[vetvetdoug]

This is my first vanity post since coming to the FR. I'd like some advice.

[Stand Watch Listen]

My heart-felt condolences and prayers are extended to you and yours.

This post has wisdom within it. Friends are needed and to be cherished at this time. God bless

Daily Survival Kit
Source: Catholic Cemetery Bereavement Ministry;
Published: November 2001; Author:Sheryl Roush

[Poohbah]

I have no advice in this matter. You and your family are in my prayers.

[beowolf]

Having lost my lady three months ago under different circumstances, I can tell you that the first three months are the worst. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. As to the peripheral BS from gossips, etc...let your loss and rage be your guide. Shut them up by being rude, if neccesary. The 'second-guessers' will only make you feel worse.

Regards, From experience...

[Faith]

May God be with you and your daughter. This was not His will for your wife. Please accept my deepest sympathies and know that I will be praying for you.

[coronado]

I'm so sorry about your tragic loss. I would say get supportive Grandparents and siblings around and let them help maintain daily order and routine for the youngest...meals, baths, etc.. It will be too difficult for you at this point. You need the support of your friends and family.

[Orbiter]

You and your family in my prayers tonight.

My twin sister took her life when we were 23 years old. There are things about this tragic event nearly 20 years ago that I still refuse to deal with, but if there's one thing I have gotten over -- and fairly quickly -- was the "what are others saying?"

Don't beat yourself up with this one because it time you'll see that it never mattered.

[Salvation]

How are you doing today, Doug? Just remember to take one day at a time. Thinking of you and prayers are on the way.
Salvation

[Chemnitz]

Your post is very touching. I have dealt with suicide, serving as a minister. I know how devastating it is for the family. It is the worst kind of painful grief. Illness is bad. Murder is horrible. Suicide is the worst of all. Luther is correct in saying "Seek out the company of others, especially when you do not want it." It is not a time to be alone.

I am afraid you will have to deal with a lot of Job's comforters and busy-bodies. These people want to avoid pain by inflicting it. For every one of them there are dozens of caring people who will visit you, phone you, write you, cry with you.

There is much more of this tragedy around us than we realize. There are many survivors. You and your daughter are in God's hands. His promises are sure.

[Joe 6-pack]

You are in my prayers vvd

Surprised by Joy

SURPRISED by joy--impatient as the Wind
I turned to share the transport--Oh! with whom
But Thee, deep buried in the silent tomb,
That spot which no vicissitude can find?
Love, faithful love, recalled thee to my mind--
But how could I forget thee? Through what power,
Even for the least division of an hour,
Have I been so beguiled as to be blind
To my most grievous loss?--That thought's return
Was the worst pang that sorrow ever bore,
Save one, one only, when I stood forlorn,
Knowing my heart's best treasure was no more;
That neither present time, nor years unborn
Could to my sight that heavenly face restore.

-William Wordsworth

[Tuscaloosa Goldfinch]

I'm very sorry. I will pray for you and your little girl.

[Danette]

Widownet.com is the BEST. You'll find lots of advice and support. I'm so sorry.

[Nebullis]

My heartfelt condolences. This is surely a crisis time for you and your daughter. I hope you have close friends or family to help you through the holidays and beyond.

These sites may be helpful:

Suicide Bereavement Program
The American Assoication of Suicidology

You're in my thoughts.

[WarPaint]

My husband committed suicide. It will take as long as it takes for you to heal. You will "get on" with your life when you are ready. There is no time line for grief and healing. Pray. Talk to God. Read God's words. Take it a heartbeat at a time.

God bless you and your family.