Posted on 02/07/2023 2:16:23 AM PST by Recovering_Democrat
Anabely Lopes wanted a child more than anything, so the 44-year-old was ecstatic when she became pregnant last year — and then devastated when doctors said her unborn child had a fatal abnormality...
A new law restricting abortion access had gone into effect days earlier, and Lopes soon found herself on a plane, leaving South Florida to get an abortion at a clinic in Washington.
On Tuesday, Lopes will return to Washington, this time accompanying U.S. Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz to President Joe Biden’s State of the Union address...
(Excerpt) Read more at miamiherald.com ...
Trisomy 18 cannot be fixed in utero or otherwise.
“...her unborn child had a fatal abnormality...”
Like doctors are never WRONG! /s
Oh, we are ALL born with a fatal abnormality.
I understand what you are saying overall but I find it difficult to believe a woman could “enjoy” a pregnancy in such a situation.
How can a woman “enjoy” a pregnancy knowing that at any minute her baby may die in the womb or die withing minutes, hours or days after birth? I do not know as I was not able to get pregnant despite desperately wanting to have children and having undergone many tests and infertility treatments.
And I would also mention that a baby dying in the womb is not without risks to the mother as fetal death does not always result in a “spontaneous abortion”, i.e. a miscarriage and at her age and history of miscarriage, her pregnancy was already “high risk”.
I don’t want to sound cruel but woman were not meant to become pregnant at the age of 44. This does not mean I am advocating for an abortion. Just that be realistic about the limits of our biology would have saved a lot of grief and a life.
My wife still felt a bond with our son, even though she had so little time, because she could still feel him moving (barely), and knew he was in there. And in our case, the death did not result in spontaneous abortion; my wife had to use an abortifacient, but not until after our son died. But she still cherishes that time she had.
Good point. So just how fatal was fatal?
You are right. THis is from a Tallahassee Democrat article
“The only exceptions are if carrying the pregnancy to term would result in serious injury or death for the mother or if the fetus has a fatal abnormality.”
I am sorry for your loss.
I have a feeling there’s a lot of fiction woven into this story.
Yes the best sob story made a woman win the crown on the 50’s Queen for a day program.
LifeSiteNews.com he written stories about babies born with Trisomy 18.
Isnt having lots of abortions the cause for beaucoup miscarriages?
As I said, I was never able to get pregnant despite my husband and I trying for many years and both of us eventually undergoing many tests, some of them rather embarrassing like us having to have sex then immediately going to my GYN to have a swab done to determine if I was “hostile” to his sperm and killing them off before they could swim upstream (I’m not kidding) and my having an endometrial biopsy which was extremely painful.
My GYN referred us to one of the top infertility specialists in the area and under his care my taking fertility drugs and having artificial insemination 4 times using my husband’s sperm. Talk about taking all the “romance” out of it. He had a slightly low sperm count but was not determined to be the cause, but, in my case, there was never a definitive diagnosis which was frustrating, some vague determination that perhaps my hormones were off even though my “cycle” was completely normal and like clockwork. No endometriosis or other causes/abnormalities were ever found. Other than I was about 20 pounds overweight although very fit and active, during one appointment I caught a glimpse of his notes that deemed I was, in his words “morbidly obese” and unattractive. ☹
It was very painful waiting every other month or so to see if a pregnancy resulted after the painful injections of the fertility drugs and the inseminations, and it was almost like experiencing a loss every time it didn’t. Hard to explain to someone who hasn’t gone through it, but it was as if each time I felt the loss of a child that was never conceived in the first place.
Plus, the infertility drugs/hormone treatments put me on an emotional roller coaster. We didn’t want to do invitro in part because of the moral implications of what happens to fertilized eggs not implanted or what would happen should multiple eggs all implant, too many to carry and not wanting to have a “selective abortion/reduction” in that case, nor could we afford it because while some of my infertility treatments were covered by insurance, invitro wasn’t.
We tried adopting but again it was one disappointment after another. Two private adoptions, one facilitated by my aunt who’s maid had a pregnant daughter but decided to keep her baby and other through my husband’s boss who knew a teenage girl from his circle of friends from church who turned out to be a drug addict and faking a pregnancy in order to extort money, fell through and by now we were getting older, my husband was in his mid-40’s and a recovering alcoholic with over 10 years sobriety by now and I in my mid 30’s, and we were in no way wealthy, neither of us college educated, etc., we had a nice home but not a McMansion and good stable jobs but were working class, so most prospective birth mothers in private adoptions ruled us out plus the costs - legal and medical costs would have nearly bankrupted us.
And living in Baltimore City, we were turned down for being foster parents or for adoptions through the city because nearly all the children were Black or bi-racial and were told point blank by the city social worker that they would not place a Black or bi-racial child with us and without any discussion or consideration of what sort of parents we could be in that situation or the fact that I had several relatives with bi-racial children and a cousin who had adopted 2 Black children including one with special needs.
We looked into overseas adoptions but neither of us were in a position of needing to take off work and travel to a foreign country and possibly needing to stay there for weeks or months plus the costs of that.
Some years later my husband and I divorced so perhaps it was for the best although I think we may not have grown apart had we been able to have children.
Here’s hoping Tucker gets a chance to ask her a question.
I will come out and say this woman is a liar and just wanted an abortion.
Hmmmmm, apparently this Lopes woman either never heard of the sixth commandment or she doesn't understand what it means.
Ahem, Then, when she was 15 weeks pregnant, results from genetic testing confirmed what an earlier blood test had indicated: Her child had Trisomy 18, a genetic condition that affects how a child’s body develops and grows.
Exactly
a lot of fetal abnormality’s can be fixed before birth
never mind, not this type of defect..
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