Posted on 02/12/2006 9:10:43 AM PST by tbird5
The Sunday Times - Britain
The Sunday Times February 12, 2006
Child guru says nurseries harm small children Sian Griffiths ONE of the world’s most popular parenting gurus is to warn that placing children younger than three in nurseries risks damaging their development.
Steve Biddulph, whose books have sold more than 4m copies worldwide, says that instead of subsidising nurseries, which do a “second-rate” job, the government should put in place policies to enable mothers to stay at home with their babies.
The advice signals a reversal of views for Biddulph, an Australian with more than 20 years’ experience as a therapist, whose previous bestsellers include Raising Boys and Raising Girls.
In his new book Biddulph will admit he has changed his mind because of growing evidence of increased aggression, antisocial behaviour and other problems among children who have spent a large part of their infancy being cared for away from home.
He argues that such children may have problems developing close relationships later.
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Fair enough. :-)
A nicely thought-out post, Dusty.
The incredibly wealthy oil exec may not have given him a dime!
We have some friends with the ..'stay at home mom'.. with 3 children, being homeschooled....
..the son's dad is an incredibly wealthy man....
...the son, however, is making it on his own....
Don't be so quick to judge people.
I agree that nurseries are horrible- and I have worked outside of the home (for financial reasons) since having kids. My older kids were with Grandma (my mom) during the day and my youngest (and her soon to be sister) are with their dad (my second husband) during the day (I am the primary breadwinner, although he works a couple of evenings a week for his own spending money and adult time). Despite my working, my kids have never spent a day in daycare.
So much as a society has to happen (without govt. funded programs!) for things to change. People need to be able to survive on one income (whether it's the husband's or the wife's). Sometimes it's a question of cutting back and making sacrifices, sometimes it's not. No fault divorces should be eliminated. The person who chooses to destroy the marriage (whether walking out for no good reason OR for being abusive, addicted, serially unfaithful, etc) should be penalized.
People need to stay close to their extended families when it is healthy to do so. I live 2 1/2 minutes from my parents' home. When my kids are older, they can walk to their grandparents' house in 10 minutes. I have noticed that those in Asian cultures tend to be better about this, many have grandparents living with them who help take care of the children. Don't know if I want to live with either of my parents, BUT I can see the benefits for everyone.
I have noticed with my generation (Gen X) that there is a trend for parents to believe in spending more time with their children than the previous generations had. More and more women are making the choice to SAH when it's financially possible. I also think that some of the children of divorce (current husband) are very aware of the effects of broken families and single moms. Mr. Cat is even more against daycare than I am, having grown up in it. In addition, because he never saw his (divorced from his mom) dad, he wants to make sure he is very much a part of his kids' lives.
LOL, you haven't met my smiling boy.
LOL, our boy has a permanent smile on his face and couldn't be more well-adjusted. I do know, however, that if he had a grump like you for a parent, he would be miserable.
This pastor had a large trust fund. Sorry, I should have mentioned that, but I figured that it was implied in my comment. It has nothing to do with "envy" as some here have suggested; rather it was his dishonesty in having members of his congregation believe that he was somehow a better model of a parent than they were because he "sacrificed" to have his wife at home, when in fact he had multi-millions at his disposable.
I often wonder that myself when I hear people chastise others for bringing children into less that perfect situations...
Yeah, but that was my lifelong ambition. < /sarc >
What an idiotic response.
Abortions, eh? Some people don't agree with that.
"My younger dated a boy this fall from a broken home. Ugly divorce, one of the worst I'd ever heard of... She know understands that he didn't know what a secure relationship looked like and altough she did like him, he wore her down."
When VS and I were going to pre-Cana (Catholic pre-marital school) the priest warned against marrying someone whose parents had divorced - that would be me, the product of a spectacularly broken home. My childhood gave me an absolute determination to get it right and make a safe family for my own children... and we've been married almost twenty-four years now, with four children. So you never know.
Mrs VS
I've never met an argument for cutting taxes that I did not like..............
Sheesh, Ninian. You must think we all have psychic powers.
Do you really think I ~knew~ it would be unhappy and volatile?
Don't be foolish.
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