I’m with you. I’m the single one at 53 and all my married friends and family members complain to me constantly about the men in their lives. Some of the women she envies may be quietly envying her in return, for being free.
Some married women are just complainers. When they’re not griping about their husbands, they’re griping about their friends, or their siblings, or life in general.
When I was younger, I used to have coffee with a group of ladies once a month. Our children were all pre-school aged. These women took turns complaining about their husbands and their lives. I thought my husband was a great guy and still do. So I had little to say, because I didn’t think like them. It became less fun to hang around these women month after month, Soon I stopped attending their bitching sessions. I was a lot happier!
I suspect that if you start to pay closer attention to your married friends, you’ll find that they are types that enjoy complaining. I also suspect that not ALL of your married friends do this, but the loudest ones are the only ones you’re hearing.
Except to a close confident (everyone needs to vent once in a while), married people should never bad mouth their spouses.
When a marriage goes sour it's usually because one or both members went into the marriage focused on him/herself, or thinking that he/she will be fulfilled in the marriage.