The Gift: A Married Priest Looks at Celibacy

“You're a married priest? I didn't know we had married priests. I think the Church should let all her priests marry.”

Words like these have greeted me frequently since my ordination to the priesthood in 1983, with dispensation from the rule of celibacy. I always assure those who favor optional celibacy that both my wife and I strongly support the Church's discipline of priestly celibacy. While I'm deeply grateful that the Church has made an exception for certain former Protestant clergy like me, the exception is clearly a compromise. The priesthood and marriage are both full-time vocations. The fact is, no one can do complete justice to both simultaneously.

T he objection usually persists. “But surely a married man is better qualified to teach people about marriage than is a celibate priest.” Again, I disagree (politely, of course). The purpose of marriage preparation is not to teach couples what the priest has experienced. Catholic couples need and have the right to be instructed in the Church's revealed truth about the meaning of human sexuality and holy matrimony. If both a married and a celibate priest are reasonably mature, and if each teaches in harmony with the Church, the married priest has no essential advantage over the celibate priest in giving marriage instruction.

Then comes the final argument. “Yes, that may be, but if priests could marry, it would solve our priest shortage.” I reply that this is an assumption with no evidence to support it. If the rule of celibacy is keeping men out of the priesthood, how do we account for the dioceses in this country that have an abundance of priests? As Pope Paul VI said 40 years ago, the decline in priestly vocations is due to lack of faith on the part of our people. The dissent that has been rampant in recent decades has created widespread confusion about the Church's teaching, especially with regard to the priesthood.

Unquestionably, sentiment in favor of optional celibacy for priests is growing, even among faithful Catholics. But there are two fundamental errors underlying this opinion, one historical, the other theological.

First, the historical error: People commonly believe that the Church mandated celibacy for her priests beginning in the fourth century or the twelfth century or somewhere in between. The fact is, priestly celibacy is an apostolic institution. 1

The connection of celibacy with priesthood was first revealed in Christ. We see that in its perfect embodiment, priesthood involves remaining free from all claims of marriage and parenthood. That freedom enabled God's Son to be completely available for the working of the Father's perfect will through Him (Cf. Jn 4:34).

When He called His successors, the apostles, “they left everything and followed him” (Lk 5:11). Later, Peter reminded Jesus, “We have left everything and followed you.” Then he asked, with typical candor, “What then will we have?” (Mt 19:27). Jesus replied, “There is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who will not get back very much more in this age, and in the age to come” (Lk 19:29, emphasis added). Recall also that when Jesus taught the indissolubility of marriage, He also highly commended celibacy (Mt 19:12). And Paul himself strongly endorsed celibacy for more effective service to the Lord.

The disciplinary canons of the Council of Elvira in 305 are the Church's earliest record regarding priestly celibacy. The council gave no explanation of its rulings, which were ancient and presumably well-known. Canon 33 forbade all married bishops, priests, and deacons from having sexual relations with their wives and begetting children. The council reminded the married clergy that they were bound by a vow of perpetual continence. Penalty for breaking that vow was deposition from the ministry. Commenting on this council, Pope Pius XI said that these canons, the “first written traces” of the “Law of Ecclesiastical Celibacy,” “presuppose a still earlier unwritten practice. ” 2

The Council of Arles, nine years later, upheld both the obligation of continence for married clergy and the penalty for nonconformity. The Council of Nicaea in 325 took for granted priestly celibacy for unmarried and married clergy. Canon 3 stated, “This great synod absolutely forbids a bishop, presbyter, deacon or any of the clergy to keep a woman who has been brought in to live with him, with the exception of course of his mother or sister or aunt, or of any person who is above suspicion. ” 3 On the basis of the fourth- and fifth-century evidence, Rev. Christian Cochini, S.J., holds that the phrase “any person who is above suspicion” includes wives of clergy who with their spouses had taken vows of continence before their husbands were ordained. 4

Near the end of the fourth century, a Spanish bishop wrote to the pope, asking for help in dealing with married clergy who were having conjugal relations with their wives and having children. In 385 Pope Siricius reminded all married clergy (in Spain and presumably everywhere) that their vows of perpetual continence were “indissoluble.” 5 The next year, the pope issued a decretal repeating his prior ruling. He insisted he was not giving new rulings but was rather recalling the clergy to rules long established in the Church.

