Prayer Request

FRmail | July 19, 2005 | Brad's Gramma

[Brad’s Gramma]

Hi everyone....I received a FRmail from someone tonight regarding her son. Since she doesn't appear to be online, I don't feel I can include her screen name. If she wants SHE can let you know who she is.

Here's her FRmail...If it wouldn't be too much trouble would you mind posting a prayer request for my son? He is in crisis right now and may have to be hospitalized on a suicide watch. We aren't sure exactly what is wrong but hopefully will be able to get a full evaluation done now. This little guy is only 7 and has been having difficulties since at least age 3. Thanks so much. Blessings...

OK Prayer Warriors, I KNOW I've been hitting this list a lot lately, and if you want off the ping list, please let me know. It's OK.

But will you PLEASE pray for this poor baby who's hurting so badly? And his family? Thank you!

[Yaelle]

I didn't read this until just now.

My armchair diagnosis is brain damage, possibly from one of the blows he received, possibly in addition to an inherited brain dysfunction in the area of conscience from his bio dad.

I do believe he already has/meets the requirements for Conduct Disorder. Early onset bipolar does involve impulsivity, deep sadness, excitability, etc. but it does not typically involve violence or fire setting. These are classic signs of conduct disorder. They may lead to worse things such as antisocial personality disorder in an adult.

You have a very scary and serious responsibility to do your best to help turn this child around. G-d gave you this child for a reason. He must have thought you could be good input for such a difficult case.

This is NOT your fault by ANY means. And feeling guilty (which we ALL do as Moms) really just wastes time, when you could be planning and praying.

I can recommend a book, "Before It's Too Late," by (I think) a Dr. Samenow. Get it immediately. This is quite important.

The fact that he devastated himself with his actions is a promising sign. He has some guilt. That is a good thing. We need to expand on that. He needs religious training that cannot be "easily proven wrong," meaning he needs to be told that G-d is completely unseen and sometimes unfelt but He is still the ultimate and our Creator; he needs to be taught that every time he makes a decision, G-d is watching him and allowing him to choose right or wrong on his own, and that G-d is devastated when he chooses wrong. Clinics and shrinks will NOT teach your child morals. You HAVE to do it. They do their good work on him and you need to do your part.

You have a huge responsibility to keep your child, his siblings, and the rest of the world safe. This will not be easy. But I have seen at least one abused child, who engaged in some very suicidally dangerous behaviors as a child and young man, become a decent and productive member of society. Don't give up.

I will be praying for you.

[8mmMauser]

Will keep Damien and you in prayers at this morning Mass.

8mm

[E.G.C.]

BTTT!!!!!!!

[sfimom]

No update tonight. I was not able to reach the social worker today. I called to talk to Damian at 7;15 and they said he was in the shower. I said ok fine I'll call back at 7:30. He got on the phone and said that they were having snack then. Ok I said to ask the nurse if I could call back at 7:45 for our call. I heard her say yes. So I call back at 7:45 and they say that we already had our call! I explained to her that we hadn't spoken because he was eating snack. She said that since he was the one to tell me that that it counted as his call for the night even though it was less than a minute! I have no idea how he is doing but their total discouragment of parental involvment is really pi$$ing me off. </rant off>


Still no ride to go see him. Thank all of you for your prayers through this difficult time.

[M0sby]

sfimom..
Are they FOR REAL???
what is he in LOCK UP??

WOW!
Sending you a (((HUG)))

Mosby

[sfimom]

YEah for real. I got to talk to him for less than a minute tonight.

[BykrBayb]

I just found this thread. I haven't read through it; I just read the prayer request and jumped to the end. I'll put Damian in my prayers. The discouraging of parental involvement sets off bells and whistles for me. Something is wrong. Without having the whole story, I can't begin to advise you on what to do, but I can tell you something is very wrong. I'll pray for extra strength and wisdom for you. You'll need plenty of both. I have a feeling you'll do what's best, and this will all work out. I'll still pray for that, just to be on the safe side.

[jamaly]

Your son and your family will be in my prayers. I know this isn't easy on any of you. I agree with everyone saying that you need to give this child a strong religious upbringing and structure in his life. A routine is a very comforting thing to a child.

[LucyJo]

sfimom, I've been praying for your little boy,and your situation since I first read the post, and I will continue to pray. You've had some good advice here from loving, caring, folks. Feeding his spirit with God's Word is paramount as has been pointed out. I hope you have, or can find, a loving church congregational family to give you comfort and support. I'm also praying for wisdom for those who are attending to his physical and emotional needs with meds, therapy, etc. May God keep your family in His providential care, and bless your every need toward healing for your child.

[sonofatpatcher2]

Oh Lord,

There is another cry in the darkness tonight. On any given day You are asked to save many and help many more. In these times of world wide trouble and strife I ask once more for Your Divine touch.

Make this child well so that he may live a long and meaningful life. In the grace and grandeur of this world You have given us, can there ever be anything as near perfect as a child's laugh? A child's wide-eye wonder at it all? The grasp of that little hand in ours gives us one more proof of Your presence. If it is within Your wishes, grant this child Your blessing.

In Jesus' name, I ask if it is all possible, to allow this child the full measure of Your Divine attention.

Amen

[Allegra]

In Jesus' name, I ask if it is all possible, to allow this child the full measure of Your Divine attention.

Amen.

I've been praying for this little fellow, but thank you for the beautiful prayer and the reminder to say another one for him.

[sfimom]

thank you

[sfimom]

thank you

[sonofatpatcher2]

No... Thank you for letting me add my meager words to so may others...

[sfimom]

You around tonight?

[sfimom]

****UPDATE****

Well still not much of an update I guess. As far as I can tell he'll be home on Friday late morning/early afternoon. I don't know how he's doing. Still getting the same answers from the nurses and STILL have not been allowed to talk to the Dr. I was told 'A lot of parents want to talk to the Dr but it isn't going to happen' GRRRRRRRRR! Nothing I can do about it but I swear he'll never go to this hospital ever again. Thanks for your continued prayers.

[Brad’s Gramma]

You have got to be MIGHTY frustrated, to say the least.

[sfimom]

Very much so. I just want to get him home. I followed the doctors reccomendation (course they probably would have set CPS on me if I hadn't) and I really question if sending him to the hospital was the right thing to do. I won't know until he comes home if he is any better. Also apparently it will take several months before he can see a regular psychiatrist so he may be several months without treatment of any kind. I can only imajine what this is going to do to his school performance. I'm looking into an online charter school for him. But I'll be totally honest , I don't know if I can deal with everything AND homeschool too. I guess I just have to wait and see what happens.

[sfimom]

He'll be home at 7:30-8:00 tomorrow morning.

[Brad’s Gramma]

AWESOME!!!!!!

He's gonna needs LOTS of hugs....!!