A Lesbian Mother's Complaint: I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day

Slate ^ | 07 May 2010 | Erika Milvy

[Lorianne]

As the toddlers say, I don't want to share. ___ A few years ago, my daughter and I were browsing through the card kiosk, trying to select a Mother's Day card. "Mom you're the best!" read one. "#1 mom" raved another. "Queen mother!" pronounced yet another. I got to choose because she couldn't yet read, and I chose none of the above. Let's go home and make homemade cards, OK?

On cream-colored card stock, those bards at Hallmark have put their finger on the problem I have with Mother's Day: For me, it can't be about bests and greatests and onlys and queen bees. It can't be all about the superlative me. My child has two moms. And while Mother's Day may strike some as an occasion for our family to double our pleasure/double our fun, the second Sunday in May has become the thorn in my bouquet of roses. I don't particularly feel like sharing the holiday.

Mother's Day aside, I don't even like to share the term mommy. I find it a little jarring when I hear my partner on the phone saying, "This is Nora's mother…" And I'm always aware—when my daughter and I are out and about—that when I say, "We should call mama" or "Mama's waiting for us" that, to an eavesdropper's ear, I am someone other than this child's mother.

[albie]

What a sickening article. Got through the 1st page and read enough.

[Izzy Dunne]

I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day

People have been doing that ever since Mother's Day was invented - you mean to tell me you cannot figure out how?

[longtermmemmory]

A child has ONE mother and ONE father.

No legal play fiction will change that reality.

[Cletus.D.Yokel]

My child has two moms.

Epic fail stretching back to elementary school biology. Your child has 1 mom.

[Responsibility2nd]

[albie]

“I don’t particularly feel like sharing the holiday”.

...then go have an addadictome operation and be the Daddy!

[GeronL]

hahaha

These people are not playing with a full deck. She likes women sexually. We get it. Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish.

[GadareneDemoniac]

Is there no end to these peoples’ narcissism? Do we have to re-invent the language for them, now? So they can feeeeeel OK about themselves?

[Cletus.D.Yokel]

“I don’t particularly feel like sharing the holiday”.

Probably an activist. Narcissists, all of them. Me, me, ME! [dammit]

[stinkerpot65]

Not exactly sure how time works in hell, but I bet after the first million years, a pervert’s Mother’s Day emotions in 2010 won’t seem so important.

[GeronL]

I’m not even going to click the link, the posted excerpt is enough for me.

Which one is the #2 mom?

lol

A whole new imaginary world.

[RichInOC]

For some reason, I’m picturing William Sanderson as Larry from “Newhart” introducing his mother Dara and his other mother Dara...

[BenKenobi]

Indeed, the child has a mommy and a daddy. Perhaps you wouldn’t have to share if you found your own, no?

[Old Seadog]

Ohhh! The horrible problems of being a lesbian parent. My heart goes out to this poor lady.

[RobinOfKingston]

... I Want ...

In two words the pathology is defined.

[ReneeLynn]

Oh, of all the foolishness.

[Responsibility2nd]

She thinks she has problems on Mothers day? Just wait till Fathers Day.

 

Maybe she can buy her kid a bib:

 

[colorado tanker]

No problem. If your partner looks like this, just call her daddy.

[pillut48]

There ARE consequences for blatant sinfulness, sweetie.