Some of the married clergy tried to defend their continuing conjugal life, but there was no tradition of optional celibacy to which they could appeal. They pointed rather to 1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6, and 1 Timothy 3:12, which specified that bishops, priests, and deacons must have been “married only once” (must be unius uxoris vir , “husband of one wife”). In response, Pope Siricius declared that “married only once” does not mean that after their ordination married clergy could continue conjugal relations with their wives. The true meaning is this: A man faithful to one wife could be expected to be mature enough to live the perpetual continence required of him and his wife after his ordination.

This is the original magisterial exegesis of these passages. Further, Pope Siricius's teaching finds clear echoes in the writings of the Fathers of this era: Ambrose, Epiphanius of Salamis, and Ambrosiaster. 6

Another passage used to buttress the apostolic case for optional celibacy is 1 Corinthians 9:5. Referring to his prerogatives as an apostle, Paul asks (seemingly rhetorically), “Do we not have the right to be accompanied by a believing wife, as do the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?” The Greek behind “believing wife” in this translation is “a sister wife” or “a sister as wife.” The words together do not mean “wife” in the ordinary sense. In the early centuries the term “sister” (as in 1 Corinthians 9:5) was used to designate a wife of a clergyman who with her had vowed perpetual continence before his ordination. Their relation was that of brother and sister.

(Momentarily to depart from our chronology, we should glance at the Directory on the Ministry and Life of Priests , issued in 1994 by the Congregation for the Clergy. Section 59 affirms Pope Siricius's exegesis of the passages in Timothy and Titus. It also cites several early councils that required continence for married as well as for unmarried clergy. Then come these words: “The Church, from apostolic times , has wished to conserve the gift of perpetual continence of the clergy and choose the candidates for Holy Orders from among the celibate faithful” [emphasis added]. “The celibate faithful” clearly in early centuries would include married men who with their wives had vowed to observe perpetual continence after the men were ordained.)

Back to the fourth century: The Council of Carthage in 390, involving the whole African hierarchy, restated the rule of perpetual continence for all married clergy. They declared they were simply restating the Church's unbroken tradition. In explaining their decree, the presiding bishop, Genethlius, urged that “ what the apostles taught and what antiquity itself observed , let us also endeavor to keep” 7 (emphasis added).

The decretal Dominus Inter was issued in the early fifth century by a Roman synod, led most likely by Pope Innocent I. Responding to questions raised by bishops from Gaul, Canon 16 repeats the Church's rule of perpetual continence for married clergy. 8 We find the same teaching by pontiffs who succeeded Innocent I—Leo the Great and Gregory the Great, for example, as well as Sts. Jerome, Augustine, and Ambrose. So did the Council of Tours (461), the Council of Gerona (517), and the Council of Auvergne (535). Further, the requirement of perpetual continence for married clergy appears in the penitential books of the Celtic churches.

In the eleventh and twelfth centuries, the Gregorian reform dealt with violations of the norm of clerical celibacy. The Second Lateran Council (1139) was part of this movement. From this fact, Catholics and non-Catholics alike have wrongly concluded that this council originated clerical celibacy. Like all its predecessors that dealt with the matter, the Lateran Council sought to enforce the apostolic ban on conjugal life for the clergy.

Apologists for the Eastern Orthodox practice of mixed celibacy (married priests and deacons, celibate bishops) ignore these councils' declaration that they were only upholding an apostolic tradition.

In more recent times, the predecessor of the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith issued an instruction in 1858 that stated: “Whoever ponders diligently the true tradition of celibacy and clerical continence will indeed find that, from the first centuries of the Catholic Church, if not by a general and explicit law, at least by behavior and custom, it was firmly established that not only bishops and priests, but [all] clergy in Holy Orders were to preserve inviolate virginity or perpetual continence. ” 9

That priestly celibacy is an apostolic tradition “is shown clearly and convincingly” by the work of Stickler, Cochini, Heid, and others. This is the verdict of then–Cardinal Ratzinger. 10

The Eastern Orthodox discipline of optional celibacy (optional for priests and deacons, required for bishops), was first formulated in 692. Prior to that time, all the Eastern Churches followed the apostolic tradition of mandatory continence for both married and unmarried clergy.

