Posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the “Male/Female Hour.” A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in.
For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:
“Dennis, I want to get right to it. I’m 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that’s the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don’t make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
“I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you’re working to compete in the world, and what you’re doing is competing with men. Men don’t like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
“And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can’t get off that track, because now you’ve got to make the money to pay your bills. It’s hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It’s not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it’s lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don’t do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don’t want other women to do what I have done.”
I asked, “Was it hard for you to make this call?”
She responded: “It was. I want to be anonymous because I don’t want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like ‘My career is everything. I love working.’ But it’s a lie on the inside for me. It’s unfortunate. I didn’t realize this until it’s too late. I don’t know if it’s too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.
“You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who’s going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there’s no other income there to help you. These are things you don’t understand when you’re in your 20s because you don’t think you’ll ever get old and have health problems.
“I’m stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it’s very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It’s painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.
“Somebody asked me the other day, ‘Why did you stay single and never have kids?’ There’s answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it’s hard and it’s shameful to tell people, ‘I don’t know. I ran out of time.’
“There’s not a good answer for it except: ‘I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men, and make money.’ Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband—my father.
“She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That’s what I want women to know.
“I didn’t realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That’s when you’re still very cute. That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone. It’s harder in your 50s, when you’ve lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you’re so used to being alone. It’s hard to undo that, so don’t do what I did. Find someone in your 20s.”
I said, “I’m thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column.”
“Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can,” she said.
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There’s a reason healthy skepticism is called healthy.
Accepting and adhering to whatever you’re told to do is risky even if it looks to be the safe, popular option.
Feminism at its core is an anti fertility cult.
John 8:44: Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Gloria Steinem and her feminist apparatchiks destroyed a lot of lives driving men and women apart. I feel most sad for Baby Boomer women who bought into her garbage. Bitter lonely emotionally bereft women.
Boomer men like myself looked abroad for more traditional relationships.
Duh.. And therein lies the reason so many guys have no desire to make a commitment: commit to whom— a competitor? Why would anyone do that?
OK stop the tape right there. Why in the Wide World of Sports does anyone need 4 college degrees?
Bump for Dennis. This lady speaks the truth but will anyone listen?
She points it out perfectly. It’s a false image of what a woman should be. She is lamenting the course she chose for herself. Yet, she would probably do it all over again.
To find one that was marketable?
I only have two degrees, undergrad and MBA. I'm also 38, female, single, never married, never wanted to be married, and quite content with my life. And I don't need to lectured by this woman on the mistakes she thinks she made. That's fine for her, it's not the same for everyone else.
If you get an education “to the maximum level” (per the article), you would get a bachelor’s, master’s and Ph.D in a subject. She may have added on a law degree or an MBA.
I like to think on quiet nights sometimes that...
The angry young incel males and the lonely middle aged feminist cat wives find each other when they are in their 40’s and 50’s. Then they have somebody to plan vacations with and take them to medical appointments.
For women...if you want a good man, get him in your 20s. Do not wait until your 30s. It will be MUCH harder. By your mid 30s your chances of ever getting married are vanishingly small. Nature gives you tremendous power from your teens through your late 20s. Use it wisely. Do not wait thinking you can defy the laws of biology and get the kind of man you’re going to be happy with after college and grad school and after establishing yourself in your career.
Also, this
That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone.
Obviously English wasn't one of her degrees.
That could have been written by some of my college friends. :-[
She's right. Women in their 20s are indeed very cute.
The more letters after your name the more dough you get...............
I have close relatives who fit that profile to a T.
I could never discuss that directly with them.
It would be too humbling for them, and too intrusive for me.
So we keep it light banter. “Hi, enjoy ‘the holiday!’ Bye!’
Nothing any deeper than that.
Many men also deal with the aftermath of putting off starting a family while you’re still young. Put it off until it’s too late. I count my many blessings each day, but that (the consequences of not starting a family) is what I’m dealing with right now.
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