What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

[Age of Reason]

ugh.

[Hi Heels]

Ssssnnnnooorrreeeeee........

Sister married to Japanese. She has TONS of money and never cooks a meal. Sister married to Mexican. She owns huge property outside Reno and has a maid. Me? I married an American male. Get to raise my kid by myself because the lowlife won't hold a job. Brother married to an ethnic German. She drank and beat him with a baseball bat. All kinds in the world, pal. You are using a very broad brush.

They will marry you for citizenship. Any illusions you have of women idolizing you is just that....illusion.

[processing please hold]

That's one of the stinky sides of married life. Just another one of the joys of wedded bliss that no one talks about...lol

[longtermmemmory]

Perhaps these women should consider a surrender monkey frenchman who will cheat on them...

[Chieftain]

You don't that girl is cute??

[Lee'sGhost]

Looks worth checking into. I'm not sure how my wife would take it though.

[JoeSixPack1]

I'll take one of the rich ones. :-)

[najida]

Hence my point about the ingratitude of American women for American men.

Ungrateful? We are very grateful for kind, supportive, respectful men who see us as a friend and partner and don't see us as a cross between a maid, yard man, blow up doll and bank. In the way of their hanging out with their 'real buddies' and the girlfriend on the side. No surprise, we show them the door.

And when it comes to baggage---- take it from me....while women may have enough to fill a bass boat, most guys could sink the Titanic with their steamer trunks of "Susie, in 9th grade dumped me, and I have NEVER trusted a woman again!!!" Argh. Get over it already, you are 52!

[Sam Cree]

"Men and women should be equal...period. That goes for child rearing and working outside the home."

Seems to me that what you speak of above is up to the couple, not you...other people may have differing ideas of what constitutes equality, if that's a concern to them.

[AmericanInTokyo]

This is a difficult thread. It is hard to talk about things without making a lot of generalizations. The quantiative facts are few. A lot of this is just gut level reaction.

I will say, the missing story here is that (not a few) Japanese women have very recently (the last 1-2 years) gone head over heels over...get this...KOREAN MEN.

Unfathomable anytime before the late 1990s.

I must say, there is something refreshing about opening a door for a young Japanese female, and have her express shock at first, and then genuine female (a bit coquette-ish) appreciation, rather than having the door grabbed from me and the (American) female scowl or even, in some extreme cases, spit out "I can handle the door myself!" in a rough, truck-driver lesbianic drawl.

Most guys in the world will appreciate the natural, complementary feminine aspects of women much more than a feigned and competitive masculinity that reeks of deep 'issues' and role confusion.

Again, extreme generalizations here.

[Hi Heels]

Feel a need to control....? You're right. Wrong country for wife hunting.

[Age of Reason]

Sorry, no.

Sure I've seen unglier non-Aisian women, but Asian women have never attracted me for whatever reason.

[Fatalis]

You weren't just talking about college girls and Oprah audiences, you were very specific with your "American women on the whole".

You try again.

"On the whole" inicates a generalization. "American women on the whole have never been as ungrateful and as hard to please as they are right now," and the problem with the current crop in college is likely to get worse.

If you disagree, name a time in the past when, on the whole, American women were more ungrateful than they are right now.

[Dan from Michigan]

If I was home right now, I'd crack open a beer, pop some popcorn, sit back and watch the thread. :D

[cyborg]

So pretend like you're at home :o)

[Freebird Forever]

Here's an FR classic thread which complements this one.

Why White Men Prefer Asian Women

[Hi Heels]

What do you think they are required to be grateful FOR?

[workerbee]

What we're talking about is a difference in the appreciation of foreign women for what American men provide, vs. the appreciation (and frequent lack of it) for the same thing by American women.

The problem is the definition of "appreciation". I see plenty of unappreciative men out there (and here, apparently) who would never in a million years consider that the little woman at home taking care of the kids is somehow actually "working" or deserving of his help now and again. I know several of my married friends who are basically single parents because hubby is too manly to change a diaper or give a kid a bath. I certainly appreciate my husband and the fact that he does his fair share at home and with the kids, and I tell him so. But some men seem to think unless they're given gold stars every time they put a dirty dish in the sink, they're "not appreciated." One of the most repugnant statements a man can make is when he says "I babysat the kids so she could go shopping." Nevermind the shopping is usually for him or the kids, not herself.

[Chieftain]

I appreciate beautiful women from all over the world... know what I mean? ;-) (Especially those who have a good sense of humor in their pretty heads):)

[HairOfTheDog]

The trend of foreign brides looking for American husbands is about more than just domineering jerks looking for women who ain't uppity.

You're right, the 'domineering jerks looking for women who ain't uppity' would be nothing without the American green cards that make them bearable.... for a while.