But the Council of Trullo in 692 radically changed the discipline of celibacy. One of its canons did retain the prohibition of bishops, priests, and deacons marrying after ordination. It also partly preserved the apostolic tradition in requiring perpetual continence of married men who were installed in the episcopate. But it decreed that married men ordained to the diaconate and priesthood could continue their conjugal life after ordination. The council herein both explicitly and polemically rejected the clerical discipline of Rome, which is to say, the apostolic tradition.

To justify this departure, Trullo quoted the earlier canons of the Council of Carthage. That council, as we have seen, had restated the rule of perpetual continence for all married clergy by appealing to what it called the apostolic tradition. Its records were widely available. Trullo changed the wording of the Carthaginian canons so that they mandated only temporary continence for married clergy only on days when they served at the altar. (This is effectively the Old Testament law for levitical priests who served in
the Temple.)

Despite this radical alteration of the Carthage council's ruling, the Council of Trullo blithely assured all who would listen that by their decrees they were only “preserving the ancient rule and apostolic perfection and order.” 11 The Catholic Church, of course, has never recognized the Council of Trullo.

In her magisterial statements, the Catholic Church has often spoken of the Eastern practice regarding celibacy. The Church always uses guarded language, not wanting to widen the breach between the Orthodox Churches and the Catholic Church. But she has never said—never even implied—that the Eastern practice stands on par with her own discipline regarding celibacy. Typical of her attitude is the language of Pope Pius XII in his 1935 encyclical on the Catholic priesthood quoted earlier. After extolling the glories of priestly celibacy, he said he was not criticizing the Oriental discipline. “What we have said has been meant solely to exalt in the Lord something we consider one of the purest glories of the Catholic priesthood , something which seems to us to correspond better to the desires of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and his purposes in regard to priestly souls” (Section 47, emphases added).

I earlier noted that the advocacy of optional celibacy for priests reflects two basic errors. One is historical—a failure to recognize that priestly celibacy is an apostolic tradition. The other error lies in the ambiguity of the word “discipline” to characterize the Church's rule of celibacy. True, the requirement of priestly celibacy is not part of the deposit of Faith. In a sense it is part of the Church's discipline. But it is quite unlike all her other disciplines. Take the Church's rules about fasting before receiving the Eucharist; about allowing meat on Friday if one otherwise fulfills the obligation of penance; about being allowed to register in a parish when one lives outside the parish bounds. These have been changed with no theological consequences.

Theoretically, if he so chose, the pope could set aside the rule of priestly celibacy overnight. But if he did, it would have a profound, negative effect on the Church's understanding of herself and of the priesthood.

Here we follow Benedict XVI's teaching. The Church is both human and divine, a duality of structure (organization) and the presence and power of the Holy Spirit. That which gives the Church her permanency of structure is itself a sacrament—the sacrament of orders. This means that the Church's structure is continuously created by God's unfailing action through the sacrament. The Church as an institution cannot herself choose those who will serve in the hierarchy. The call to holy orders comes from God, and the Church can only recognize that call. Thus our Lord commanded us, “Pray the Lord of the harvest to send workers into his harvest” (Mt 9:37).

So the priestly ministry has a “strictly charismatic character,” in the words of Benedict XVI. The Church emphasizes that fact by “linking . . . priesthood with virginity, which clearly can be understood only as a personal charism, never simply as an official qualification.” Any attempt to separate priesthood from celibacy (“the demand for their uncoupling”) would in effect deny the charismatic nature of priesthood. It would reduce it to an office completely under the control of the institution. Thus the Church in effect would be regarded as a purely human institution. 12

The priesthood is a continuous gift to the Church. She is only a steward, not the giver, of that gift. But as recent magisterial statements have reminded us, celibacy itself is also a gift.

In his encyclical I Will Give You Shepherds (1992), Pope John Paul II repeatedly characterizes clerical celibacy as such. He calls it “a priceless gift,” “a precious gift,” a “gift of God for the Church.” It is a gift to be cherished. And because it is God's gift, the Church as an institution has no right to set it aside—to send it back to God, so to speak.

