Sounds like ultra judgementalism. My former wife decided she wanted to kill the children and my pastor and I said no. She would not turn from her path nor her unbelief and left me for another man and mental hospitals. An ER nurse became step-mom and rescued my two young girls from the abuse being inflicted on them by their mother (who would do so at any chance).
Be careful when you throw stones in glass houses.
An ER nurse became step-mom and rescued my two young girls from the abuse being inflicted on them by their mother (who would do so at any chance).
I didn't refer to all stepmothers as harlots, only the ones who committed adultery with dad.
Were you with your second wife while still married to the first? That is what we are talking about here. Adultery is wrong, if you are that unhappy, just get divorced. If Giuliani had divorced prior to meeting Ms. Nathan, I don't think that the same hostility would be there.
You deserve praise for making the right decision for your children.
My husband stayed with a mentally ill woman for more than 20 years, for his two girls sake.
She made his life was miserable, but he tried to protect (shield) his kids from the reality of her problems.
She eventually committed suicide. I, the stepmother, know I will never be their mother, wouldn't try to be (I am only two years older than his oldest daughter). We are friends though, and they know our home is always theirs, and I am more apt to take up for his kids than he. They know they can call on me and I will be here for them.
I can't imagine the pain of losing a mother that way (the mother arranged for the youngest girl to find her body after her suicide, the daughter only 16 years old).
I have never spoken badly of their mother, and when it comes up I remind them that she was mentally ill and not responsible for her actions, and I would rather have cancer than lose control of my mind. I didn't know her, she died two years before I met my husband. But when it comes up in conversation I tell them their father told me their mother loved them, and of all of her good points he told me about her, and she did have many.
I agree with all these posters, a person who would deliberately wreck a home, with innocent children involved, is sick.
And a wife who would use those children to hurt their father (and yes, my husband's wife did that, told him if he ever left her he'd never see them again)is no better.
I am not defending Guiliani because I am a supporter of his. But because, like you, I think it is easy for people to throw stones in glass houses.
When I married a man 23 years older than me MANY, including my oldest stepdaughter, automatically pegged me a gold digger. But I worked for 20 years, contributed to our income, and am anything but that. Eventually, even the stepdaughter rrealized if she needed support, emotional or financial, she would get it from me, quicker than from her Dad.
From what I read and saw on TV about Guiliani's wife, I would not be surprised to learn he is much better off without her.
Like I said in an earlier post, Ronald Reagan would have never become President if he had to stand the scrutiny of some of the hate Giuliani posters.