Posted on 11/25/2022 5:31:51 AM PST by karpov
“This is going to ruin your life.” “You have to drop out of college.” “This is a mistake.” “Abort the baby .”
These words, uttered by people whom I trusted and loved most in this world, struck me like a knife.
When I learned I was pregnant , I was 21 years old and still in school. I was engaged to be married, and while those two pink lines came as a complete shock, I wanted to be a mother.
My feelings were overlooked by those close to me. Rather than offering support, my family and friends responded with criticism and doubt. It was Thanksgiving Day, and my fiance at the time told me to abort the baby and that we could "try again after we got married.” When I insisted on keeping my child, he abandoned me.
Scared, alone, and with no support, I stumbled upon the Pregnancy Resource Center of Rolla, Missouri. I sought out a free ultrasound, which was one of the many services it provided. While there, I met Jane Dalton, who served as the center’s client services director. I told her my situation, and in turn, she asked me what I wanted.
I wanted to be a mother — and a good one at that. But I also wanted to finish school and become financially self-sufficient. Jane told me that I could do all of those things and that the PRC would be there to help.
I soon moved into the maternity home connected to PRC and was immediately surrounded by love and support from complete strangers rather than the fear of family and friends that my life would hold less value as a mother.
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what sin, exactly, did she commit...?
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smh.
Premarital sex as a start.
What kind of idiot man seeks a wife, but doesn’t imagine that life-time commitment may involve children?
Well, let’s start with Original Sin. How’s that? Then the commandment against adultery maybe?
Seriously?
Hoss
Fornication, not adultery.
One day ,as an unmarried woman, she just woke up pregnant?
You might consider changing your handle to “clearlogic.”
Here's a hint.
It wasn't a virgin birth. And she wasn't married.
Apparently hers *do* according to most states. Or, to hit up the man for 18 years of child support, because it's her body, according to most states.
One of womens' favorite sayings regarding fornication, when it's time for *any* sort of consequences, is
"It just ...happened."
This is why chaperoning of all dates before marriage was a good idea.
(Men have always pressed for sex. The sexual revolution was when someone convinced the women that giving in was a good idea. And it only went down hill from there.)
Well there ya go. You did the “right thing” and have been rewarded. After Roe, males were relieved of this expectation. It didn’t make males or females better people.
I don’t know why 21 would be too young, either. My mother had me at 19, and she married Dad after she got pregnant with me. My grandparents on both sides loved me.
Why is it so hard for some families to just do that?
True. The original Greek word for adultery in the New Testament meant any sex outside of marriage, not just extramarital affairs.
That said, I do admire her for her choice in having the child, and I appreciate the role of the pregnancy center and the Daltons for helping her. But doing what gains the admiration of man, even “doing the right thing “ is not the way to God. Believing in the sufficient and effective death of Christ for all sins is the only way.
Pregnancy Resource Center of Rolla, Missouri.
Sounds like an Internet story.
A father in dire need of redemption, which God wants for him. Life will usually provide opportunities for learning to love.
Actually porneia is the Greek word for fornication and moicheía Is Greek for adultery.
Once again, my story:
I’ve mentioned before on FR how my mother sat this farm boy down the evening of my 16th birthday (before I left for town to see my friends, and cruise), and had a one to one talk. Her speech to me was riveting, her eyes locked on to me, as though this was a life or death message. (I knew my parents marriage was not strong. Dad was a Gregory Peck lookalike, and was pursued by various women. Their marriage failed 7 yrs after that speech).
Her love and concern for her children was immeasurable. I was a late bloomer, and when I finally physically matured, getting dates with very attractive girls was easy. Saying no was quite difficult, but I simply wasn’t going to give in to a girl I wasn’t in love with. A few girls dumped me for that reason.
Every guy should have a mom like I had. In that talk to me, she stressed that I respect myself AND the young lady I’m with. To not let myself get talked into something I would regret later. She was VERY emphatic that I not take advantage of a girl, saying if she found out I did, she would slap me HARD!
Then at 23 I was rewarded with a 21 yr old virgin, who made me wait until wedding night 11 months later. We both awkwardly started learning about sex that night, and 44 yrs later (Aug 12th) we still smile about our joint learning experience. The way God intended it to be.
**This is why chaperoning of all dates before marriage was a good idea.**
My first date was the Prom in high school. Some volunteer parents were present at all times. My second date was the first weekend at a Presbyterian college in Kansas. The girls brother lined up his best friend and friend’s fiance (seniors) to double date with his sister and I. He was probably thinking the football player has too much testosterone.
The brother’s friend ended up seeing the sister he was guarding being rather aggressive, and me being quite restrained. I didn’t go out with her again, concluding that the girl was definitely in the ‘easy’ category.
(Men have always pressed for sex. The sexual revolution was when someone convinced the women that giving in was a good idea. And it only went down hill from there.)
Sex outside of marriage is not a character builder, it’s a character corrosive.
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