The Synod of Bishops in 1990 issued what is perhaps the ultimate statement of modern times on the Church's commitment to priestly celibacy. “The synod would like to see celibacy presented and explained in the fullness of its biblical, theological and spiritual richness, as a precious gift given by God to his Church and as a sign of the kingdom which is not of this world—a sign of God's love for this world and of the undivided love of the priest for God and for God's people , with the result that celibacy is seen as a positive enrichment of the priesthood” (emphases added).

Further, the Church is totally committed to maintaining priestly celibacy. “The synod does not wish to leave any doubts in the mind of anyone regarding the Church's firm will to maintain the law that demands perpetual and freely chosen celibacy for present and future candidates for priestly ordination in the Latin rite” (Proposition 11).

While advocates of a married priesthood will likely continue their efforts, they have neither history nor the contemporary Church on their side.

1 For more detail, see Ray Ryland, “A Brief History of Clerical Celibacy.” Peter Stravinskas, ed., Priestly Celibacy: Its Scriptural, Historical, Spiritual, and Psychological Roots (Mt. Pocono: Newman House Press, 2001), pp. 27-44.

3 Norman P. Tanner, S.J., ed., Decrees of the Ecumenical Councils , Vol. 1 (Washington, D.C.: Georgetown University Press, 1990), p. 7.

4 Christian Cochini, S.J., Apostolic Origins of Priestly Celibacy (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1990), pp. 185-195.

9 Quoted by Roman Cholij, “Celibacy, Married Clergy, and the Oriental Code.” Eastern Churches Journal , Vol. 3, No. 3 (Autumn, 1996), p. 112.

10 Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger, “The Theological Locus of Ecclesial Movements.” Communio (Fall 1998), footnote 2, p. 483.

11 Quoted by Roman Cholij, Clerical Celibacy in East and West (Herefordshire: Fowler Wright Books, 1988), p. 115.

First of all It Seems to me his comments are insulting to his former fellow Anglican priests who are married and doing a responsible ministry and to all married Protestant ministers who are well respected and considered to be doing a good job with their churches. Granted they probably don't play as much golf as the celibate Catholic clergy.

I see how it could seem such, however this article was written for a Catholic publication that is read (pretty much universally) by Catholics.

I think if he were writing for some other publication...such as Touchstone he would have written it differently, like for instance pointing out the common custom of daily Liturgy in the Latin Rite of the Catholic Church. Which from what I understand is on the rarer among faith traditions. As most others traditions limit services to Sundays and holy days.

And secondly the now elderly Father forgets that Peter was married and we strongly suspect that all the other Apostles (except John) were probably married,( so Jesus did not have a problem with married priests ) as were 39 popes married and many others had women friends ( platonic - oh yeah ) or boy friends.

In the Old Testaament times, priests had to live apart from their wives while they served once a year in the Tmeple offering Sacrifice. THat was temporary continence.

As the New Testament Priest daily offers the Sacrifice of the New Covenant, it was a natural that Apostolic tradition would embrace permanent continency

I know of a married Episcopalian priest who came into the Church a few years back, who was ordained a Catholic Priest. Many orthodox Catholics were so excited when he was ordained because he's not a "modernist". Sadly, I learned last Fall that he and his wife are divorcing, but I don't know any of the circumstances. I just prayed. I've not heard anything else regarding the situation. I would think it would be extremely difficult to be married to a priest--especially one who's shepherd of over 10k parishioners (including my parents)!!

I think you're correct. Once widowed or divorced, Roman Catholic priests cannot re-marry according to the information I received from a local RC priest. He made no mention of The Church having Canons that require married priests to take a vow of celibacy. Are there actually such Canons?

Peter may well have been married by the time Jesus chose him. A mother-in-law can outlive their children,mine did. The Gospels only mention the mother-in-law,in case you hadn't noticed.

Father Ryland covered the mention of "women companions" in the letters.

If you can find any mention in the Four Gospels of any of the twelve apostles having a wife,please let me know. At this point,four years of asking,no one,Protestant or Catholic has been able to find mention of it. I would bet quite a bit of money that you won't either.

