Posted on 04/25/2018 5:07:29 PM PDT by Coleus
Many of us have hidden fears and hesitations when it comes to dealing with persons with severe disabilities. Their unfamiliar gestures, behaviors, and limitations can challenge us and infringe on our comfort zones. We may be tempted to apply a different standard when we deal with them. Even very young children with disabilities may suffer discrimination through denial of care as newborns, or through abortion in utero.
During his presidential campaign, former Pennsylvania Senator Rick Santorum and his wife Karen were often asked by people on the campaign trail about their daughter Bella, who was born with Trisomy 18, a severe genetic defect caused by an extra chromosome. Such children tend to have shorter lifespans, with 90 percent dying during the first year of life. Nevertheless, with proper care, some can live well into their teens, and even into their 20's or 30's. Bella became known to the public during her father's candidacy in part because of several memorable moments during the TV debates where Rick powerfully described how Bella's birth and struggles had impacted their family.
Early on, Rick and Karen struggled with the Trisomy 18 diagnosis, and with the way physicians labeled it a "lethal diagnosis" and "incompatible with life." Because they had already lost another child at birth, Rick, almost unconsciously, remained emotionally distant from Bella during the first few months of her life. He focused on being the pillar of strength for the family through the storm. He later described it during one of the public presidential debates this way: "I decided that the best thing I could do was to treat her differently and not love her... because it wouldn't hurt as much if I lost her."
Several years prior to Bella's birth, Rick had sponsored the partial-birth abortion ban in Congress. He had spent long hours on the Senate floor lobbying to protect children who were discovered to have "problems" before birth, rather than allowing them to be targeted for late-term abortions.
When Bella was 5 months old, she became critically ill and was rushed to the emergency room. Rick grasped her little finger on the gurney where she was lying. "I remember holding that finger," he said, "and looking at her, and realizing what I had done. I had been exactly what I had said that I had fought against at the partial birth abortion [hearings]: I had seen her as less of a person because of her disability."
His candor is a reminder of the challenges we all face in caring for and loving those with disabilities and physical limitations. Having learned many valuable lessons from their daughter, Rick and Karen now serve as even more vigorous advocates for children with disabilities. They realized they had to immerse themselves in the world of special needs, which Rick described as "a different world," and one where children like Bella "do not get the care they need unless the parents fight for it."
I recently had the opportunity to meet Rick and Karen. Karen described how Bella's situation was exacerbated by health care professionals who would not treat her with the same dignity and respect as normal children. Surprisingly, some doctors did not even address Bella by her name. Rick and Karen soon found an exceptional team of physicians who not only called Bella by her name, but were hopeful and positive about her life and possibilities.
Karen also mentioned another couple with a child affected by Trisomy 18. They had been told after delivery that little could be done for their newborn, and the child was placed off to the side, until one of the parents noticed her struggling and sought assistance for her. Other parents spoke to Karen about the subtle but noticeable resistance among medical staff whenever they brought their child with Trisomy 18 to the hospital for medical attention. The Santorums had experienced similar challenges with caregivers and medical staff. They had to fight to get the prescription for oxygen, and basic medical supplies, that Bella needed after she left the hospital; in addition, a hospice physician prescribed what would have likely been, if administered, a lethal dose of morphine.
Discrimination against those with disabilities should never be allowed to gain a foothold in the medical profession, nor be allowed to guide public policy. The true measure of the greatness of a society will always be in terms of how it treats its weakest members, and the authenticity of our own love will be measured by our compassion and acceptance of the disabled and the powerless. God seems to send us children with disabilities to help us grow, to remind us that every soul is of greater importance than its frail body, and to teach us how man's highest calling is found in his God-like possibility of sharing unconditional love.
Father Tadeusz Pacholczyk, Ph.D. earned his doctorate in neuroscience from Yale and did post-doctoral work at Harvard. He is a priest of the diocese of Fall River and serves as the Director of Education at The National Catholic Bioethics Center in Philadelphia. See www.ncbcenter.org.
common denominator I am betting with medical personnel that don’t give children with sever life threatening disability good care is that they are supporters of abortion upon demand and look at these children with disabilities as walking attack’s on there reasons for believing in abortion.
Disability is difficult for the disabled one even in the most loving family, and it is difficult on the most loving family as well.
Public school officials are terrible too. My daughter had a brain injury that caused speech problems and auditory processing issues. If it was up to them, my daughter would have been placed in a low level class and given less speech therapy.
We pulled her out of public school, and put her in pravate school with a multi-sensory pull out reading program. We made sure she had private one on one speech therapy with lots of work at home.
She’s a junior in college with over a 3.8 GPA in statistics with a minor in biology. I’m glad I didn’t give up on her.
Awesome!
Love it. My son routinely “fails” IQ tests with lessor psychs. (A good one, used to kids with LDs, can make sure he understands each set of instructions before testing and he is in normal range) Just kind of failed another. He doesn’t speak. But stand back and watch him type, code, etc. We are so surprised by things he CAN do that now that he is 15 I’m having real relaxation about his ability to earn money etc. never give up on them.
The young Down syndrome guy with the sock company (Bush 41’s socks) who has been on Fox a couple times is delightful.
And his company has given real jobs to other disabled people.
I love it!
we belong to a parent’s circle association that runs the gamut of disabilities, our son has been diagnosed since 2 years old with autism.Some of the children we see being loved by parents stagger my mind with the degree of disability, and the amount of patience and love the parents give. Our son is a study in contradiction, mentally, he seems a simple boy of 8(he’s 20)but he can do things with music that astound and bewilder his instructors in piano and violin. The violin is not a favorite, but he’s used it to pole vault into chord progressions and changing the key of a song to see if his instructors are aware.Or if they are watching or listening. If he put his mind to more thinks(sp intended)he could be impressive (chess for instance) but what he wants to spend time on is purely his choice. We battle about that, he and I...but we are both aware we have it much better than most of the other Parent’s Circle members.
My dear departed brother had duchenees MD and died in 1984
He was an angel who never had a bad day and touched many many lives
He is in large part who I am
BTTT!
Disability is difficult for the disabled one even in the most loving family, and it is difficult on the most loving family as well. >>
yes, it’s very difficult..
She’s a junior in college with over a 3.8 GPA in statistics with a minor in biology. I’m glad I didn’t give up on her. >>>
that’s wonderful!! she was blessed with great parents!!
‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’ >>
Amen!
so sorry he had that disability, my friends and I had a common friend with the same disability, we would go to his house and play games with him, talk to him, and take him for walks in his wheelchair. We had great times with him and unfortunately, he died at a young age, around 24.
Speaking is an unnecessary and useless distraction when coding ...
Amen.
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