Posted on 02/26/2013 9:45:41 PM PST by Washi
Six-year-old Coy Mathis explains her predicament in the simplest of terms:
I want to go to school. We play games at recess, the first grader said Tuesday.
But the transgender girl is being home schooled this semester because she has been denied access to the girls bathroom at Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8, her parents say.
New York-based Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund attorneys said they filed a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division on behalf of her parents Kathryn and Jeremy Mathis, saying Coy has been discriminated against.
Forcing Coy to use a different bathroom than the girls, is targeting her for stigma, bullying and harassment, said Michael Silverman, TLDE attorney and executive director. He said that Colorado law prevents schools from discriminating against transgender students.
(Excerpt) Read more at gazette.com ...
Come to think of it when my daughter was four or five she used what I thought were âpretendâ scissors and cut most of the hair off the sides of her head! The half mullet that was left was already way out of style :) and the hairdresser basically said âstart overâ and cut her hair very short. She was a Tom girl, played rough then and is athletic now. And that little girl in ripped, grassed stained jeans and T-shirts got called a boy a lot. But that didn’t make her a boy! She’s now into dresses and has long hair, a beautiful, feminine girl who can still kick butt when called upon! But definitely still a girl! Could you imagine some nut job parent deciding for their kid at three that they’re a different gender and convincing them of
it? How horrible! All of the kids childhood pictures— he’ll be dressed as a girl!
Besides dealing with Coys challenges, another of the triplets, Lily, contracted meningitis at age 4 months, and is disabled.
Is this when the parents decided that they needed to "replace" Lily?
Isaiah must have left off
Woe unto them that call male female, and female male.
the parents told the child s/he couldn’t have any body change operations until s/he is an adult. So far s/he hasn’t had any meds. It’s all been attitude and clothes and other social affectations.
So was he born with both parts? I know a girl that was in my school that that happened to. She was a little “butch” looking but turned out to be a model and a beautiful woman. I think at some point she had surgery to remove the “male” parts. Not sure if this is what happened to this child though.
So did she show her penis to someone at school? How did anyone find out?
I've heard of such a thing before (actually, I think here at FR was where I first read of such a thing).
What if you have a child who simply and consistently insists from infancy that he is a girl. What if you try to gently prod him in the direction of being what he is biologically, but no matter what you do, he insists he's a girl and not a boy, and won't be cast into a male identity no matter what you say or do? What do you do then?
It seems to me that such children do exist - like children who are born with Down's Syndrome, or autistic, or without feet, or as conjoined twins.
I think they are rare, but I think some do exist. And for those it seems to me that there is no way parents will ultimately force them to live as their biological gender.
So what do you do?
More from the article:
Coy was identified as a male at birth, but since age 18 months has insisted she is a girl, and has attended school as a girl since December, 2011. Her teachers referred to her as a girl, and she dressed like one and used the girls bathroom, her mother says.
At 18 months of age Coy gravitated to girl things and very much disliked boy things, Mathis said. She liked tutus and makeup and dresses. Coys brother was all boy, who liked monsters, and trucks and roughhousing.
We had two boys with the same clothes and toys and they were so different. Coy was growing up very much a girl. We could compare the two and knew that we werent causing Coy to like certain things. We decided to let her just be who she is.
When she was two and a half, Coy was anxious if she left the house dressed as a boy. She wanted princess dresses and hair bows. If it was jeans and a polo shirt you could just see the happiness drain from her face, Mathis said.
At age four, she asked them to take her to a doctor to fix her body, Mathis said.
By then, Mathis said she was expecting that conversation. I was sad. Its not something an innocent four year old should think of. They told her she could go to the doctor, but that she couldnt alter her body until she was an adult. That satisfied her.
Mathis said her husband, who is a former Marine and disabled veteran, took more time to accept it.
But then they decided that not letting Coy be who she was would cause her harm.
They consulted a psychologist, doctor and other parents of transgender children and support groups.
The article says Coy was born a boy. Genetically and outwardly Coy is male. But inside, mentally and most likely physically (with brain structure), Coy is a girl. That is what transgendered is: you are genetically one gender, but feel completely as the other gender. They are *not* hermaphrodites - they have fully formed sexual organs for their genetic gender. But some studies have shown that the brain structure is that of the opposite gender, leading to the person feeling as if they were born the wrong gender.
I'm not a doctor, and frankly don't know anything about it. I'm just thinking out loud. What if in rare instances there are people whose brain structure is so opposite that they simply are never going to accept being their biological gender? Like the various kinds of people I mentioned before, or like (as some others have mentioned) people born with both sets of organs?
What does one do then?
Who dreams up these absurd headlines?
In the rational world, I can't imagine how a 6-yr-old can be deemed a "transexual." No matter how they try to spin it.
Adult perverts screwing up another kid.
If you’re going to push this crap, do it elsewhere!
Dr Joseph Mengele was a professional.
Wait until these sickos have marriage equality.
I can't presume to know the right thing to do, but I certainly can figure out the positively wrong thing to do...
make a national federal case out of it!
One comes to a Christian based web site and presents a moral dilemma in order to present their true agenda.
Well, I’m not really intending to push anything, Jim. I frankly don’t have any answers. And I’m not pretending to.
Nor am I making any excuses at all for parents who, at the first sign of Johnny wanting to play with dolls, proclaim him a “she.”
I’m just noting that in RARE instances there are some odd things in the world.
On kind of a different note, are you familiar with the Hensel twins?
I didn't bring up the topic. I only asked some fairly obvious questions.
Are Christians not capable of considering moral dilemmas? Or are Christians supposed to pretend that moral dilemmas don't exist?
The world is looking for answers, and some of the questions people have, have to do with moral dilemmas.
I would rather see the church have answers to people's questions, than not. And I don't think we find answers by sticking our heads in the sand and avoiding the questions.
Coy was identified as a male at birth, but since age 18 months has insisted she is a girl.
How exactly does an 18 month old determine that he/she is the wrong sex without outside influence? I graduated H.S. in 1981 and there was one guy that we all figured he way gay, but he tried out for sports and failed miserably but he tired. The idea of him using the girls restroom or locker room would have gotten the school sued if not worse.
I don’t give a damn about the one in ten million flukes. We’re not going to turn our society upside down and inside out for these people!
What church are you talking about?
Okay. That’s a fair enough answer.
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