Posted on 10/11/2019 4:52:18 AM PDT by Kaslin
Successful women face special barriers in love and marriage, according to one relationship coach. But that doesn’t mean they can’t still strive for a happily ever after.
On October 9, the Washington Examiner published an opinion piece on, “Why super-successful women struggle in love.” Relationship expert and author Suzanne Venker claimed that “few, if any, women” can have both “power in the world” and “power in bed.” While she backed up her arguments, her piece left something to be desired by women: encouragement.
Venker began by referencing a Wall Street Journal piece, arguing that “As women have become more and more rich, love has indeed become more and more elusive.”
She pointed to an email about one of the women dealing with this very problem – written by the woman’s mother.
“I’d like to talk to you about my daughter who’s a high achiever,” the mom began. “She’s a thirty-eight-year-old, well-educated (two Ivy League schools), creative, intelligent, sophisticated, loving, successful, attractive, with a model-like body, and surprisingly can’t find a desired partner.”
While previously “she wasted many years on several senseless relationships,” her daughter is “extremely unhappy that she doesn’t have a partner,” or children.
In response, Venker urged that not only do successful single women struggle, but also women who serve as the primary breadwinner. There are many reasons why “love becomes a struggle the more successful women become,” she said, including the “pursuit of a post-secondary education and career.”
“Jumping in full throttle and making work the center of one’s life, as young women are encouraged to do, invariably means this group will be unable to take advantage of their greatest marital bargaining power,” she said.
That main “bargaining power” appeared to be beauty.
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Thanks for that article.
Glad to know my son will be married forever.
Women pick who they have sex with.
Men pick who they marry.
Each sex has the most power over that aspect if relationships they happen to value second highest.
It’s ironic.
The author seems young and her advice at the end of the column is BAD advice for women. In fact her advice/conclusions are NO different from liberal feminism that one might find from mags like Cosmo or J!zzebel.
"I get older, they stay the same age."
If a woman I was dating had a "relationship coach", I would run for the hills.
Soft wall== not getting hit on /picked up by the hottest Chars anymore.
Hard wall==can’t even stick the landing by marrying a “oh, he’ll *do*” (eye roll) beta.
Tru dat. Women are the gate keepers to sex. They should be, eggs are expensive. Conversely, men are the gate keepers to commitment, which at one time, meant security and resources.
Can’t find men == woman code for “can’t attract the man/level of man I really want (”deserve”)”
The only thing I would add to the Woman store is “can cook.” Most women know the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
“Women pick who they have sex with.
Men pick who they marry.
Each sex has the most power over that aspect if relationships they happen to value second highest.
It’s ironic.”
That looks like an economic compact. Like a deal.
Marriage definitely looks, today, like an investment strategy for women. Not a lifelong journey where you take care of each other through life’s triumphs and travails.
Men lose control over all of it once they say ‘I do.’ Currently. Doesn’t have to always be that way, but if it is going to change, it’ll be up to women.
And she starts getting her head filled with radical feminist theory.
I work with a young woman who just recently started dating a young man. He asked her out for breakfast at IHOP. Instead she invited him to her home and cooked him a banquet style breakfast.
I see an engagement ring in her near future.
If a woman goes down on a guy, she wants a fling, maybe a relationship. If she starts cooking, she means LTR or marriage.
You might have a point there.
However, the idea they were pushing to me is the marriage suffered because of the time, stress, and jealousy concerns.
But since you mentioned the feminazi influence, now that I am older and wiser. I bet that has a lot do with it.
Women and men are so much more than wealth and power. But we make our choices, don't we?
Milk, cow, etc.
Spin it as “lots and lots of sex” WHEN married. Tell him you want to FLOOD the gene pool with him!
Yup.
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