Posted on 03/25/2006 11:08:03 PM PST by Crackingham
I grew up in a time when two-parent families were still the norm, in both black and white America. Then, as an adult, I saw divorce become more commonplace, then almost a rite of passage. Today it would appear that many -- particularly in the black community -- have dispensed with marriage altogether.
But as a black woman, I have witnessed the outrage of girlfriends when the ex failed to show up for his weekend with the kids, and I've seen the disappointment of children who missed having a dad around. Having enjoyed a close relationship with my own father, I made a conscious decision that I wanted a husband, not a live-in boyfriend and not a "baby's daddy," when it came my time to mate and marry. My time never came. For years, I wondered why not. And then some 12-year-olds enlightened me.
"Marriage is for white people."
That's what one of my students told me some years back when I taught a career exploration class for sixth-graders at an elementary school in Southeast Washington. I was pleasantly surprised when the boys in the class stated that being a good father was a very important goal to them, more meaningful than making money or having a fancy title.
"That's wonderful!" I told my class. "I think I'll invite some couples in to talk about being married and rearing children."
"Oh, no," objected one student. "We're not interested in the part about marriage. Only about how to be good fathers."
And that's when the other boy chimed in, speaking as if the words left a nasty taste in his mouth: "Marriage is for white people."
(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonpost.com ...
Dependent.
Gee, no kidding, really? I'm sorry I didn't post a disclaimer first and say "The fact that there are some people of Mexican Mestizo parentage who have blue or green eyes nonwithstanding, the Hispanic kids I teach definitely remark upon people with blue eyes and casually refer to 'white kids' all the time ..."
I'm just saying that the hispanic kids I know don't consider themselves white, according to their own words. I also included the disclaimer "maybe this is specific to inner city hispanic kids from Los Angeles" but why don't you occupy yourself picking through the rest of my quote to see if there is any other place I could have included a parenthetical or aside.
Read the article in full if you haven't. The author is trying to explain why "marriage is white people" attitude is there, but fails to even consider the government check.
From observing here in Nashville. I would surmise that black women who marry white men are more discriminating in their choices than most white women who couple with black men.
Therefore, black women are smarter by my account..lol
another thing....serial illegitimacy amongst lower class whites is surging..
Chinese, Indians and Kurds seem to be about the only ones around here resisting it.
World ends, women and minorities hit hardest, details at 11...
Nothing at all racist in that statement... </SARCASM>
If in doubt as to my meaning, highlight the spaces flooloint ght "..."
You have a child's view of marriage and the responsibilities that go with it. The fact that you think that only those who need a crutch to get through life get married betrays an astounding lack of maturity and understanding of the real adult world.
Enjoy your cats...give us call if you're ever ready to grow up.
The people I know admit one thing to me. They got married because they didn't want to be alone....and wanted someone to depend on ....oh.....and throw in the extra money. Give me a break.
Not all. Most Mexicans are mestizo, most Puerto Ricans and Dominicans are mixed African/European.
Your incorrect assumptions about me only confirm one thing.
Your incorrect assumptions about me only confirm one thing
OK
Racists at age 6. Geez.
I wouldn't call this child a racists. He's simply stating what he sees as a truthful observation. Think about it if what you see as normal is everyone( or the majority) in your community familial representation is that of momma, siblings, and the occassional booty-call visit from baby-daddy and then you observe another group of people( who by the way also have momma, siblings, booty-call daddy visits by not as pronounced) who marry and daddy is present, what would you conclude?....easy you'd conclude that that's how they do things and this is how we do things. Does that make you a racist? no! Just misguided.
Blacks in America today will unfortunately be overrepresented among the poor as long as they continue to turn their back on successful behaviors using the excuse of doing so would make them white.
When you visit Africa, you see a whole lot of married folk, and few if any of them are white.
As long as teens have babies and quit HS without a male in the household, there will be a Democrat party!
But if a small percentage of blacks were to 'get off the Democrat plantation' and vote Republican, the Dems would be finished!
Mostly tongue-in-cheek sarcasm.
It's OK for black folk to say "white", but if I or my child were to make any statement of fact predicated on a persons skin color, it would be immediately branded as a racist statement.
"If it weren't for the intangibles, the allure of the lovey-dovey stuff, I wouldn't have gotten married. The benefits of marriage are his character and his caring. If not for that, why bother?"
Another example of fighting God. He told us what we should do and now we see why it is better for us. Traditional Marriage is better for our society, and especially for children.
Mark 10:7
"For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;"
Mostly tongue-in-cheek sarcasm.
It's OK for black folk to say "white", but if I or my child were to make any statement of fact predicated on a persons skin color, it would be immediately branded as a racist statement.
I know that you meant it in jest, but it's sad that that's the perception out there and that was the point of my previous statements. These children's perceptions are skewered due to what has been allowed as being the accepted norm within the black community. Where everything that is wrong becomes accepted as the thing to do and fashionable.
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