The thing is that the family members who grab the most money will justify it by saying if they didn’t do it, someone else would. My BIL’s bachelor uncle passed away suddenly and before the day was over, kin who didn’t give a hoot about him were in his house taking anything of value.
Yes, I’ve seen it. I’ve seen men desperate for attention or loyalty from their spouses change their wills at the last minute, favoring a person with months invested over blood relatives with decades invested too.
People go bat —— crazy at the thought of some little bobble that didn’t mean squat to them the last 40 years too.
It’s a real mess. I believe living wills or assigning executors can help, but event then you find some unscrupulous people.