Posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Respectfully Jeff, we both want to stay married. It's not really a joking matter.
This is going to if not become the norm, at least challenge the norm.
There are a lot of us out there who for one reason or another put off marriage, yet never wanted to put off marriage. We're going to screw up a lot of things. We're going to screw up marriage counseling in both churches and secular institutions because we weren't what the counselors were trained to deal with. Our problems and trouble areas are a bit different than the hormonal 20 somethings that they were trained to deal with.
My wife and i are just the tip of the ice berg.
bttt
“I have found that my worst coworkers tend to be older women with no husbands and no children. They are just bitter and unhappy.”
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Maybe they sense that you feel superior to them.
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I'm happy that you're content with your life. I really mean that.
When I was 38, I was a lonely person with few prospects for the sort of golden years I'd envisioned for myself. I'd always pictured myself as having a large and loving family in my later years, and could see that the clock was quickly running out for me to make that dream come true.
Long story short, I rectified that situation in the next two years. Today, I'm the proud father of six kids, and have five grandkids. I can't tell you how satisfying and worthwhile it's been to make that happen.
I know it may not be your hope, but it's my hope for you, that you will find a way to create something similar for yourself.
Peace
That's some solid wisdom there. I highly urge all young women to follow it.
Yeah, they are. Only our modern, screwed up culture makes it seem otherwise.
I don't buy that for a second.
Creating and having a family is one of the central aspects of the human experience. Those who have bought into the concept of fulfillment without family, have no idea what they've given up.
Then again, those who've watched their clocks run out, probably do.
It is not that unusual. I have 3--AA, BS, Ph.D. Some people get a MS or two, some get two Ph.D.s or a Ph.D. along with a medical degree of some sort. Often, people consider the degrees they have and think that they could do so much more if they only had more degrees.
I did not go this woman's route. I'm almost at 38 years of marriage, and have two kids and two grandkids. I rejected feminism.
Boy, did you push a button there.
My 20 year old daughter married her 30 year old boyfriend some months back. They tied the knot primarily because she found out she was four months pregnant.
The boy was at least good enough to do the right thing and make my kid an honest woman, but he's proving to be woefully unprepared for the responsibilities of his new role(s) in life.
He's a decent enough guy, but he only left home to live with my girl a year ago. He was working at a burger joint and taking business administration classes part time. Not really all that together for someone his age, you know?
He left the burger joint and got a better job after they found out about the baby, but now they can't make the bills, and are being forced to move in with his parents.
I'm just crossing my fingers that me and Mom don't have to intervene at some point to pull their fat from the fire.
And here I thought I was robbing the cradle because my wife and I are 19 years apart!
Just messin' with ya, mate.
I know. But I still like to think upon happy endings every now and then.
I’m with you. I’m the single one at 53 and all my married friends and family members complain to me constantly about the men in their lives. Some of the women she envies may be quietly envying her in return, for being free.
Yeah, they are. Only our modern, screwed up culture makes it seem otherwise.
Everyone should get married and have kids? Really?
I have no particular desire to be married, and even less so to have children. Please explain to me how this would make for a happy, healthy family.
Kids are not all they are cracked up to be either.
I found it interesting that every single family that was religious and had children, divorced by the time the last kid was out except for the ones that had one needy dramatic spouse and one who catered to that spouse. Families of 6 to ten children... families where the last kids leave when the parents are in their sixties... all divorced.
Tell you brother, you would not BELIEVE the grief i caught from women my own age when my wife and i were dating...she looks 10 years younger than her actual age. One woman actually asked me...What's the matter, can't handle a woman your own age?" To which i had to reply No, i can't handle Post-menopausal drama queens who need to b!+ch about something.
That was when i learned for certain what "Well, Bless your heart" really means when uttered by a Southern woman, LOL.
i am so happy that my wife and i now live in Central Pennsylvania.
One woman actually asked me..."What's the matter, can't handle a woman your own age?" To which i had to reply No, I can't handle Post-menopausal drama queens who need to b!+ch about something.
One woman actually asked me..."What's the matter, can't handle a woman your own age?" To which i had to reply No, i can't handle Post-menopausal drama queens who need to b!+ch about something.
Heh... Sounds like green eyed jealousy to me.
Read all the responses, guess it’s time I chimed in.
Met my wife when she was still in high school, I was three years out of the Corps.
Didn’t start dating her until she was 20,(I was 30).
Married her when she was 21, put her through school for her Bachelors Degree in Speech Pathology and Teacher Education (she has 2 degrees, I have 1, Hydrology).
She finally caught up on the pay scale after we had been married about 15 years.
In the interim we had two kids (one boy, one girl), we both worked our tails off to give them a better life.
BEST 41 YEARS OF MY LIFE, had to browbeat her into retiring.
LIFE IS JUST SO DAMN GOOD!
I am here to eat popcorn, and read the comments.
You done it right, bruh.
Hats off to ya!
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