Posted on 04/14/2022 5:59:39 AM PDT by Heartlander
When I was a child, there was a girl I knew whose father was well-known amongst us girls to show his penis at sleepovers. In retrospect, even aside from our loud murmuring, signs of abuse were everywhere. But the man was fairly prominent in evangelical circles, and a talented musician. Other adults cheered him on in public. Other adults permitted and promoted the idea that his house was a good place for sleepovers. Maybe these other adults were completely ignorant, maybe they were in denial, maybe they didn’t care, maybe they thought it was normal, or maybe they were playing a popularity game in a toxic social system of their own.
Either way, prepubescent girls were being molested for years. And those who weren’t being molested were learning their sexual dignity didn’t matter, which undoubtedly paved the way for poor sexual decisionmaking in the future. Perhaps if these parents would have been called out by other parents for their active participation in the grooming exercise, they would have realized their culpability in the matter.
But back then, much like today, many people didn’t like to call groomers out. Abuse remained in the shadows, under the cover of adult reputation. The difference now is that the culture of harm and perversity has been institutionalized across America. What was once seen as an indiscretion is now an industry.
And so, last week, as if triggered by some kind of underground bat signal, several familiar faces of Conservative Inc. simultaneously released op-eds and Twitter threads insisting that use of the term “groomer” in the context of fighting LGBT indoctrination in schools was very, very bad indeed.
In their view, the epithet is unfair, even immoral, because some take it as an unsubstantiated accusation of active pedophilia. “You may not be aware,” as David French lectured, “but right-wing media is swarming with allegations that anyone who, for example, opposes Florida’s House Bill 1557 (the bill misleadingly termed the ‘Don’t Say Gay’ bill by Democrats and many in the media) is either a ‘groomer’ or in league with groomers.”
Why any self-identified conservative would make defending groomers’ honor their first priority in this debate is a mystery for another day. But strictly on the merits, their conclusion is wrong because their premise is wrong. Grooming is a complicated system of behavior. What is it? Most basically, to groom is to prepare or train someone else for a particular activity. In the current political context, “grooming” certainly—and accurately—connotes sexually inappropriate ends, especially as its most recent usage was entirely swept up in the #MeToo movement. Even as grooming discourse reached its apparent zenith a few years ago, rape was not always the intended or actual end of the story. Rather, it was understood that to be a groomer was to actively participate in the broader system of manipulation. Ghislaine Maxwell and similar “recruiters” may not have been doing the raping, but they were all certainly engaged in grooming. Active participation does not imply full knowledge of the system itself; whether you’re a groomer or not does not rely on your own self-awareness. Orchestrated by the ill-intentioned, grooming is often facilitated by good country people, unaware that the cliches they’ve adopted as life mantras are actually deeply damaging to themselves and the people around them. Love is love, Miss Whatever exclaims, as she caringly simulates anal sex on a teddy bear to a classroom full of five-year-olds.
In the David French version of reality, where drag queen story hour is considered a blessing of liberty, a rainbow flag in preschool is merely a neutral object, misplaced by well-intentioned people who definitely don’t have any negative intentions for your children whatsoever. How do we know this? Because they’ve never explained their intentions. We must give everyone, especially our self-proclaimed enemies, the benefit of the doubt. Stated aims are to be believed as true intentions despite any evidence to the contrary. So, conservatives should bite their tongues. It’s just not fair to suggest that their behavior, no matter how thoroughly it greases the wheels for sexual misconduct and confusion, is grooming. Don’t believe your lying eyes, and definitely don’t say groomer.
I’d like to offer some encouragement for anyone who, as a result of has-been NeverTrump countersignalling, now finds themselves reticent about using the term “groomer” in the general political sense that current usage implies: use it.
Use it because it’s true. As I’ve just explained, people can be groomers without themselves wanting to rape children.
Use it because it’s effective. The culture war is a real war, and a very particular type of war at that: an insurgency. On one side, you have the institutions; on the other, a merry band of loosely organized rebels. Insurgency is characterized by asymmetry. Because they lack the institutional power, insurgents must rely on guerilla tactics in order to make any progress whatsoever. These tactics, in a war of language and law, boil down to political incorrectness. Political incorrectness, especially the word “groomer,” offends the enemy while galvanizing friends. Powerful memes such as this rarely conform to the tastes of bourgeois sensibilities.
Use it because they disapprove. One of the first requirements of submission to transgender ideology (or any totalitarian regime, really) is mandated speech. Recall the Jordan Peterson phenomenon circa 2015: Canadian professor comes under fire for resisting the enactment of a bill requiring the use of preferred pronouns; failure to comply was punishable by termination of employment. Fundamentally, the modus operandi of this movement is in the manipulation of reality through language. “Here’s a more palatable way to say this,” has become a favored tactic of those who manage the decline into unreality. If only as an act of resistance to this familiar tendency, this slippery slope we’ve been gaslit into denying, say the unspeakable words. The moment we stop is the moment we lose them forever.
And if we don’t use “groomer”, we lose this moment, too—and all that comes after. Midwit middle managers, bureaucrats, and journalists, whose life mission is to keep the establishment and their establishment career afloat, know that forcing their opposition to adopt their own sensibilities is an act of political castration. If you want to win on parents right, you must refuse to be groomed for establishment’s eunuch class.
Video: If Companies Took Grooming as Seriously as Racism - Allie Beth Stuckey (Humor)
That’s why many of us who have dealt with pedos stay silent.
