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Men Must Champion Feminine Women
Toogood Reports ^ | December 5, 2001 | Henry Makow Ph.D.

Posted on 12/05/2001 7:22:16 AM PST by Starmaker

A feminine woman has the effect of a sunrise on a man's soul.

In the words of novelist Alex Waugh, she draws a man "into a magic circle where everything is fresher, cleaner; where there is peace, warmth, comfort. She produces in him the desire to be his best."

Nothing on earth is so fine. On this continent, increasingly nothing is so rare.

The Official State Gender Ideology, feminism, has decreed that femininity is a "stereotype" invented by men to oppress women.

Feminism is no longer about equal opportunity for women. It is a thuggish, devious synthesis of Marxism and lesbianism used by ruling elites to undermine individuals and weaken society. It is to society what AIDS is to the body.

But men are also to blame. We have accepted the feminist lie that women should be independent and pursue careers. We have abandoned the many gentle and loving women who instinctively want to build their lives around a man. We have pursued the busy, neurotic, overachievers who guarantee us heartbreak, divorce and broken family.

By pursuing these women, we are really seeking our own lost masculinity. Many of us are happy to evade the responsibility of earning a living, and taking charge of a family. In either case we are condemning ourselves to frustration and arrested development.

For heterosexuals to find fulfillment, each sex must assume its instinctive part. The sex act is a metaphor: The man's spirit pervades the female and they become one. The male spirit must be active and the female receptive.

Many men ignore willing, feminine women who can provide Wholeness. These women cannot thrive, we cannot thrive, unless we recognize, defend and love them.

What is a feminine woman?

1) A feminine woman is motivated by love of husband and children. She is the heart of the family, devoted to her husband and children's wellbeing. This is her career. A woman who is preoccupied with another demanding career cannot pay attention to her family. Love is mainly paying attention. There is a New Yorker cartoon where a child is wearing a welder's mask and using a blowtorch to write, "I need love" on the living room wall. His mother says to her friend: "He's just doing that to get attention."

A feminine woman may have another career but it is her second priority. She is not driven by personal ambition. I liked the movie Legally Blonde because the heroine showed that she could excel in the work world but why bother? She had a more important goal: a husband and family.

Career is a feminist lie. Since when are careers the source of human fulfillment? What is so great about being an Assistant Loan Manager at a bank? Is society expected to provide successive legions of eager feminists with "fulfilling" careers to compensate for their loveless lives?

2) Feminists are teaching women to be "strong and independent." This is not feminine. Men respond to a woman's need. We want to rescue the damsel in distress and to win her favors. This archetype is also innate in women. She wants to be enlisted by a man.

A feminine woman DEPENDS on a man. This doesn't mean she is an emotional waif. She is competent but she doesn't pretend to be independent. Men and women need each other to be whole. As long as I have my wife, I am self-sufficient. So is she.

3) Just as the woman is the heart of the family, the man is the head and shoulders. A feminine woman is her husband's partner. They make decisions together but he has the last word. Men must be the visionaries, the navigators, and the captains. A woman's most important decision is the man she chooses to love.

4) A feminine woman is reserved. She wants a man to pay attention to "her" so she doesn't flaunt her sexuality. A woman wants to be loved more than anything in the world. She wants to be "known" in all her divinity. This happens when she is truly loved. Is it a coincidence the Bible uses the word "know" as in Abraham "knew" Sarah, to speak of sexual intercourse? All women are beautiful when they are loved.

Women's liberation has taught women to pursue sex for its own sake, as though they were men. This is not feminine. If a man prefers a new car, why would he marry a "used" woman? He doesn't want a car that's been driven by a lot of men. He doesn't know where it's been, what damage has been done. He will choose a brand new car. In my wife's words: "A man wants to be a woman's first lover; a woman wants to be his last."

I'm not saying all women should save their virginity until marriage but certainly sex should be reserved for honest, loving relationships. Men need to stop looking for sex and start looking for the right woman. That's the only guarantee of sex anyway.

If men chose wives with the same attention as cars, more marriages would succeed. Women are the vehicles to the future, in terms of emotional fulfillment and family. If men knew where they wanted to go, they would choose women who would get them there. They would not be blinded by sex.

5) A feminine woman tries to please the man she loves. No, this has not been outlawed, it just seems that way. A feminine woman generates love by giving love. She empowers her man by believing in him. Love is expressed in actions and effort. Baking a pie is an act of love. So is making the home beautiful. Are we so blind, impoverished and demoralized that we cannot appreciate this? Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves.

A feminine woman has grace, beauty and wisdom. These all come from staying in touch with her spirit and not pursuing an exhausting career that requires masculine qualities.