Respectfully asked, how does this take the Apostle Paul's statments into consideration that Bishops can be married but to one wife?

I fully understand this is a discipline issue and as such I've often been confused at the staunch stance that a priest cannot be married or he cannot serve...I admire men who can sincerely honor God and serve Him by dedicating their lives to spreading the Gospel and I just don't see how it can be said that only a man who is single can successfully be a servant of God particularly when Scripture shows it's an allownace either way. If a man who is willing ot be celibate is desiring to pe a priest/pastor/minister that is outstanding and likewise I feel a man who is married desires to serve God in the same manner is a blessing from God Himself.

My dad was a pastor and we knew that we were always 2nd to his work as a servant of God. It wasn't an issue, he served admirably and with the Holy Spirit's guidance helped to bring countless souls to the knowledge of Christ as their Savior. He died in April and I cannot count the numbers of people who loved him, not because he was a nice guy or because he was a good listener, but rather because he was a faithful servant of Christ who brought the Gospel to the people in all that he did.

That's all I'm sayin...

In Christ...

Fascinating information. I was not aware of most of this history.

You learn something new every day.

My pastor is Maronite, an Eastern Catholic Church that allows for married priests. His grandfather was a (married) priest. Yet, when he (my pastor) chose the priesthood, he chose celibacy. The Patriarch of the Maronite Church strongly encourages celibacy to the seminarians because it allows for greater flexibility and attention. While the Maronite Church allows for a married priesthood, the Patriarch on several occasions has pointed to the obstacles confronted by the married priests. First and foremost, the primary vow is marriage; the priesthood is their secondary vow. It is more difficult (and costly) to place a married priest than a celibate one since the married priest often has a family. The Maronite Church never assigns married priests outside of Lebanon.

Well,here I was waiting for a reply from you and reread my post. It demonstrates why I seldom argue-----I make mistakes and am a lousy proofreader. No wonder you didn't respond with that nutty first sentence. Sorry for thinking unkind thoughts.

What I meant to say,rather than "Peter may well have been married--" was,Peter may well have been widowed". Or maybe you knew what I meant and are still combing through the Gospels looking for evidence that any of the Twelve" were married. It's not there--guaranteed.

Good article.

Most Catholics are ignorant of the history of celibacy and think that it began in the eleventh or twelfth century. They don't realize that the Gregorian reforms were part of a much older tradition of clerical continence. Those who insist that the Church go back to its earlier practice of ordaining married men, don't understand what they are asking for. They don't realize that if the Church went back to its tenth century discipline of ordaining married men, that these men would be requied to remain completely chaste after ordination. They don't realize that this would mean these priests could not remarry after ordination if their wives died. They don't realize that unmarried priests would not be allowed to marry after ordination. The priests who left the priesthood over the last forty years in order to get married would NOT be allowed to return to the priesthood if this earlier tradition were adopted. This clearly is not what the advocates of a married priesthood want. What they want is something that was never permitted in the western Church.

Granted - there is no "evidence" either way other than the cultural expectation of the time. To assume that married men are not as good or dedicated as those who claim to be celibate is an insult to many ministers, doctors and others who do good and dedicated work. However, I will admit that a priest who each day celebrates the 6 AM Mass, spends time in the parish school, does funerals, goes out on parish census, makes hospital visits, has organization meetings,works on CCD, does convert instruction and marriage preparation til 10 PM when he joins the other priests for the TV news, has little time for marriage and a family. BUT how many priests do that today. How many even know that that was once the normal routine.

The Eastern Catholic experience is instructive in many ways, as is the experience of married Protestant pastors. Marriage takes a great deal of time and effort; so does a ministerial vocation. Doing both effectively is a great burden.

A survey of Protestant pastors a while back found that something like 60% said that their families suffered because of their work. When you consider the divorce statistics, 60% probably just identifies the ones who admit that their families suffer.

And it's not just pastors, of course - any vocation/profession that doesn't come with fixed hours is going to make family life much more difficult. Conversation in my family, "If we go to the beach for the weekend, is the office going to call you?" "I don't know; maybe." "Fine, then we won't go. If you're going to spend the weekend on the phone with the office, I'd rather be at home with my washer and dryer."

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