Why Are Stepmoms Always the Target? Remarried Children: Women Feel Judi Nathan's Pain

The New York Daily News ^ | 3/8/07 | Jane Ridley

[freedomfiter2]

It takes both the harlot and the harlotmonger for that particular equation. I once read that when a man marries his mistress he creates a vacancy for future employment.


I limited my comments to the woman since that's what this thread is about. A man would be pretty stupid to marry a woman he cheats with. Anyone who will cheat with you will cheat on you.

[girlangler]

"my kids flat out told me they would NEVER accept a step-parent, whether one of us died or divorced. i believe them and i can't blame them."


Those are some really selfish kids, if they are adults and talk like this. Guess they prefer a widowed parent spend the rest of his/her life lonely than risk losing a dime of their "deserved" inheritance.

Anybody that selfish would probably not want to be burdened with taking care of that lonely parent when this parent becomes older and dependent. After all, wouldn't want them to have to "accept" something that makes them uncomfortable or puts them out in any way.

Sad.

[MonTinaGirl]

Rudy's quote:"My wife is a loving and caring mother and stepmother," he announced. "She's done everything she can."

Oh the poor harlot. She knew she was splitting up this kid's family.

If I remember correctly, this quote was followed by something like, "The responsibility lies with me."

Do you think he's lying, or do you really believe the responsibility for "splitting up this kid's family" rests with "the harlot"?

Nothing at all to do with Donna "Vagina Monologues" Hanover, of course. Nope. She was the perfect wife.

[xsmommy]

my kids are 12, 15, and 18 and are conscious of the fact that they are in a loving, supportive traditional family when so many of their friends are products of divorced, dysfunctional and blended families. i think their feelings are directly related to seeing how much better off they are, as far as a family situation, than those of their peers. but feel free to rage on about selfish children. mine are stable, well balanced and loving.

[Howlin]

Oh, I had one of those!

[Afronaut]

Another post by the "Fifteen Percent"

[freedomfiter2]

Do you think he's lying, or do you really believe the responsibility for "splitting up this kid's family" rests with "the harlot"?


Well, if Rudy was only cheating by himself, I doubt his son would have a problem.

[khnyny]

["always follow the money trail."

AMEN. Great post. Andrew has an axe to grind, publicly. And I suspect his mother is behind it.]



LOL. Your interpretation is really funny. Perhaps Judith Nathan is/was the person interested in Rudy's money and lifestyle. Judith decided to have an affair with a married, wealthy, powerful, very public figure. I'm sure she'll make a great First Lady./s

[wintertime]

The break up of a marriage is a serious financial blow to a spouse who has been betrayed by adultery.

The offended spouse should be able to sue the adulterous spouse and his fling into in court for big bucks.

There would be far fewer office trysts if the adulterous men and women involved thought they might have to fork out a quarter of a million or more if caught.

[Howlin]

Don't let the pesky facts get in the way of this full throttled feeding frenzy.

[MonTinaGirl]

Maybe the word "homewrecker" has fallen by the wayside as more people realize that a healthy home is nearly impossible to "wreck". While it may seem fashionable to blame the "homewrecker", these situations are typically far more complex than the word implies.

Where are we, Saudi Arabia?

[Howlin]

In North Carolina, they can sue; one woman did and won a million dollars; it costs half that to get that verdict though.

The next cases that were filed all LOST; there are always two sides to a divorce.

[CJ Wolf]

My first wife died when my two kids were quite young. 2 and 4. My new wife has done everything she can to be their "mother", but it's not always peaches and cream.

But you are right it is a broken home, I've tried to do the best to superglue us back together but you can still see the cracks.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

Good point - if there isn't a cheater-in-the-woodpile, then there wouldn't be any possibility of someone being so alluring that a good guy/girl would break his/her marriage vows.

There is enough blame to go around on all sides. Wife #2 probably had some culpability, Rudy was open to adultery, and wife #3 didn't have any moral stance against screwing a married man.

[freedomfiter2]

Maybe the word "homewrecker" has fallen by the wayside as more people realize that a healthy home is nearly impossible to "wreck". While it may seem fashionable to blame the "homewrecker", these situations are typically far more complex than the word implies.


The problem is that marriages that are struggling but would eventually turn out just fine, don't get the chance. It's these cases that fall victim to homewreckers. It's in society's best interest to make homewreckers feel the heat.

[TruthConquers]

Sometimes the Dad and stepmom are asking for it.

My Dad took us away from family and country to come here and go to college. I never got to know either side of my extended families, and there are over twenty cousins I never met because my father didn't want to see them as we grew up. My mom worked hard at thankless jobs for him then went to college herself. We were all in day care, and I baby sat all summer each summer from the age of twelve on up until college. Buy the time I was in college, (all the money I ever earned went to college), dad stated to take vacations alone.

When he decides to get the divorce, he got the house, and doesn't have to share his pension in a 50/50 state. He went out of his way to impoverish my mom. And he marries a woman he dated when he was still married to my mom. At their wedding, there was only one picture taken of his kids, over fifty of her kids. My brothers were asked twice if the hired help could eat at the wedding, because they video taped it and there was no receiving line, so the guests did not know they were his sons. Nice uh.

For years I went to their house on the various holidays and it was the same baloney very time . "Hi wonderful to see you," and they ignore you the rest of the time, then "oh, your leaving?" Yecch. Barf.

When I got married, that was it. I wanted nothing to do with a dad who was so selfish, so self centered. He never did care about his kids and loved her kids, cause they were so much better than we were, they were so much more sophisticated. ( yikes!)

This crap about poor step moms is just that. Crap. Sometimes they are the ones driving the wedge and sometimes it is both of them.

My dad continues to lie about the one time I tried to talk to him about all of this. He lies about his own daughter on purpose. Knowingly. All just to make excuses about his failures and place the blame on me. He can rot.

I will not, and have not ever spoken to him again.
I will not allow those two anywhere near me and my family because they would both do what they can to destroy it.

Bastard.

[khnyny]

Hanover was an actress, but from at least this news account, she did not do the "Vagina Monologues".

http://archives.cnn.com/2000/ALLPOLITICS/stories/05/10/giuliani.marriage/index.html


"Hanover, an actress, has appeared in films including "The People vs. Larry Flynt" and on TV soap operas such as "One Life to Live" and "All My Children." She also is the host of a program on the Food Network, and has done stints as a guest on the television programs "Ally McBeal," "Law and Order" and "The Practice."

Recently Hanover had signed on to be one of three actresses in the saucy play, "The Vagina Monologues." But after Giuliani announced he had cancer, Hanover dropped out, citing "personal family circumstances."

[sr4402]

Oh the poor harlot. She knew she was splitting up this kid's family.

Sounds like ultra judgementalism. My former wife decided she wanted to kill the children and my pastor and I said no. She would not turn from her path nor her unbelief and left me for another man and mental hospitals. An ER nurse became step-mom and rescued my two young girls from the abuse being inflicted on them by their mother (who would do so at any chance).

Be careful when you throw stones in glass houses.

[zip]

ping

[freedomfiter2]

An ER nurse became step-mom and rescued my two young girls from the abuse being inflicted on them by their mother (who would do so at any chance).


I didn't refer to all stepmothers as harlots, only the ones who committed adultery with dad.