Posted on 04/06/2014 7:30:19 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Women feel invisible to the opposite sex at the age of 51, it emerged yesterday.
A detailed study of 2,000 women revealed a large percentage felt they no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Many even went as far as to admit they felt ‘ignored’.
The women claimed their confidence plummeted after hitting 50 and blamed greying hair, having to to wear glasses or even struggling to find fashionable clothes.
The lifestyle study, commissioned by herbal remedies company, A.Vogel, also found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt ‘completely unnoticed’ by the opposite sex.
More than half said they felt ‘left on the shelf’ and that they’d been ‘judged negatively’ because of their age.
Health expert Eileen Durward, who provides advice and support to women through the A.Vogel website and helpline, said: ”The results show a worrying decline in confidence and self-worth in women when faced with the prospect of growing older.
”The world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy.
“These women are not invisible and neither are their concerns.
”They are often the driving engine behind many a family, juggling careers, looking after older relatives and bringing up children.
”All the while dealing with the ageing process and changes brought on by the menopause.
”They need to be supported, not made to feel washed up.”
The study also found just 15 per cent of women over 45 could claim they had high or very high confidence while, sadly, nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all.
The biggest reason for a decline in self-belief was the feeling that their image had deteriorated.
A dejected four in ten said not getting attention from men like they used to was a factor, more than half had felt intimidated by the presence of younger women at a social event.
A concerned six in ten of the 2,000 studied felt modern life is geared toward a focus on younger women while 46 per cent thought that a lot of what older women go through wasn’t seen or spoken about.
The research also examined the effect the menopause has on women’s confidence as they age.
The results showed around one in five who had experienced menopausal symptoms had difficulty in finding answers to the questions they had about the changes they were facing.
In fact, only 13 per cent felt women were well supported in the lead up to the menopause.
The research, which also involved 500 men, showed many have a ‘head in the sand’ approach to the menopause.
Eileen Durward, who is also an expert on menopause, added: ”Women need to know they are not alone and there are things they can do to help themselves.
“Hot flushes are a good example of something that can have a real impact on confidence, especially in social situations or at work.
”Many women don’t realise that simple steps, like breathing slowly or taking a herbal remedy containing sage, can provide relief.”
Fit, smiling, confident older women still turn MY head; but not with the neck-snapping suddenness of younger hotties.
Sad, isn’t it?
Boo hoo.
Instead of blaming men, start complaining to TV and movie producers, and magazine editors. They worship youth and discard middle age and older.
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I thought you were just making a pun with “udder”.
I thought you were just making a pun with “udder”.
When I see large breasts, I actually really do think of an udder. Like I said in a previous post, I’m not a “breast man”.
I appreciate any woman who puts the time into making herself look good no matter the age.
if she does the short “convenient” haircut and wears the manly Hillary Clinton pantsuits in over to cover her out shape flabby body and calls whining and nagging calling it like it is, then who really wants to even be around her.
Don’t forget, there are other reasons for women to have fake breasts - such as when they get a mastectomy due to cancer. It’s not always done because of vanity.
I have recently had some of those experiences. We have a Mercedes and a Jaguar. I have been at the gas station filling up when young men, much younger than me, have made it a point to talk with me. I mentioned it to my 35 year old niece and she said....they were hitting on you, that’s the new thing, hit on older women who have money. I laughed that I didn’t even recognize it as such.
Don’t forget, there are other reasons for women to have fake breasts - such as when they get a mastectomy due to cancer. It’s not always done because of vanity.
But that’s not the reason this woman got hers.
It was bad, divorce is very traumatic for men, even though I made out very in the divorce all things considered.
I will never marry again I went all J_Random Freeper about women. In her case I would not give her a bone if she was begging in the streets, God forgive me I cannot forgive treachery.
/johnny
I bought her six but you remember the old saying about the looking good and smelling good.
Thank you. I am Blessed beyond measure! :)
Well duh! Nature is what nature is. Men are always going to find the youngest and hottest woman they can find. It has been and will always be that way.
Not exactly. The 50’s are a transitional time. I see a lot of couples split in the 50’s..
What men want is sex. Yeah they want other things but women can provide that one thing exclusively. Sex gives women leverage over men, especially if the man tends to be monogamous. The problem comes when the woman decides to end sex. She loses the leverage. She starts to see him “disengage”. Previously, he said “I better cooperate or she might cut me off”. Now he says “She cut me off, why bother listening to her?”.
Her reasoning is “He should do what I want even though he doesn’t want to do it because he loves me”. His riposte is “She should have sex with me even though she doesn’t want to do it because she loves me”.
That is the impasse. Remember, all the woman offers him is sex. Everything else he can get for himself these days. My experience is that a lot of men are actually forsaking monogamous relationships in favor of “hanging out with the guys”.
You can flip the roles here BTW. There are a lot of porn widows out there.
Bump
As a boomer woman, I think your generalization is too broad. (No pun intended.) The husband would most definitely tell you that I worth it. And I cherish him, as well.
He is the head of the household, and we have what used to be considered the traditional division of labor. He does not cook, clean, or do laundry, and I don’t take care of the cars, the budget, or the lawn. Oh, yeah, and I wait on him all the time. I have to go now because he wants a beer. :)
As a boomer woman, I think your generalization is too broad. (No pun intended.) The husband would most definitely tell you that I worth it. And I cherish him, as well.
Perfect!
My husband wouldn’t know what to do without me, either, and I adore him, too.
“Boomer” has nothing to do with it and neither does “woman”.
Some people are keepers and some just have to be thrown back into the lake. :-)
I have to go now because he wants a beer. :)
Lol!
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