The unforgiving Bushido code that all Japanese live under is probably playing a part in this. If a man is slightly imperfect, Japanese women don’t want to have anything to do with him.
Hence, herbivore men.
They have had bushido for centuries and not had this problem.
The root cause is that their rat race culture means little to no time for family
I posted this in a similar article about 2 weeks ago:
Japanese women have tremedous issues of their own.
They are two-faced (honne and tatemae). They will not tell you whats wrong. They will leave the relationship before telling you whatever the issue is. Huge problem, culturally.
They expect once married the man hands over his salry to them. Umm, no way. Dont care if dad did that for mom. If I’m not getting a traditional wife, don’t demand the man act traditional.
Third, the initial dating process of Japanese women destroys many good relationships but they don’t get the chance. The initial dates, first 3 or 4, if anything happens she doesnt like or is offended by, the guy won’t get ghosted. I am talking about stuff the average woman would be ok with, but for the 1st few dates she is hyper-critical of what the guy does and says. Like if he didnt iron his shirt properly. Like if she takes a comment the wrong way. They sabotage the chance of it working out. If a guy did this everyone would tell him hes an over-reacting baby. So the women there blow it this way.
Fourth, almost all Japanese women are atheists. May not be as major a deal to Japanese men, but to Christians and westerners thats a big deal. But anyone who doesn’t believe in a higher power, their moral foundations and way of viewing the world is a lot different than those who do.
Japanese women are very prideful as a group. If they decide to break it off with someone, they are too prideful to ever get back together with someone, even if they would want to, even if they realize maybe they were in the wrong. This level of pride is detrimental to relationships, and its something that can drive a person crazy in a very personal self controlled country like Japan.
There is also a huge cheating culture in Japan by both men and women. Women participate in the cheating culture there as well. Japenese women, being two faced, hiding things from a boyfriend or husband, are very good at hiding things from men, and they will hide their cheating from them as well. What she shows a man is not who she really is. Again its a cultural thing and its real. And its detrimental to trusting long term relationships.
The women there are not the cute adoring anime girls and the guys are always wrong.