Posted on 10/19/2005 7:45:02 AM PDT by Airborne1986
Newsweek Oct. 24, 2005 issue - While everyone knows divorce is tough on kids, researcher and writer Elizabeth Marquardt says even when the split is amicable, kids still suffer. For her controversial new book, "Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce," Marquardt spent three years interviewing 1,500 young adults—half from divorced families—who described the painful emotional, moral and spiritual dilemmas they faced. ....
[quoting Ms. Marquardt:]
I'm not against divorce, but the best answer might be to get help and stick it out—especially if you are in a low-conflict marriage. The idea that we know how to do divorce better now leads a lot of adults and children down a really painful path. ...
My intention is not to make divorced parents feel crappy. But we should be able to listen to a child's expression even if it hurts. If a parent can help a child feel less isolated and alone, that would help.
(Excerpt) Read more at msnbc.msn.com ...
In further news it has been reported that he Pope is Catholic and Grant is buried in Grant's tomb....
If you're in a "LOW-CONFLICT" marriage, why would you get a divorce.
Hmmmm...somwhat ties in the below article - wonder if Newsweek will see the link?
Study says churchgoers are wealthier, less likely to divorce, better educated
By Janet Kidd Stewart
Chicago Tribune
Posted October 17 2005
Religion, it seems, pays. But why?
Identifying communities of frequent churchgoers, Massachusetts Institute of Technology economist Jonathan Gruber found higher incomes and education levels and less welfare participation, along with more marriages and fewer divorces than in the general population.
Better watch out, some on FR will jump all over you for criticizing divorce. I agree with you, though...only the MSM would be surprised by this conclusion.
Because you just aren't getting your "needs" met, darnit. We all have "needs", you know, like the "need" to have a spouse who provides a large house, exotic vacations and three SUVs. Or the "need" for the continuation of wild passion for the duration of the marriage...
Anything that demonstrates to the world that the values espoused by those liberal forces that are bound and determined to destroy the America of our Founding Fathers, and not (as they falsely espouse) to liberate captives,... is ok by me
They had to list it as "Shocking" and "controversial" and had to interview 1500 kids to figure out what any rational person knows from talking to just a handful, because this study completely undermines the selfish me culture and PC mantra of radical feminism.
Reality is, unless there is Physical, Psychological or Emotional abuse going on... or behaviors such as addiction, habitual infidelity, or other criminality that threaten everyone... Divorce, when children are involved, is nothing more than selfishness.
Of course this is a shock, as it goes against decades of feminist dogma, that said children are resilient and do not suffer from divorce, or not having a father around.
"Study says churchgoers are wealthier, less likely to divorce, better educated
By Janet Kidd Stewart
Chicago Tribune
Posted October 17 2005"
Here is a link to a thread on that study:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1504599/posts
This is only controversial if one is a moonbat feminist. Time Magazine had another controversial story years back, are men and women different? The answer is obvious to any non-liberal - OF COURSE! Liberalism is a mental disorder.
read later
"In further news it has been reported that he Pope is Catholic and Grant is buried in Grant's tomb...."
And that a rolling stone gathers no moss.
Amen, I say!
Calling Captain Obvious...
In other news, bear poop was found in the woods..
Absolutely correct. I work with a guy who left his wife and two children, aged 12 and 10, and married a former co-worker. When someone asked him why, he said that "she pays attention to me."
His first wife had been very involved with community and school activities and I guess didn't "pay attention" properly. The older child, a girl, is now 17 -- she became promiscuous and still hates her father. The younger one, a boy, has no desire to see his father at all.
This is a small town and it's sad. He could at least have had the decency to wait a few years, until the kids were grown.
Carolyn
I've seen many people in "low-conflict" marriages get divorced. These are situations where there isn't much fighting, where one or both spouses just begin to drift off emotionally. Ennui, restlessness, unsatisfying sex: all of these prod people to think about getting out of a marriage. They think there's a more fulfilling life out there. I agree with the author's assertion that people in marriages like these should stay together for the sake of the children.
A friend who has elementary school children left her husband this month. Cause? She no longer felt love for him. She had started to hang out with work friends in the fast lane at night. Her husband and children are devastated. Makes me incredibly sad but she will not listen.
After 33 years of marriage -- better/worse, sickness/health, richer/poorer -- I'm finding joy and satisfaction that could never have been experienced without commitment, love, and forgiveness. At the same time, I'm more humble than ever about my need for the good Lord to move forward in life and relationships. FWIW, if both grow toward God, there is life -- abundant life. :)
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