I learned how to avoid that personally. I am completely out of the decision loop on family inheritance. If I get something, nice. If I don’t get something, life will go on.
I don’t have to live with myself. The people who would cheat me out of my inheritance would have to live with themselves.
I can live with that.
I’ve seen families do all sort of idiotic things. Some of it makes no sense whatsoever. It’s just mean vindictive payback in some instances for absolutely nothing.
It’s a shame really, what people do to those they should care about.
The thing is that the family members who grab the most money will justify it by saying if they didn’t do it, someone else would. My BIL’s bachelor uncle passed away suddenly and before the day was over, kin who didn’t give a hoot about him were in his house taking anything of value.
We did the same thing. Stayed out of it until when hubby’s dad started getting dementia his sister put him in a home. We wanted to know how she did that since hubby was supposed to be the designated trustee with POA etc. Found out she took him down and had him change it to her.....while he had dementia. She then immediately stole all his money. Yeah the fight was on. We eventually won in probate court but by then Dad had passed. We’lll never speak to his sorry azzed sister again. The minute she put dad in the home he went downhill fast. In our opinion she hastened his death by a good 2 yrs or so.