Posted on 02/13/2007 10:08:57 AM PST by GottaLuvAkitas1
The question is college , not child support.
After the age of 18 should a parent/parents be responsible for college and living expenses?
When did college become a right and not a privilege?
I agree. People don't appreciate "free" stuff as much as they do if they have to work for it.
I could pay for my 2 girls to go to college. However, they have been informed that college will be their responsibility. (I'll buy them some stuff, but want them to learn the value)
So you agree that parents should be forced to pay for their children's college education?
If you raised a kid too irresponsible to pay their own way in a real subject, there are serious problems.
Required, no. I joined the service, signed up for the VEAP program, made my monetary contributions, served my country, and then went to college.
I know that my brother-in-law is having to pay child support to his 20 year old daughter who is doing nothing but living with his ex-wife.
I don't know what to say, except it's time to make a call to a lawyer.
By the way, my husband put himself through college. He went to a community college for 2 years, and then it took him another 5 years to work and go to college. He finally got his degree after 7 long year, and it paid off immensely. He's done very well for himself (and our family).
No. But I already planned on paying through my daughters' post-graduate education.
I have a requirement in my divorce decree to pay 2/3 of my kids' college expenses. I freely agreed to that at the time because I did not foresee that one kid would look on this as an entitlement and decide she could demand money on the one hand and be horribly disrespectful and cruel on the other.
If I had to do it all over again, or would be advising anyone else, I would not agree to an entitlement for an adult in a divorce. College costs are not a right for a kid. A decent level of respect for a parent should be an absolute minimum. Live and learn.
It became a right because it is now nearly a necessity. After wwII, the rest of the world was a bombed out wasteland and ANY AMERICAN WITH ANY EDUCATION COULD HAVE A GREAT JOB. This is no longer the case. The rest of the world is catching up and you better have a lot of skills or you are dead meat.
"Can't wait to cut the apron strings, huh?
My daughter is 15. In two years her mother and I will send her to the college she has chosen and unless she gets some scholarships we will pay all her tuition, housing, and books. Somewhere in there we'll probably buy her a car and we'll no doubt provide her with monthly allowance so she can buy her necessities. When she's 21 or 22 and has her graduate degree we may help send her to graduate school. Are we forced to do so? Nope. We do it because she's our child and we love her and it's our pleasure to be able to do so. AND BECASUE I CAN'T SEE CUTTING HER OFF FOR THE SOLE REASON THAT SHE TURNS 18, YOU CHEAP SOB."
The parent in question has offered all she can do, but the kid wants more.
Good luck to your daughter.
This is a crock. Most of the money goes to WHITE CHICKS, NOT MINORITIES. Asians don't count and so few blacks and hispanics go to college, it is not a large effect. IT IS THE WHITE CHICKS WHO NOW OUTNUMBER THE MEN.
LOL, food is a necessity. So is a car, a house, medical care, cable TV, TiVo, clothes, etc. All all of those RIGHTS that parents have a legal obligation to cover for an adult child?
Kids have no rights to their parents' income once they reach adulthood, and I would vigorously oppose any attempt by the government to turn adult kids' needs into a right.
If you are a woman and your husband believes in tough love and doesn't think you should pay for your C+ (dope smoking) high school graduates college education, but you think the little darling just needs a little help to shine, and your husband puts his foot down, no problem.
Just divorce him and then get family court to force him to pay you child support (while the little darling lives with you) of at least four years AND pay for his education.
What's not fair about that? ;)
read post 49 on why this no longer works.
Where is the girl's father? Is he being sued as well?
Some people can't afford to pay for college, and it's not about being cheap. College is extremely expensive.
I was fortunate enough to have parents that could afford to send me to college, but my husband was not that fortunate.
At 18, a person can get a job. When I was working at a defense contractor (TRW), quite a few of my co-workers were going to school and working. They were extremely lucky because our company did pay for their tuition.
Some people have to work hard for a college degree. My husband is a much harder worker than I am, and I think it is because he had to work for everything he got. It built a lot of character in him.
wow. that's too bad. any one of those options would be a great help.
"No. But I already planned on paying through my daughters' post-graduate education."
Same here. We are paying with our kids. They have to have a job and help.
I can't imagine one of my kids telling me what I WILL be doing with my money. I think they would lose in the end.
>>Now, in the case of a divorce if before the divorce there was a plan for the kids to go to college, then maybe a parent should be required to pay.<<
Except the "kid" is an adult. This is beyond patently unfair. It is immoral to require a parent to pay for something of this sort. Parents are people too.
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