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The Australian ^ | October 3, 2003 | George Gordon

[demlosers]

WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.

Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.

The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a "gift from God".

And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: "Be honest girls, that's what we do".

Her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled "outrageous" by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.

Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100 million listeners every week to her radio show.

Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.

In her latest book, she writes: "If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"

Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks.

"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."

The Australian

[Lazamataz]

Wimmin should have sex when I want it and knit me a sweater and cook me dinner and make babies.

And bake me a PIE. Dammit.

[Lazamataz]

"...and attracts 100 million listeners every week"

This seems like an exaggeration.

100 eleventy skadillion zillion is an exaggeration. 100 million is pocket change.

[Centurion2000]

I don't think I'm quite to that point but people seem to tell me that my attitudes are more in line with 1940'-1950's men than modern men

[EuroFrog]

I tell my hubby he can cure a dry tickle.........its funny how those seem to strike me when he is on the phone with his mother.

[goodnesswins]

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights."

Lately, for men, it seems they do SURRENDER privacy and rights......and I say that as a woman. Too many women FEEL it is their RIGHT to determine WHAT marriage is (make the rules all by themselves).....TOO BAD they end up divorced.....and wonder why....LOL.

[Ichneumon]

"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said. "When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."

What I strongly suspect Dr. Laura was *actually* saying wasn't "women have no right to refuse", it was probably more like "ladies, whenever possible, do your hardworking husband a loving favor even if it's not the first thing you feel like doing at the moment."

A man *should* respect it when his wife says "no", but Dr. Laura's point is probably that the wife shouldn't get in the habit of saying "no" more than she really needs to.

And of course, the same goes for men, who likewise should make every effort to be a good husband and father in all the ways they can.

[Lazamataz]

once had a girlfriend that said that....ahh....I was the cure for her when she had a sore throat. :)

Oh my! I do believe you are speaking of my Italian Cousin, Messr. Oral Fellatio.

[lafroste]

What's wrong with flannel?

[Cold Heat]

This was posted the other day.....LOL.

I think that Laura did not mean under any circumstances, but she did touch on a responsibility that couples have toward each other.

I think it goes both ways.

I believe like with anything else in life, you get as good as you give or you get in direct proportion to what you put in!

Just common sense talk.

[Ichneumon]

100 eleventy skadillion zillion is an exaggeration. 100 million is pocket change.

Not really -- 100 million would be over one third of every man, woman, and child in the United States. I really don't think that 1 out of 3 Americans listens to Dr. Laura in a given week (or tunes into *any* radio or TV show).

[fqued]

If we took a poll here I'm sure it would prove that few married men are having sex more than once or twice a month - and some, sadly, would say "wow, they get it THAT often?"

Evidence is against you.
Adult Americans "do it" on the average of about 115 times per year. That's a bit over twice a week.

Also, according that gigantic study of sexuality that came out about 8 years, ago, the best and most frequent sex is WITHIN MARRIAGE.

Now, obviously, there are SOME marriages that are near-sexless, and those stories may be repeated and repeated, but the EVIDENCE is as I have stated.

[Khurkris]

"Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has ..."

Physiology, as in exercise kinesiology, movement-range of motion, etc NOT psychology.

[WackyKat]

I pretty much agree with this - women bitch all the time because they are home with their own children - husbands battle traffic, and demanding jobs to support the women so they CAN stay home and raise their children. They come home to caotic homes, whining wives, and no sex.

Thank you for confirming my wisdom in remaining a bachelor.

[TheCrusader]

GO LAURA

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

What I strongly suspect Dr. Laura was *actually* saying wasn't "women have no right to refuse", it was probably more like "ladies, whenever possible, do your hardworking husband a loving favor even if it's not the first thing you feel like doing at the moment."

That is what she was saying. The whole point of it was that spouses should do things that make their mates happy even they would rather do something else.

This, of course, works both ways and she talks about that too. But it makes so much more of a splash when you leave that part out.

[xzins]

women get tired, too...

They do.

There's no hard research on the point. Does more sex bond a man more to one woman and reduce infidelity and enhance home atmosphere?

LADIES: If it were absolutely true that sex on request:
1. Bonds your husband more to you.
2. Significantly reduces probability of infidelity
3. Certainly Enhances the home atmosphere (relational)

would you be willing to have sex on request? (or would you have been willing to have sex on request?...if that applies better)

This will be just anecdotal, but it will be interesting to see responses?

[TheCrusader]

"Women, as the Roman elegiac poets pointed out and any sexual therapist will tell you, are ready any time. Men are only ready when they're ready."

The Roman poets never heard of Viagra back then.

[TheCrusader]

"WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss."

Scientists have discovered a food that diminishes a woman's sex drive. Wedding cake.

[upcountry miss]

you said "I believe like with anything else in life, you get as good as you give or you get in direct proportion to what you put in."
I couldn't agree more!!! Recently celebrated my 55th wedding anniversary.

[TheCrusader]

"I believe like with anything else in life, you get as good as you give or you get in direct proportion to what you put in!"

Feminism changed all that.