The problem is the definition of "appreciation". I see plenty of unappreciative men out there (and here, apparently) who would never in a million years consider that the little woman at home taking care of the kids is somehow actually "working" or deserving of his help now and again. I know several of my married friends who are basically single parents because hubby is too manly to change a diaper or give a kid a bath. I certainly appreciate my husband and the fact that he does his fair share at home and with the kids, and I tell him so. But some men seem to think unless they're given gold stars every time they put a dirty dish in the sink, they're "not appreciated." One of the most repugnant statements a man can make is when he says "I babysat the kids so she could go shopping." Nevermind the shopping is usually for him or the kids, not herself.
You hit the nail on the head of why I refuse to get married again (done it twice, both croaked, won't do it again).
I don't like not being appreciated. I didn't like being the workhorse and never hearing a kind word. I won't go into the world of TMI, but marriage was so bad, it is something I don't want to do again.
Anyhow, I have discovered that dating is a lot more fun. I can dress up, be all girlie, go out, have fun...make a friend, have delightful conversation etc. If he is a jerk, I can pick up the tab, trot home, put on my sweats, eat Godiva Chocolate Truffle Ice Cream in my messy, but all mine home while hogging the remote.
Tell it like it is, workerbee! All men need to do is show a bit of appreciation once in a while and they'd be surprised how friendly their wives can be!