Posted on 10/17/2002 3:49:42 AM PDT by Jim Noble
Edited on 04/13/2004 2:08:26 AM PDT by Jim Robinson. [history]
Karen Gratiano did the bar scene, wine-tastings, fix-ups, blind dates, even Internet dating. But after a series of failed relationships, and going through dozens of ''toads,'' Gratiano found herself alone at 35.
Marriage could wait, she thought. But having children couldn't. That biological clock was ticking.
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Well, after the bar scene and a series of failed relationships-what would anyone expect? Anyone who finds a husband, and a father for her children this way is extremely lucky-and extremely rare.
How is she going to feel telling that to the kid about 6 years from now?
Obtained from some masturbating derlict wino who got paid a couple of bucks for his "donation."
Ewwwwww!
Well statistically (as you know)-if it's a girl, she will probably get pregnant. If it's a boy, he'll probably be in jail.
The outcomes of single motherhood (statistically, please do not post anecdotes) are so bad that it should be illegal.
And the political outcomes are worse than the personal ones-massive increases in dependency and a political constituency for same.
Mayhap there is something wrong with Karen???
I'd like to see her handle a hostile 15-year-old boy, just like the one that my husband and I deal with 24/7. My son needs BOTH of us if he is to ever come out of his teenage years in one piece.
Me me me me me me me ME!. What happens when she finds out it is a thinking human being, rather than a cute Furby-esque kind of pet?
''The roles are changing,'' said Jane Bock, a former sociologist who first studied the issue 20 years ago with women who struggled with employers, day care centers, and even sperm banks, many of which denied unmarried women access to purchase donor sperm. ''They have altered the way we look at this issue because they've been successful as single mothers. They are legitimizing single parenthood as an appropriate life choice.''
Surely, they're not citing examples of "success" based upon finctional TV characters, are they? Maybe they need to make a TV show that's more realistic, one in which the single mom has barely a five-figure salary, rents a single bedroom apartment, and struggles to find someone to help care for the child so mom can go to K-mart for a new pair of shoes.
I have a counter-argument, however. Mind you, I don't know this woman at all (none of us do), but it is still a reasonable point.
What if she *sucks* at finding a guy who is good husband material, but has enough self-esteem to reject the losers she meets who are not? I know of far too many women who can't tell the difference, and married the first jerk to cross their paths, and have kids with those jerks. Are you all supposing that a woman who knows enough to not get involved with a jerk wouldn't be a good mother?
I'd personally rather see a single mother (who knows enough to avoid getting involved with a jerk of a guy) raise a child than a mother who is willing to have and raise children with a man who is an abusive jerk.
Er, yes-that's exactly what they're doing.
A "more realistic" show would have her daughter raped and killed by her boyfriend, or have her son in a gang. The single mom you describe, rather than typical, sounds like one of the more successful ones-part of the single mom elite, if you will.
I think having a child without a father absolutely and without exception defines a bad mother.
And you are setting up two mutually exclusive categories: "knows enough to not get involved with a jerk" and "wouldn't be a good mother", when, in fact, women have more choices than these.
Everyone is different, however, but I'm convinced that dads are absolutely needed in spite of the feminazi claims to the contrary
The arrogance and asininity of these females that get pregnant and have no dad for the kid is a sure disaster for the poor kids. Most are relegated to nannies and organized child care institutions with all the potential of growing up to hate their moms. How ironic is that?
And if Stephanie's lucky, she may spend one or two waking hours of "quality time" with her "mother" every week. Hooray for daycare!
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