Anyone look familiar?
Posted on 02/24/2008 5:23:22 AM PST by Huntress
Bridesmaids may soon be forced to sign contracts agreeing not to put on weight or get pregnant before a friend's wedding.
One in five brides-to-be is so concerned that her bridesmaids might let her down that she would ask her maid-of-honour to sign a written "pre-nuptial agreement", according to a new poll.
A bridesmaid contract is the latest American-style trend for brides
Despite the fact that 61 per cent of brides picked a best friend as their choice of bridesmaid and 49 per cent chose their sister, 48 per cent would sack a bridesmaid who failed to stick to the rules.
The survey of 1,000 women, commissioned by You & Your Wedding magazine, asked women which clauses they would put in their contract.
It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant or changed their hairstyles before the big day.
A series of suggested clauses included that bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol or make any advances towards "inappropriate male guests" - or the groom.
Many women who had already married reported stories of their bridesmaids letting them down on their big day.
One woman said her maid-of-honour left her dress at a service station on the way to the wedding after deciding she didn't like it, while another revealed a bridesmaid had left 30 invitations unsent in her desk drawer.
Colette Harris, editor of You & Your Wedding magazine, said: "Planning weddings can be a stressful time for brides and while our contract is meant to be tongue-in-cheek, the survey demonstrates that issues with bridesmaids are of concern to many readers.
"Perhaps official contracts are the way forward for brides struggling to keep the peace."
Siobhàn Craven-Robins works with hundreds of brides a year in her role as wedding planner and has organised the weddings of celebrity clients including Joan Collins and Barbara Windsor.
"There has been a spoof contract like this on the internet in recent years but I'm not sure if the brides I know would actually use the real thing," she said.
The bridesmaid's contract is the latest American-style trend for brides. It follows the opening in Berkshire of the country's first bridal boot camp for women determined to shape up to fit into their dresses.
Trudy Dixon, the director of Bridal Boot Camp, said while many of the bridesmaids that work out at the boot camp had complained about the colour or style of the dresses chosen for them, few brides she knew would resort to such draconian measures to keep their ladies in line.
"I've been a bridesmaid several times and if I was presented with a contract, I would suggest they found another friend to do the job" she said.
My hand to God, I am not making this up.
My mother’s first wedding dress - vintage 1964 - she cut up and made into a bassinet cover for me (vintage 1968).
Her second wedding dress - circa 1974 - became bathroom curtains.
Oh, dear...
My three handsome tall blond sons looked absolutely wonderful in their light blue tuxes!
I did my own.
If they were mature decent people with mature decent friends this wouldn’t be an issue. If you can't pick your brides maids and make it through a wedding ceremony what are the chances you can pick a husband and have it last a year much less a lifetime?
Last wedding I went to I had to wear a tux, but then,I was Father of the Bride.
Anyone look familiar?
I happened to swerve into that several years ago, and just started laughing.
It’s a classic. Mostly BS, but funny.
It would end all men’s affairs anyway.
So the married female whores can keep-on-a-cheatin'?
You are all over the place here.
If she uses sex as a bargaining chip divorce the bitch.
That is a prom picture not a wedding picture.
When a married man is cheating the girl is ALWAYS after the money. So if there was no money she’d take her whore ways elsewhere.
My stepmother insisted on a big wedding. We wanted something smaller and I also did it partly for my mom. My Dad also has some political and social standing so it was kind of a bit necessary in our area for us to have a big wedding and I am the only girl.
But 10 years on June 20th we’re very happy with 3 beautiful children.
The thing most people remember is my Dad paying tribute to my stepfather in his toast at the rehearsal dinner.
We had a rather large wedding party. My best friend since I was 8 was my maid of honor, I had 8 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls. We had a best man, 8 groomsemen and 2 ring bearers.
We also had the whole enchilada Catholic mass. The thing I liked best about it is we were able to have our aunts and uncles be a part of the wedding by doing things. Both cases the aunt and uncle were like a second set of parents to us.
I was an emergency bridesmaid once when the original bridesmaid broke her leg 3 days before the wedding. I was supposed to be the soloist and was going to wear the same dress as the bridesmaids anyway and I was asked to do double duty so the number of bridesmaids/groomsmen matched.
You are clueless.
Women cheat everyday with married men that have no money.
Some women gain five or ten pounds a year after marriage. After fifteen or twenty years it adds up and maybe he is now married to someone he never would have dated. Hell, someone he never would have given a second glance.
It happens and it ain’t always about the money for the new squeeze.
The only thing I’ve ever been asked is I was in a wedding where the headpieces for the attendants were designed around our hairstyles and special made so I was asked to not change my hairstyle before the wedding.
My bridesmaid dresses were simple and beautiful black dresses that they’ve all worn since. Heck I ordered one for myself I liked it so much.
Vanity oh! vanity! thy name is woman.
So you’re saying it’s okay for a man to go sleep with a whore if his wife gains weight? THERE IS NEVER JUSTIFCATION FOR IT. The man is always a worthless slimeball with no morals and the woman is always a whore. No decent human being has ever been involved in a relationship where one is married to another.
I know vows mean nothing to you but taking vows before God mean something to me. The vows aren’t “until some whore comes along” Or “until I decide to be a whore” they are until death us do part.
When a married person is involved NO EXCEPTIONS the woman is a whore abd the man is a worthless piece of trash.
Of course you’d beat a woman if she gained 10 pounds.
Decent men work with their wives instead of abusing them. Worthless trash who hate their wives and don’t care about their kids cheat.
They should have everything especially their kids taken from them. They don’t give a dang about the kids so taking the kids away won’t matter.
THEY ALWAYS HATE THE KIDS. Because if they loved their kids they wouldn’t bed the first whore who said yes they’d work on their marriage.
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