Posted on 10/21/2014 5:01:25 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
The wedding of Amal Alamuddin to George Clooney in Venice has been one of the most talked about events of 2014. Amal, who is a prominent human rights lawyer in the UK, caused a certain amount of controversy due to her decision to take Clooney's last name as her own. Furthermore, unlike many women with professional careers, she will also professionally be known as 'Amal Clooney' instead of 'Amal Alamuddin'.
Research conducted by YouGov shows that most Americans don't think that women should feel they need to take their husband's last name. Overall, most Americans (57%) think that a woman should take whichever name she wants after she gets married, while 31% think that she should take her husband's last name. 6% think that hyphenation is the way to go, while 3% think women ought to keep their own names. Opinions on whether or not a woman should take her husband's last name are fairly consistent regardless of demographic grouping.
There is variation along party lines. Only 18% of Democrats say that women should take their husband's last names, while 65% think that she should do whatever she wants and 15% support either hyphenation or her keeping the original name. Among Republican voters, however, support for saying that women should take their husband's last names is far higher. 47% of Republicans think that a newly married woman should change her name to her husband's, the exact same percentage who say that a woman should take whichever name she wants (47%).
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I’ve already told my boys to be careful of women with hyphenated names or those with names different than their hubbies if they are ‘married’.
I don’t mind my ice having her maiden name as a middle name. Keeps her family name alive.
[ I would not have married a woman who would not take my last name. ]
My Brother got married to a Gal and they gave the wife’s last name to all of their kids.
Well because his wife was the last of that particular family line and they wanted their family name to live on, my family’s name is very very secure as I have almost a dozen siblings. My brother did clear it with our father first of course.
This is the ONLY exception I can think of that actually makes some sense...
LOL wife auto-text is our friend.
[ Which name do lesbians keep? ]
Whichever name sounds most pretencious????
Well these are red flags that a female is liberal. If she insists on making a political statement with her name, odds are she is liberal in other areas of life as well.
The subject of both the wife’s last name AND the possibility of our children having hyphenated names was raised many years ago. This was my successful argument against it:
When it comes to the bonding that occurs within families, women have a supreme biological advantage over men. Women carry the developing child in their bodies. They bring forth their child into the world, nurse the child while holding it close their bodies, and through these biological and other sociological advantages develop an strong emotional bond with the father, but also with the man that only they know to be the father.
The husband and father, on the other hand, only knows that he has contributed his seed, which he believes to be that which resulted in fertilization, after which everything for the next nine months is completely out of his control. Only his wife knows for sure whether she was faithful, and whether that her husband is the only possible father of his child.
Clearly, when it comes not only to bonding, but also to certainty of parenthood (which also relates to bonding), the woman clearly has many advantages.
Then what advantage to I, as a male, have when it comes to this? The one and only advantage that has been bestowed upon me is the tradition of a shared family name. When my wife and my child share my name, that shows a level of commitment that helps enable me to experience something close to the same level of bonding and confidence that comes very easily to a woman, with all the advantages she has.
So please, please, don’t take away the one thing that i have! Sometimes, there are good reasons for our traditions, and in this case, I know that there is a good reason for my wife and child to take my family name - as it will give me some level of near equality with regard to all of these emotional dynamics that relate to the bonding that occurs within families. It will make me a better husband and a better father.
Sounds like an episode of Jerry Springer or Maury Povich figuring out how everyone is related,..........
[ The outcome? We are one generation away from inbreeding. Seriously. I had two sisters that, by their senior years, each had two sons. The father of both of the sisters’ first baby is the same guy. The father of both of the sisters’ second baby was the first father’s brother. Figure that out. One baby daddy is dead. I think the first. ]
I think there was a recent study that in some big inner cities there is a high risk of gving birth to your half brother’s kid.
my property doesn’t get a last name. or any name period.
you tell family by if they’ve got the same name. duh. and for identifying kids and their parents easily.
my animals are family and they have last names.
See my post #16 for my humble opinion on this topic overall.
Being fairly traditionalist, I really like what you said; I guess I’ve never thought of that perspective before. Thanks!
We have an added complication regarding names here in Mexifornia. In Mexico, and in all Latin American countries, people’s last name (apellido) is the name of your father followed (without a hyphen) by the name of your mother. In the ordinary course of a day you go by the last name of your father. Married women do not take the name of the husband. If Mary Smith marries John Jones she remains Mary Smith. For formal occasions, like when she gets her picture in the society page, she will be called Mary Smith de Jones.
The president of Mexico in Pena Nieto (I don’t know how to type the tilda that should go over the “n” in Pena. Bill O’Reilly always calls the Mexican president by the wrong name. O’Reilly calls him “Nieto” whereas the current Mexican president should be called “Pena” or “Pena Nieto.”
Here in California and other parts of the West there are many monuments that are named after the mothers of Spanish explorers.
I agree.
It’s a bad sign if they won’t. And it’s also a bad sign if they want to hyphenate two names.
Marrying a woman like that is asking for trouble.
I usually get one of two reactions when I tell that story - either appreciation like you expressed, or someone telling me “what a load of crap”!
Usually the latter comes from people who know me, as I have a reputation for being a fairly clever shyte shoveler. And while it’s possible I may have been thinking along those lines when I created that narrative, upon reflection, I also now think it has a lot of merit.
I guess that really makes me the king of BS, when I start to believe my own!
Nope. Doesn’t make sense to me.
Don’t need to take their paychecks either...
Beware the woman with a hyphenated surname.
Me too.
So what if Ms. Smith-Jones marries another person with a hyphenated surname? Whose name(s) do they choose? Madness.
No, that does not make sense......
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