Marriage is tough. That is no secret. But if you believe that you have to “try out” a person and walk away if it doesn’t suit you — what does that do for anyone? It makes no demands.
If you marry without having lived together beforehand, you WILL come up against obstances. You WILL have a few regrets ...but what it does is demand that the BEST of us rise up and become better people as a result over overcoming all that. It requires patience, forgiveness, humility ...it forges people into stronger versions of themselves.
Walking away doesn’t demand any of that. You remain mired in your own selfish little world, insisting that the next candidate meets your “requirements.” People who want perfection will be sorely disappointed in marriage. They might as well just give up trying.
I’ve lived with women and it did not work out I lived with now my wife and it’s worked for all these years.
While that might not fit some peoples way of life it fitted ours what IO have a problem with is those who think ALL people should live by their faith not their own faith .
I’m not talking about you so please do not think I was