Posted on 03/10/2020 9:48:28 AM PDT by C19fan
Middle class Americans are opting not to marry because until they're financially ready, according to new research that shows people value having a lot of money and a career they enjoy more than a legal union.
Student loans and other debts get in the way of marriage which is nowadays regarded as a 'capstone achievement' that comes once an individual has set up for a stable future, researchers say.
While 60 percent of Americans said they had been married in 2002 that dropped to 50 percent in 2017.
In that same 15-year period the cohabiting figures rose from 54 percent to 59 percent, according to Pew Research.
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How sad to not be responsible enough to see the big picture and put off one of the greatest human experiences called marriage..
My family bought a color TV when I was fifteen. Our vactions were spent in National Parks, sleeping in an army surplus tent. One phone line (a party line). Comparing apples to oranges? Probably, but we did without or bought used. Yes, college debt is an issue today, but trade schools are still an affordable option. Getting the dream job was usually not an option when I grew up.
My wife and I decided to forgo the $15-20k wedding, scale down to just immediate family and very inner circle of friends for a $750 backyard party and bought a house instead. Would definitely recommend.
My wife and I married before a judge, in his office for $150. Big weddings are foolish, conceited affairs that presume burden upon everyone involved.
I had paragraphs when I typed it. Don’t know what happened.
Mom and Dad spent 50 bucks on a wedding. Two photos. Today a wedding photography charges a few thousand. Guess what ends up in the trash first, after a divorce.?
BS.
My guys avoid the insane women out here. The best ones want to be supported materially, loved, adored and give nothing in return.
What’s theirs is theirs and what’s yours is theirs. It is completely one way.
If the milk was the reason for the marriage this trend's probably for the best.
They just move in with one of the parents and they have it all. I need to do without!!
Damn...I married my wife for her credit score. She married me for earning potential.
It worked out fine. Ha ha.
These ridiculously expensive celebrity weddings all ended in divorce.
Very nice! I got married in my in-law’s driveway. It was a nice driveway in a rich town in CT, but still — no need for anything fancy. People need to live the life they can afford.
My wife and I married before a judge, in his office for $150. Big weddings are foolish, conceited affairs that presume burden upon everyone involved
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In many cases I would agree but your blanket statement is not correct.
My wife and I put on a modest wedding for my son using resources that we already had. We invited friends and family that love and cherish the newly weds just like we do and will hold them up in support through their lives. Our celebration focused on the marriage covenant as it should with those in attendance being in agreement.
The ceremony and the modest expense ($1500) was no burden at all and my daughter in law got a good understanding of how you can do something very special without spending obscene amounts of money.
Bulkbleep. Money never stopped people who wanted to marry. Never
I think they mean spouses assuming the debt of the other. My sister won’t marry her fiance because she has medical debt
That, and
Can't get married, or don't want to hook themselves to somebody with debt because they're just not that committed?
I had a friend who 30 years ago was getting married. Her Dad sat the couple down. He took out a check for $10k. That was what he could afford.
They took the check, got married in a small family mass, and went to the Greek islands for two weeks. They came home and rented a hall and threw a party.
They made money.
THAT is the way to get married.
You left off the fact that getting married today is much longer and less efficient process than just finding a woman you hate and buying her a house.
In my hubby’s family, it wasn’t uncommon for the younger generations to move back in with the elders. But that was so the youngers could take care of the elders, not the other way around.
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