WHY DIVORCE IS SO PREVALENT: The #1 Answer To Society's #1 Problem

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[Gracey]

Ping for a good read.

[FITZ]

I think divorce should happen for any of the 3 A's: adultery, addiction, or abuse. No one should stay with a cheater or abuser unless he or she is a masochist. An addict might be given another chance to see if they can work at recovery but not too many chances.

[Gracey]

In the beginning of a marriage the woman thinks she can change the man and the man thinks the woman will never change. Both are wrong.

Worth repeating.

Seems that your "Rudder" has leveled you out.

[Gracey]

Proof that girls are evil

Guess you fit into the "negative" thoughts category. :-)

[FITZ]

I personally think divorce should be much harder to get because of it's effects on the children

I don't know if divorce should be harder to get or not, I don't see how living in home with a lot of tension or bitterness is good for children, and it can't be good for them to see one lazy parent abuse the other. I think parents should all just grow up and realize that when they divorce, the kids should not divorce a parent. Just work it out somehow so both parents can spend time with the kids, forget using the kids to get revenge and put their needs first. Don't move kids to another city, don't try to make them choose between two parents they love.

[Gracey]

I thank God every time I come home from work, after two or more weeks, and realize that I have money in the bank and no one but myself has access.

Had you married me, honey, your money would be making money...not sitting in the bank. :-)

Next time marry a thrifty woman. It's YOUR choice that you go for the good looking body with no brains.

[pcl]

Are there any men here who have raised a child on their own as a single parent family?

[Gracey]

About 96% of the people know how to fall in love, but only about 7% of the people know how to stay in love....

Maybe it's because they "FELL" in love? and never really took time to LOVE the person????? Just a thought.

[Dr. Octagon]

I'd suggest that people need to really get to know each other, and work as a team...in synergy, without extraneously affected expectations.

[FITZ]

I know of several cases. One where it was obvious the mother had no work history, the child was 10 years old and the judge said the father should have custody so the child wouldn't grow up on welfare. A friend of mine got custody after the mother went bankrupt after her next divorce and lost her home. Another got custody after the mother was arrested for dealing drugs with her new boyfriend. And I know one guy who was widowed and left with 4 kids to raise.

[Dr. Octagon]

My Father raised a family of four children when my mum bolted. He did a rather good job of it I think.

Good. I've no doubt he did a very good job.

[Dr. Octagon]

And I've seen countless welfare moms treating their kids like garbage. Each of them had custody.

[Dr. Octagon]

I think parents should all just grow up and realize that when they divorce, the kids should not divorce a parent. Just work it out somehow so both parents can spend time with the kids, forget using the kids to get revenge and put their needs first. Don't move kids to another city, don't try to make them choose between two parents they love.

Ditto.

[Gracey]

I'd suggest that people need to really get to know each other, and work as a team

True. Problem could be that most people don't know how to be "intimate" (except physically) don't know HOW to get to know each other or work as a team. We tend to be a product of our parents relationship, for that's all we ever saw... and perhaps we don't know what comprises a lasting relationship.

Certainly schools would be better off teaching some marital skills, instead of all the PC BS taught today.

[Sueann]

Really?? You better not tell that to my Pastor. He places blame for the marriage break-up directly on the husband.

If you check out the scene in the garden of Eden, you will notice that Adam was present while the serpent was in the process of deceiving Eve. GOD had given ADAM responsibility for the garden (not Eve). After Eve ate the apple, what happened?? Nothing! But, when Adam disobeyed GOD and ate of the apple too, then and only then were he and Eve affected. But, remember, Adam stood there and watched Eve eat the apple. He could have stopped her. He could have taken her directly to GOD at that point and I believe GOD would have forgiven them. Instead, Adam participated in the disobedience.

And ... after Adam had disobeyed GOD, he and Eve went into hiding. When GOD showed up in the garden to walk and talk with ADAM (not Eve), what was it GOD said to ADAM? I'll tell you - God said, "ADAM, what have Y O U done"?? Hmmmm? How come GOD didn't say, Eve what have you done?? Because GOD holds the husband responsible for the actions of his wife!!

And ... just to rub salt in the wound, ADAM tried to make GOD responsible by saying, "it was the woman YOU gave me".

When husbands take their place in the relationship, the wife always responds in the most positive way. And, husbands, whether you like it or not, GOD does hold you responsible for the relationship.

[Gracey]

I have an ex husband who married an 18 year old, had two boys, she got on drugs, divorce and he raised those boys under 5 by himself and they're on the verge of graduating high school. He did a good job.

[Dr. Octagon]

That goes for all of the little flirtations between married people (to someone else.) that goes on right here in the bastion of conservatism, FREEREPUBLIC. Proving once again that being a Republican does not one a moral person make.

True...adultery isn't the only reason for divorce, but it's a shame that in most states, it no longer disadvantages the wife or husband who committed it. It should.