"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus
This is an important topic. While I agree with Dennis here considerably, I would like to hear his comments on mood. I don’t think mood should be a frequent consideration, but I do believe it can be an honest consideration.
Nor anywhere else. Ever. I am tired of being told that women don't have sex drives.
I determined that the four prime motivations of all humans was/is;
Get stoned
get laid
eat
sleep
Over the years, I've continually updated those four and found that they really haven't changed that much.
Love is a decision, and the magic and romance happens daily/nightly as I/we discover ...
We chose wisely.
3:45 AM .. what the hell am I doing awake at this unGodly hour, commenting like this?
Sex? ....I seem to have some vague memories of that......
There are also a lot of men that think/expect women to be like them.
I loved this article! I can’t wait for part II. When you get older you realize these things. At least my husband and I have. You never hear the words “make love” anymore. Everyone talks about “having sex”! It drives me crazy to hear young people talk like that. I think they have no clue how good it can be when you “make love” and take the time to enjoy each other!
I can’t wait to show this article to my husband!
Mr. Prager should grow up.
Women don’t necessarily “deny” their husbands sex. He makes married sex sound like something that is a given, paid for one time on the wedding day. Worse, he seems to make a threat: if you don’t . . . Sex shouldn’t be a threat, a weapon, or relegated to a bodily function.
Remember that if you want to change a woman’s mood, you should talk to her or get her to talk to you.
The other side of the coin is that women don’t function like men. We have not been conditioned to react sexually to the same cues. Our bodies are slower to become aroused: imagine being asked to perform immediately after sex - nearly every doggone time - and you’ll understand the woman’s physiology a little bit better.
Another thing, sex wakes us up — just the opposite of a man’s reaction, again.
Quite a bit of this “need” is conditioning, btw. I hear of men raised in Mexico who think they need sex several times a day - if they are the least bit aroused, they believe they *need* sex.
Fascinating article. On the one hand, I agree, on the other I don’t. You can’t change biology and you certainly can’t change the way women look at men.
Being married in the long term means sacrifice for both parties. And it’s the lot of the married male to sacrifice quietly for the greater good. That’s just the way it is. If you can’t accept that, then as a male you should probably refrain from marriage.
This article goes a long way to explain why younger men are choosing not to marry and why cohabitating is so popular. It’s not so much unwillingness to commit to a relationship, it’s the unwillingness to commit to a long term relationship where you’re going to have to make unheralded sacrifices. Everyone wants a gold star to reward their good behavior, and you’re just not going to get one in a marriage.
And marriage is certainly not about sex. To a lot of men, sex is a primary motivation and as such I think they would be wise to either reconsider it’s importance, or failing that, stay single.
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I REALLY think Prager has lost it.
‘Townhall’ should stick to politics and not the politcs of sex. . .
6. Then there’s the woman who knows that if her husband truly wanted sex, he’d have taken out the trash and helped with the dishes.
People that have a rich and rewarding marriage "get it". Those that look at this article and scoff should start looking for a good divorce lawyer.
Having been married to the same woman for more than two score years, I find the article by Dennis Prager to be right on!
In some cases women know this and use sex as a weapon to punish their spouse for whatever reason. When we hear of a divorce or separation, the question of the health of the sexual relationship of the estranged couple comes up.
Furthermore, in today's world with most married women with their own careers and work responsibilities, I can understand their not being in the mood owing to physical and emotional exhaustion from commuting and working daily. Watching couples struggle because of the new work ethic for women, makes me glad I did not have to deal with that dimension of a relationship.
i’d like to buy whoever wrote this a steak dinner
For men sex IS more of a body function that requires regular attention, one way or another. The prostate requires draining on a regular basis, or it causes insanity. Any man will agree with that statement. That is a fact, and there is no choice.
Animals? Well that is a little more than degrading regarding men’s nature, but men are more in touch with their animal nature, without which there is no sex, love or marriage. And as the article mentions, sexual restraint is a direct result of loving a particular woman.
Maybe men have difficulty understanding women because they are so different, but contrary to what they believe women have even less idea as to what men are and they have even less incentive to want to understand unless they really truly want their man to be happy because of the traditional roles of men as the aggressor/initiator and women as the chooser, and this article is right on. This article is required reading, and thanks for posting it.
This impressed the First Lady who remarked to the farmer "Perhaps you could point that fact out to Mr. Coolidge."
The President, on hearing this, looked to the farmer and said simply, "Same hen?"
"No, of course, not," The farmer explained. "The rooster services hundreds of hens."
"Perhaps you could point that out to Mrs. Coolidge," replied the President.