On the "Oprah" Show, I saw three young women interviewed about the "quarter-life" crisis. They were having trouble getting their careers on track and because of their families' expectations they were falling apart.

Oprah urged these girls to "follow their instincts." No one mentioned that for women in their early twenties, "following their instincts" might entail having a baby. No one is following their instincts any more. They are doing what feminists tell them to do.

It's time men started listening to their instincts too. We want to be the masters of our domain. We want to love and possess ("pay attention," "know") our wives. We want to create families that are loving, lively and happy. It's time we embraced the quiet, unassuming beautiful women who want to be our soul mates.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: 20somethingslist; henrymakow; skinheadsonfr
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To: Marysecretary
You obviously don't know Dubyaismypresident. He likes the girl on top, not lying beneath him motionless.
141 posted on 12/05/2001 12:36:39 PM PST by Bella_Bru
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To: independentmind
I'll be damned, eng1A was a prerequisite for any major, including nuclear physics. Oh well, you're right, times long ago. What a breeze in your time, aye.
143 posted on 12/05/2001 12:41:43 PM PST by golder
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To: innocentbystander
Ahhhh....but those different strokes are ok. But when we are talking about women who do have brains, like to use them, like to speak up for themselves, are capable of being themselves and not worshippers, then that's bad, right?
144 posted on 12/05/2001 12:43:28 PM PST by Bella_Bru
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To: innocentbystander
You are a true gentleman, my friend! My husband's mother died when he was 13 and only had 2 older brothers whom had left the house. He had no practice with the ladies, he will unlock my door to the car and then walk to the driver's side without closing it. Also, will pull out my chair for dinner, and not slide it in, oh well, he gets E for effort though. It is the thought that counts.
146 posted on 12/05/2001 12:45:26 PM PST by Thisiswhoweare
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To: Bella_Bru
He'd rather have something else sucked. My man doesn't want a trained dog.

Judging from my Mr. B, this sort of thing comes naturally to a dog ... no training necessary!

147 posted on 12/05/2001 12:47:33 PM PST by Askel5
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To: innocentbystander
Wrestling? Is Jello involved? Or just mud? I ask because I just had my nails done.
148 posted on 12/05/2001 12:47:40 PM PST by Bella_Bru
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To: Askel5
LOL!

Wait....is oral sex wrong now too?

149 posted on 12/05/2001 12:48:46 PM PST by Bella_Bru
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To: Starmaker
Bump
151 posted on 12/05/2001 12:49:19 PM PST by Fiddlstix
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To: Bella_Bru
You seem to have the proper qualifications to serve Doom.

Submit resume and salary requirments to my chief lackey.


153 posted on 12/05/2001 12:52:06 PM PST by Doctor Doom
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To: innocentbystander
No. In fact I really was hoping there wouldn't be any mud or Jello involved.
154 posted on 12/05/2001 12:52:15 PM PST by Bella_Bru
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To: Starmaker
What is a feminine woman?

Someone who knows how assinine the concept of butt cleavage is

155 posted on 12/05/2001 12:53:22 PM PST by paul51
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To: Bella_Bru
To be honest, I still think the defining distinction of the feminine that is Modesty was a primary target of the "bra burning" sorts. Again, while I run with the boys myself as a rule, I try not to actually end up one of them.

I guess I'm still too much the nerd to be perfectly comfortable listening to or reading details of the pleasures a part of a couple's boudoir.

Sort of takes the punch out of their protesting that their "private lives" are their own and nobody else's business.

156 posted on 12/05/2001 12:55:54 PM PST by Askel5
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To: innocentbystander
Sorry, it's my red headed nature. But,I don't like to cook. My mom told me the old "A way to a man's heart", thing but, after a couple of the previous posts, that's a myth!
157 posted on 12/05/2001 12:57:46 PM PST by Thisiswhoweare
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To: independentmind
I must leave now. Hope to spar again, honey.
158 posted on 12/05/2001 12:59:35 PM PST by golder
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To: the_tisha_girl
Post #116

BUMP!

159 posted on 12/05/2001 1:01:49 PM PST by PoorMuttly
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To: japaneseghost
Do you really want a sweet, lovely wife who doesn't work, stays home and exercises so her body looks great, who greets you every night wearing a different peignoir or other romantic (not vulgar) lingerie. She greets you with small kisses and purrs in your ear. She draws your bath water. She recites poetry at the dinner table. She even sucks your toes in the bath.

Sounds like my wife and I love her dearly, and I treat her like a queen.

160 posted on 12/05/2001 1:02:54 PM PST by wwjdn
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