The demon pervs are all too often “ pillars of the community “ and highly regarded by those who should have protected us from them.
If I had reported him to anyone of legal authority my entire family and most of my community would’ve “cancelled” me.
Harlan Ellison wrote a short story called “Hitler Painted Roses” that addressed this issue perfectly.
No. The word in the article is GROOMER, not "groomergate". There's nothing that waters down the seriousness of a legit crisis, scandal, or serious issue more than some tardo-monkey attaching the clichéd, trite, and knee-jerkish "-gate" modifier to the end of it!
Freaks bring their children to my neighborhood where they (kids) are encouraged to act out sexually towards each other and towards me - because I’m unpopular. This has been going on for many years. If I try to get law enforcement to do something, I get an ignorant lecture about “freedom of speech.”
The kids pretend they are shooting me. They are encouraged to approach me with weapons - it’s happened more than once. They watch my house continually and scream if I, for example, get up from a chair and walk across the room. They scream if I open the door. There’s a constant aural backdrop of adults making threats and expressing all kinds of pornographic weirdness. Part of it involves a drug cartel that an ex-boyfriend and some of his associates became associated with back in the 1990s but the fact that a lot of these guys - who I know are involved in porn production, and human/drug trafficking - affect a “cowboy” type persona so everyone assumes they are objecting to me and yelling sexual stuff at me to shame me for being a bad girl. It’s a very popular phenomenon that never seems to go out of style.
“The kids are PLAYING. They are expressing themselves. They are happy and well-cared-for. LEAVE THEM ALONE.” (When I’m saying that one of the older kids is taking the younger ones into the back of a van parked in the neighbs’ driveway and then a few minutes later they come out pulling their pants up, without shoes on. When I’m complaining about guys dressed as cowboys coming out of the neighbs’ house without shoes on, holding hands with little M3xican kids whose parents are notably absent. And the “t*tty shows” featuring very little girls being encouraged to take off their tops while women and men scream “slut! slut!”) (That last happened after Mr K - not the one on this forum - went to a meeting of the local HOA to complain about criminals moving into the area. They were expressing that they were angry with us by having a little-kid sex party!)
Sometimes when the noise level increases to the point that I’m gonna have to play Rammstein’s greatest hits at top volume to block it out, I will let everyone in the vicinity know how I feel by sticking my head out the door or window and yelling out:
“ISN’T IT RELAXING LISTENING TO THESE FREAKS TRYING TO GET THEIR CHILDREN IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW??? OR SHOT???? IT’S CALLED GROOMING! IT’S JUST ONE OF THE MANY WAYS THEY SUPPORT ORGANIZED CRIME HERE IN PINE, COLORADO!!!”
Lately they will come on Freerepublic - because they know they won’t find me on twatter or faceberg - to complain about me not being nice to their kids.
Anyone who brings their kid into an environment like this needs his head examined, Mr Blackface.
Kind of a shame that people - conservatives especially - need to have this stuff explained to them.
The “gay agenda” is real. It’s a lot more real than you think. In fact, you may REALLY be a part of it.
Groomers have a devastating effect on trust, for those who carry themselves uprightly in word and deed are also soiled in reputation as a result of what is done in supposed secrecy. The same holds for serial killers, I reckon. How many times have we heard, “ But he was such a good example in every way. I never would have thought him capable of this.”
The antidote to all deviance that arises in the heart is Christ Jesus and his Word. Anything else is posturing that will end badly. There are no band aids for sin and death. There is only a real crucifixion and resurrection in the Body of Christ, once for all.
Great piece and fantastic video. Thank you!
Another word for IT is Disneyed.
Exhibit A: Jimmy Savile. Had the backing of members of the British royal family, the BBC and most of the British establishment. You can watch videos of him from the time and he couldn’t give off a slimier, sleazier, Uncle Ernie from the rock opera “Tommy” vibe. I wouldn’t have let my children be anywhere near him.
Use groomer but please not grooming. Kids need to learn good grooming. Also, we need husbands and stable hands, but they are just grooms.
Always beware of the goodie two shoes, male or female.
Wow - the perfectly accurate term “groomer” certainly seems to have pinched a few guilty consciences in people I didn’t think had them. Most of the offenders don’t, but their defenders apparently do. Look for the word to be declared “hate speech” shortly if it hasn’t already.
Kind of like a POTUS’S FAMILY???
BINGO!!
Just checked your profile page. YOU GO! You are fighting the GOOD fight.
Pretty much.
When they put that demon swinwalker up as the nominee, it really jacked up my PTSD.
It is HELL having a grinning pedophile running around scot free AND running MY country.
[straight into the ground]
To curb stomp me even further, my PTSD dog has osteosarcoma so I am seriously not in a good place.
I would bet money that a LOT of other abused [former] kids are also in that bad place, as well.
I have tried to always consider that there may be good, decent, nice Democrats out there.
No more.
They are evil, the enemy and he is their infernal majesty.
Oh my God.
:(
I have not “trusted” anyone fully since I was 10 years old.
50 years of living like a lone, hunted thing, always hyper-vigilant and alert.
People tell me to “relax”.
That word has literally NO meaning to me.
I am wet wired to be on guard, 24/7.
Since my PTSD dog was diagnosed with osteosarcoma January 7, I have gone back to the night [day?] terrors, sleep walking and staying awake all night until the sun comes up because someone has to “stand guard” at all times.
Every pedophile kills their victims even if they leave them breathing.
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