Posted on 08/29/2010 5:58:35 PM PDT by Salvation
in my prayers for a recovery,
but is it good for her to start school so soon? Most suicides are cries for help, and she might need to work out issues of trying to be perfect...and pleasing others, to the point she feels a failure.
I pray she finds wisdom and peace, not that she succeeds in school...
Don’t blame parents. They probably do not understand. Something has happened here. They may find out that she is dealing with something she finds unspeakable.
This is depression...it could be bipolar. It isn’t anyone’s fault.
It’s normal for people who don’t understand to try and think everything’s going to be fine and life is pretty.
Having someone try to commit suicide is a shake-up. There are a lot of emotions to deal with amongst the loved-ones.
The most normal stiff-upper-lip reaction is probably, “Get back on the horse.”
The family will need some counseling, too.
Prayers up for Mary and her parents.
Well said, Julia.
Prayers for Mary and family.
BUT,
when I read
We think it’s very important for her to get back in the saddle - she is a Dean’s List student getting ready to start her last semester.ALL my alarm bells went off.
Their daughter attempted suicide in a way that may have permanently harmed her liver and what they choose to mention is that she's a good student and they want her to go back to being a good student as soon as possible?
They need to understand this situation. The daughter needs to understand it. THAT's of life-saving importance. Missing a semester or a year pales in comparison. Just going back to the way things were before is wrong.
I found that letter very upsetting. I will pray fervently.
My prayers are certainly with her.
As a student who knows all to well how pressures can build up, I’ll just offer my thoughts, not knowing the circumstances I can’t say how apropos they will be; sometimes a semester’s break can be a good thing to help get one’s mind back in order. Regardless, as much as you want her back in the saddle, make sure she’s ready to take on whatever she has to.
God bless.
This agnostic sends his fervent prayers for healing and a full recovery. And not just for Mary but for (redacted) and the rest of his/her friends and family.
(I don’t know if an agnostic’s prayers count more or less than average, but I think they may count in their own way)...
O Blood and Water that gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of mercy for Mary, We trust in You.
Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion --- inexhaustible, look kindly upon Mary and increase Your mercy in Mary, that in difficult moments she might not despair nor become despondent, but with
great confidence submit Herself to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself.
Praise Jesus and Hail Mary for her Powerful intercession. Amen= So Be IT!!!
Prayers going up!!
There is no blame here. And there should be no pressure.
Refrain from blame. Refrain from pressure.
It’s important that she feels safe and loved and most importantly, NOT JUDGED.
There is a root of the problem...she will need to get to that with someone who can help her.
But above all... parents need to know that this is not a WEAKNESS. This is not a FAULT in your kid. This is an illness. If she comes home, you treat her like you would treat her if she had a deadly disease that wasn’t psychological.
Do not act like there is some stigma here. You are embarrassed, but if you reach out to support communities (*talking to Mom here)...you will find out that you are not alone. You can join anonymously...
There are more groups for parents of children that actually succeeded than groups for parents of kids who have attempted.
Right now, you are in the middle of the worst part. You need to let YOURSELF feel the emotions and also to let your child feel them, too.
There is no blame here. And there should be no pressure.
Refrain from blame. Refrain from pressure.
It’s important that she feels safe and loved and most importantly, NOT JUDGED.
There is a root of the problem...she will need to get to that with someone who can help her.
But above all... parents need to know that this is not a WEAKNESS. This is not a FAULT in your kid. This is an illness. If she comes home, you treat her like you would treat her if she had a deadly disease that wasn’t psychological.
Do not act like there is some stigma here. You are embarrassed, but if you reach out to support communities (*talking to Mom here)...you will find out that you are not alone. You can join anonymously...
There are more groups for parents of children that actually succeeded than groups for parents of kids who have attempted.
Right now, you are in the middle of the worst part. You need to let YOURSELF feel the emotions and also to let your child feel them, too.
I had the exact same thoughts.
I apologize to anyone offended by my earlier post but this young, smart, talented lady is a precious gift from God and she needs support and prayers at this time. There will be a time for school when it’s appropriate.
What does Mary think?
No wonder the kid took an overdose.
Prayers for this young woman.
If I may say so, as someone with some personal, family experience with these issues, “getting back in the saddle” after such an experience may not be the right step. Something about being in the saddle was not right for this person; simply urging her back into the same saddle ignores the underlying issues, whatever they may be.
A bit harsh perhaps - but it might be just the advice needed at this time.
Prayer, Inbound.
Prayers for healing, comfort and strength.
Prayers.
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