Posted on 11/05/2004 11:52:42 AM PST by iheartusa
There is an unspoken taboo in our society where if you admit that having kids wasn't quite what you thought it would be and that if you could do it all over again that you would have chosen NOT to have kids, that you are a monster, an evil, despicable monster. The truth is a large percentage of parents HATE being parents. They will never say it out loud and they can't even admit that to themselves because "only an evil demon" would come to that conclusion, they think. However, underneath it all, underneath all the B.S. is the truth that we all know: Children are overrated. For every precious moment where the little brat does something special, there are 1,000 moments where they drive you crazy. They literally tear your life upside down. Marriage, sex life, your wives appearance, your social life, the list goes on and on and on. Oh yeah, the worst part is yet to come - the teenage years. I could write volumes on this subject. The reason people have children is because of this unwritten societal norm where the standard is to get married and immediately begin to produce offspring because "that's the thing to do". Here's another fact for you if you're interested in the subject: the highest points of martial satisfaction are: 1) after the kids leave and 2) before the kids were born. Look it up, it's true.
I decided not to have kids or a wife... And haven't regretted it one bit!!! I look at all my sorry faced friends straining to make ends meet, having the endless honey do lists, soccer games, Dr bills, bitching, whinny little brats, debt up their asses!!.....and me....well I focused on work and saving money and have no debt, date all different kinds of women, no strings attached, buying a brand new custom house that my friends and family can only dream about, and will be able to retire at 45..... Yea, I may grow up old and have no one but look....most of you will be divorced and so broke after raising kids, alimony, child support, kids college...that you will have nothing to show for it when you are 65 and still have to work till your are dead......sorry thats reality. My relatives have given up asking. They know better. Then someone always pulls me aside and says, "I would love to have your life".
I think most people end up having kids because 1) They're too stupid to know how to use birth control properly and/or 2) They have an idealistic, completely unrealistic vision of what parenthood entails. People imagine dressing their daughter in pretty clothes, or playing catch with their son. They don't think about being awoken at 2 a.m. by a sick, screaming kid who just threw up all over the bed, and who doesn't give a shit that you have to get up for work in four hours. They don't think about the mortgage company threatening to foreclose, or the electricity being shut off, because the husband can't pay all the bills on one income. More people should think about these things, and fewer people should be having children. Parenthood should be left to those few couples who are willing to take the good with the bad.
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I really want kids, but I don't have any yet. :(
Sounds like a possible TROLL alert here.
This piece is chock full of self-serving, baseless assertions and outright falsehoods. Like anything else in life, that which is worth doing is usually difficult. Raising good children is one of the toughest jobs a person may undertake. Done well, it is among the most fulfilling and rewarding.
However, I like kids and volunteer at the local schools to teach space science.
For a parent to state that they wished they never had children - what message does that send to their children? Would you say such a thing to your child? Once you have the child, you are committed to do the best by him or her. That would not include saying such a thing. Finally, my ex used these exact words once and I have never forgotten them.
I would imagine it is devastating to kill part of yourself. Abortion to me is a murder of your soul. It's a killing of something powerful given to you by our creator. At the same time, I believe a woman should choose what to do according to her beliefs and her conscious and keep government out of it. I also believe people who don't want kids should feel free to choose not to have them. Not everybody is up to the awesome responsibility of raising children. It should be left to professionals. I'd even go so far as to require parenting licenses.
Actually, I did know someone years ago who had a baby and was really not happy after the fact. Her husband was thrilled, she was not. And the baby was just an adorable, sweet, happy little boy. Sad. I hope everything worked out. I've lost touch with that family over the years.
and they don't taste like chicken
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Lordy...what side of the bed did HE get up on?
Embittered indeed!
I don't have a spouse or kids, but I sure do hope to some day - it's pretty much what I want most out of life. I can't even fathom feeling as this person does, but I know many do. *shrug*
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I would remarry again.
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Please post picture and last three years tax returns. :^)
If people don't want kids that is fine. But I do hope he has other family to support him and doesn't expect my kids or my kid's money to support him via social programs when he gets old.
Thank you!!!!!
But it's a delayed gratification kind of thing.
/john
I don't have children either, but I really like kids. I thoroughly enjoy my nieces and nephews (got about 15). If things had been different I would probably have a few. Health problems preclude me from having kids. But they can be delightful. Saying you hate kids is like saying you hate people.
I'm sure you think murder should be criminalized. And it sounds like you believe that abortion is murder. So why shouldn't abortion be criminalized?
Yeah, but who's going to take care of you in your old age? The State? Heh.
Live it up buddy.
I pity him and his vacuous existence.
Not sure why you're addressing this to me...?
Take mine!
(Just kidding!)
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