Posted on 11/27/2018 6:08:59 AM PST by Kaslin
Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the "Male/Female Hour." A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in. For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:
"Dennis, I want to get right to it. I'm 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that's the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don't make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
"I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you're working to compete in the world, and what you're doing is competing with men. Men don't like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
"And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can't get off that track, because now you've got to make the money to pay your bills. It's hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It's not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it's lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don't do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don't want other women to do what I have done."
I asked, "Was it hard for you to make this call?"
She responded: "It was. I want to be anonymous because I don't want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like 'My career is everything. I love working.' But it's a lie on the inside for me. It's unfortunate. I didn't realize this until it's too late. I don't know if it's too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.
"You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who's going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there's no other income there to help you. These are things you don't understand when you're in your 20s because you don't think you'll ever get old and have health problems.
"I'm stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it's very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It's painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.
"Somebody asked me the other day, 'Why did you stay single and never have kids?' There's answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it's hard and it's shameful to tell people, 'I don't know. I ran out of time.'
"There's not a good answer for it except 'I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men and make money.' Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband -- my father.
"She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That's what I want women to know.
"I didn't realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That's when you're still very cute. That's when you're still amiable to working out problems with someone. It's harder in your 50s, when you've lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you're so used to being alone. It's hard to undo that, so don't do what I did. Find someone in your 20s."
I said, "I'm thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column."
"Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can," she said.
I told a buddy - she has a hole in her that cannot be filled.
She’s 50. Very, very unlikely she will even find a relationship let alone get married.
Toys.
It’s going to be hard for the younger women (20’s) to find men who will be at the headship of a household. Sadly, many of the younger women I know who wish to marry and raise a family are finding only “pajama boy” types to date. One young lady said she doesn’t want to be driving the train of the relationship while the man sits in the caboose playing video games..
As some young people say about your older friend: “Congratulations! Empty Soulless Vessel Unlocked!”
The same is true regarding the whole “embrace your homosexuality” mindset. It’s like telling an alcoholic to embrace it and drink more.
That people are attracted to the same sex is not the point, we don’t know why that happens but it does. That said, allowing it to DEFINE who and what you are becomes a long term problem. The results are the same, you lose your youth, become unattractive, unwanted, with no kids or family future - you’ve built nothing that matters as you age.
Even getting “married” doesn’t solve this, statistically you won’t adopt and will have “other partners” while married. Most don’t “marry” anyway. It’s no wonder their lifespan is short.
I only had a single child - which was a mistake. That I’m blessed with two grandkids makes me very appreciative.
One thing not mentioned here is women and minorities are seeking dominance, not equality.
True - but God’s plan for women to respect their men and for men to love their women, and form a cooperative team structure is the best recipe out there....way more unhappy/activist/obnoxious women out there since their placement in the workforce became not only standard but required for many households to get ahead...
She better keep her name quiet. If they ever learn it the femi-nazis will truly make her life hell.
My ex is a FAR left woman’s libber and she has got to be one of the most hateful people on the planet.
A neighbor, a single woman in her 60’s with a long career, recently told my husband she’s envious of his marriage, that he has someone to care for him in old age. She said in her next life she’s definitely going to marry. She’s very involved with animal rescues, but she said she’s tired of caring for dogs.
And not just jealous and bitter, but so jealous and bitter that they want company, lots of company and they will do ANYTHING to drag other women down to THEIR level.
My mother had both a career and a family, but family came first. She had a feminist co-worker who constantly tried to get her demoted or worse. But Mom was a Saint who seldom, if ever, responded in kind. Mom was the type of person who treated the cleaning lady with the same courtesy, if not more, than another professor.
Eventully, they both retired and the feminist tearfully confessed to Mom that my mother was the ONLY friend she ever made in 25 years on the job together.
That may very well be correct.
My assertion stands.
Sounds like you have had a pretty impressive career to me.
A man can't be the answer to your happiness. If he's a good man he can compliment your happiness. Your happiness comes from within if you love and respect yourself.
...it is going to take a massive cultural revolution to overthrow entrenched feminist dogma.
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Everything comes and goes in cycles. As more and more young people, male and female, see the results of this extremism, they will begin to go their own way, often together.
This week I learned that SnapChat is used for webcam porn shows. I always thought it was a social media site for the young. (maybe that isn’t a contradiction. IDK). I’ve seen the texts published from the dating sites..I wasn’t enthralled. I listen to the young women who all look alike trying to bully the men around them. Now, that’s destined to not facilitate romantic partnerships, if anything is. MGTOW will be lonely for the guys, too. Only the centralized state wins with the present dynamic.
I’m old, so I may not live to see sanity reemerge among the young, but I’m sure it will happen at some point.
The media will only report it after the fact, with appropriate horror as yet another scheme of theirs fails.
Things that money can buy are temporary, or as I told WBill Jr the other day - "What's the point to being rich, if you don't have any time to spend it, or anyone to spend it with?". I hope he was listening.
Financial troubles, too, are temporary, though at the time they loom quite large. I wish you luck!
Same here - but the recipe in Ephesians is a good rule of thumb...if both partners follow it, good things happen....I had a really bad marriage the first time around but am married to a gem of a woman now...we both believe in Biblical principals and truths and most of the conflict between men and women these days is that the PC crowd has infiltrated so deeply that many find themselves doubting the Truth and thinking there has to be a better way....a culture of dissatisfaction breeds long-term cultures of dissatisfaction.
she’s 100% correct.
If you don’t have a kids there are a lot of people who, after a certain age, will treat you a little warily, like a Bell Tower Shooter in training.
Almost all of them are really polite about it, but you can still tell.
It’s like there are these huge question marks over their heads, made out of billowy clouds.
There remains something unresolved in their minds.
It’s not an either/or proposition. My wife (who has a very successful professional career) and I have five children, four of them girls. All four girls have graduate degrees and fine careers. The two oldest are married and have children. The two youngest will be married this Spring and intend to have children. Based on our family’s experience, it is possible for a young woman to pursue an advanced education and a career while still having a strong family live which includes children.
The REAL objectives of feminism:
1. Spite by barren women
2. Jealousy of ugly women
3. Desire of lesbians for more dating options
4. Desire by BigGummint types to indoctrinate kids
5. Desire by taxman that the work of women be taxable
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