I have a daughter and 3 sons, each are learning how to have long term relationships, that it is a slow process to learn about someone, but even if you just meet someone, you can marry and make a relationship work.
Love is what you do, not how you feel!
We just had our 18th wedding anniversary, and we have been together 24 years! We are only 37 (38 this year)years with our birthdays 16 days apart (same year).
Relationships are a work of art and need time to produce.
Now to give the writer credit, she did try to talk the girls out of having sex, but at the end of the day, after these girl lost their virginity (by free choose), she blamed the boys and not the girls themselves for losing their virginity.
These women were way too stupid to be going to college.
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This IS a good book, and dating for teens these days is a BAD idea.
It's artificial in the first place, and doesn't help you "know what you are looking for in a spouse." Being friends in groups with both sexes is far better for that.
And more important, this sex-charged society is dangerous for teens. They need all the help they can get to avoid situations where their morals might too easily be compromised.
I don't know the author's intent, but the bottom line is correct.
Don't stop there! Verse 24 says, "Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." This is sex outside of marriage!!
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One by one these girls came to me, after only a few months at college, wrestling with the desire of their new college boyfriends to be physical with them.
I have never ever ever heard of a college student who sought out their Resident Advisor for help with sexual decisions.
I thought they were just there to sneak beer past.
True love and happiness comes on your wedding day. When you pull back the bridal veil and see, for the very first time, your 11-year old cousin.
Two books is not several. This gal seems to fit the stereotype of an expert: Someone from out of town.
Passion and Purity, Quest for Love – both by author Elisabeth Elliot. The first book deals with her own courtship experience with her late husband Jim Elliot, and the latter focuses more on general courtship practices and answers specific questions for how to proceed in our current atmosphere.
I've read this book, and I am opposed to sex outside of marriage. Even so, having read this book, Jim Elliot comes across as a bit of a wack-job in the area relationships. The fact that he and Elizabeth were missionaries and he was murdered while in the mission field does not make her an expert on dating. Any gal that would put up with the way he treated her during dating and courtship might possibly have a problem or two of her own to deal with. On the other hand their personalities and single-minded focus on missions seemed to fit them well.
From my reading of the book, I would be surprised if their marriage involved much sexual passion. She certainly didn't talk about it, and any Christian book on dating and marriage ought to discuss sexual passion within marriage as endorsed and encouraged by God. Eliott writes almost as if sex in marriage doesn't exist. Maybe they were sexually passionate. If so, she should have discussed that area as well.
I Kissed Dating Goodbye written by Joshua Harris. This is a great book for young adults interested in learning how to pull back from dating.
I've read this book too, and thought Harris' reasoning was not only unrealistic, but likely emotionally unhealthy as well. There is no question that it has been widely read, so much so that Cloud and Townsend in their Boundaries in Dating discuss it at length in their introduction.
Cloud and Townsend do agree with Harris that some people should not be dating because they are not emotionally capable of handling it. Dating is not the problem, it is the maturity, selection of dates, and the way one dates that create problems. Anyone who bases their future marriage on Harris' book is not as likely to be as happy in the end as one who uses Boundaries in Datind.
Two other excellent books are Finding the Love of Your Life and Date or Soul-Mate: How to Determine if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less", both by Neil Clarke Warren.
There is also a book titled The Book of Romance by Nelson. Excellent Christian book on the subject of dating, marriage and sexual passion within marriage.
Dating was something invented by the lower classes, as they did not have parlors for visitations like the rich people did. Has caused nothing but severe emotional distress for our nation's youth. Not surprised at all by the illegitimacy and divorce rates once I understood this basic evil.