has through adulterous affairs. "In school, boys are screwed over time and again. Schools are engineered for women. In the US, they force-feed boys Ritalin like Skittles to shut them up. And while girls are favoured to fulfil quotas, men are slipping into distant second place.
BKMK
“Love is supposed to MEAN commitment.”
In storybooks, sure. This is the real world, where people fall in and OUT of love all the time. I would prefer a lasting commitment that is not dependent on such fleeting fancies, and the only way to have that is if there are consequences for betraying such a commitment.
And if marriage is “only” God’s concession to us... is the marriage of Christ to the church also “only” a concession?
Or is it the pinnacle of God’s desiring?
The point is, to everybody looking at this question: be sure it is God’s individual calling, not your own personal hurled cynic’s ban.
“Those days are coming back for us females and we are going to want and need good men to survive.”
I agree. The feminist idea that “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” only applies while the good times last. When things start going south in society, “independence” becomes a lot less appealing than “security”.
That is extremely simple: for believers, the downside will be a sensible estrangement from God, a more distant walk. For the world, the worse it gets the worse their society gets. There is no escaping.
“And if marriage is “only” God’s concession to us... is the marriage of Christ to the church also “only” a concession?”
No, but that is a perfect relationship that our marriages can only ever hope to be a shadow of.
“The point is, to everybody looking at this question: be sure it is God’s individual calling, not your own personal hurled cynic’s ban.”
Why? Why can I not look objectively at the state of things and honestly say that marriage nowadays is a sham that I want no part of? You call that cynical, but I call that rational.
And “security” comes by “obedience to God.”
Because you are mixing the world into a test tube that should not have the world in it. That’s why.
Well, those consequences simply don’t seem to be enough to discourage people. Perhaps it’s time to bring back legal consequences for betraying your marriage vows?
I too tried internet dating several years ago. I was very careful and very fortunate that I didn’t wind up with an axe murderer or something. There’s just no way to actually know until you meet them. After several disturbing dates and a stalker incident with one of them, I stopped. There’s an adage about finding love on the internet that I think is right on the money: “The odds are good but the goods are odd.”
I’m stuck living in this world until God calls me home. I can’t rightly pretend that it doesn’t exist and its rules won’t apply to me.
Stepping back to look at the larger picture, the biggest problem is that we Americans still teach young men to desire the good opinion of women, but we have stopped teaching young women to desire the good opinion of men. Indeed, we teach young women the opposite: that the good opinion of men is unnecessary, undesirable, and even harmful to their future career and political prospects.
When an American man meets a woman from another culture (most often from another country) who has grown up being taught to desire his good opinion, the experience is delightful and liberating for him - and often leads directly to marriage. This situation drives American feminists berserk...but they created it.
Men need not worry about making feminists happy, which seems to be the main point of the article. Just ignore them and Be. Good things will come your way...
I agree. God told us not to commit adultery, so people need to obey God on that command and restore marriage to its proper function, rather than this sham they are calling marriage. Until then, there won’t be any security in those relationships.
You ‘own’ a cat? ... Not even, you are the cat’s staff.
Everythinq in this world shows me it is subject to qravity, to the qrave. Everythinq that tries to fly ends up beinq brouqht down eventually by qravity - pulled by the force of earth itself.
After our dauqhter died I faced a daily struqqle between life and death, hope and despair. In the end I had to admit that there are two REAL thinqs that defy qravity - the cross of Jesus, and the stone of His tomb. All the power of Satan and all the will of the flesh couldn’t keep Jesus from willinqly placinq His body on that cross. And the several-ton stone that was rolled down an incline to rest solidly aqainst the door of the tomb refused to stay in place but was instead thrown a distance away from the tomb, defyinq all the qravity that meant to hold it in place.
No matter how qrim thinqs look, this earth can NOT make that cross or that stone just qo away. They stand forever, and they are forever a source of love when my well of love qoes dry. NOTHINQ can take that away from me, or from anybody who will just look and see it for themselves.
He is the one ray of hope in this world, and that ray is so briqht that it can never be quenched.
Those who despair of love or who think that the end qoal of love is to be comfortable would do well to watch the movie, “Fireproof”. It’s really not about marriaqe but about love, what love really is, and where it comes from.
I have never experienced problems with this. My life is
very blessed which I know most of that comes from making the right decisions and always having my dad and mother to guide me. My dad was there when I was young; who could talk to me as I went through things. I saw his honor, the love and the respect that he always had to my mom. I never grew up to look at men like many of the liberal women do now. Their parents (one of the other) must had a angry attitude to pass onto the kid to where continuing the indoctrination from higher education. Though, I do know there is a huge division between men and women today for a various reasons. My friends and siblings come to me to ask for help, a shoulder even, of their personal problems. It’s really sad, things in society are this way now.
The music is a dead give away ... the rat rhythm is designed to mesmerize the thinking brain allowing the message to go straight in without discernment. You see the result of such demonic planning in the violent, hate-filled racism of too many young black people, male and female. I’m certain it has something to do with the elctro circuitry of the brain, the cycles per second the wave cycles the brain mass ...
That’s really a separate matter which isn’t a reason to shun marriage prima facie.
Love never fails. If it fails, it never was love.
Sounds like your G key is busted :-)
The law of gravity certainly does not equate to a divine demand to spend our lives lying upon the ground.
True love can, and should, allow for the possibility of suffering, and not just stoically tolerating it but forging a way forward through it.
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