Posted on 11/27/2018 6:08:59 AM PST by Kaslin
Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the "Male/Female Hour." A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in. For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:
"Dennis, I want to get right to it. I'm 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that's the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don't make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
"I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you're working to compete in the world, and what you're doing is competing with men. Men don't like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
"And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can't get off that track, because now you've got to make the money to pay your bills. It's hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It's not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it's lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don't do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don't want other women to do what I have done."
I asked, "Was it hard for you to make this call?"
She responded: "It was. I want to be anonymous because I don't want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like 'My career is everything. I love working.' But it's a lie on the inside for me. It's unfortunate. I didn't realize this until it's too late. I don't know if it's too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.
"You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who's going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there's no other income there to help you. These are things you don't understand when you're in your 20s because you don't think you'll ever get old and have health problems.
"I'm stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it's very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It's painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.
"Somebody asked me the other day, 'Why did you stay single and never have kids?' There's answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it's hard and it's shameful to tell people, 'I don't know. I ran out of time.'
"There's not a good answer for it except 'I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men and make money.' Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband -- my father.
"She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That's what I want women to know.
"I didn't realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That's when you're still very cute. That's when you're still amiable to working out problems with someone. It's harder in your 50s, when you've lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you're so used to being alone. It's hard to undo that, so don't do what I did. Find someone in your 20s."
I said, "I'm thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column."
"Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can," she said.
Rush Limbaugh makes a similar observation. For me, I look at who benefits the most from current feminism: unattractive women who either have no prospects of getting a husband who would satisfy them, or who have no interest in men.
“It’s nice that this lonely voice is saying “Don’t do it!” but it is going to take a massive cultural revolution to overthrow entrenched feminist dogma. “
I think an EMP attack oughtta do it!
As a society, we should encourage women to marry young, when they have most of their fertile years ahead of them. We need to get the majority of middle-class women to marry young enough that it's viable for them to have three or more kids.
A woman who marries at 22 has many more years of prime fertility ahead of her, and is more likely to have children.
We will make a decision in the next year or so where I will die ... here or there.
LIVING in a tropical paradise (it is not ALL typhhoons) beats paying for an overpriced vacation once every year or two.
Per chance are you referring to Matthew 6:33 which says:
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
This advice is timeless.
I guess she did was told "don't settle" and ended up left standing without a chair to sit in when the music stopped. I know too many people like this person.
If a woman is prepped to bail out at the first sign of turbulence, then that is what will happen. If a woman has an incentive to navigate her way through the turbulence, then that is what she will focus on.
Don't get mad at me for speaking the truth. North Texas has seen an influx of Muslims in the past 10-20 years. These women have no interest in taking care of themselves, and it shows. They're just breeders for the cause.
It's easy to see foreign women here who want to assimilate: you'll often find them wearing yoga pants...lol.
There’s more to a woman than a child-bearer.
We can instill in a young girl that having and raising children is a woman’s greatest joy; but I think it’s wrong to suggest subliminally that if you don’t marry in time and can’t do it, you’re going to be failure and have an unhappy life.
Try "House of Cards" NOW on NETFLIX.
The reality of DC and Presidential everything will scare you considering the episodes seem to have been filmed about a year after real life
I'd advise against relying on clichés as a guide for your life.
There is a recipe for a good life, though in this life it will not be perfect. It's based on God's design -- it won't look the same for everyone, but that's where it needs to start.
That’s the perfect advice. I live in the world of this age group. You can gain back some youth on that alone.
It's not the culture as much as the legal incentives. Bring a "traditional" Asian wife back to the US, and she will be just as likely to divorce-rape you as an American woman. You would have to permanently expat yourself to that culture (and its legal system).
Like you, I kept my desire for marriage and children a secret. My dad especially had high hopes and big dreams for my future career. I met my husband after college. The moment our first baby was born I lost any remaining enthusiasm for a career. I sometimes think my dad would have been less disappointed in me if I’d gotten pregnant in high school than he was when we kept having kids. I know I’m a disappointment to him, but I’m happy with my life.
Instead of having an impressive career, I homeschool our kids and work part time as a waitress-same job I had in high school and college. Sometimes I think about how much money I wasted on a degree, but after working in a male dominated career field I know for certain that marriage and motherhood is what God intended for me, so I’ll never wonder “what if?”. I didn’t marry for money so we had several years of intense financial strain, but God saw us through and we are, hopefully, on the other side of that. I still wouldn’t trade what I have for financial security.
I got it backwards (i.e. get into the Lord first and the health club second).
If she were to do that, she would discover life anew.
Good post. True.
They’ve been telling boys for decades that “Women need men like fish need bicycles.” Pubic schools have been neutering boys for decades, first with words, now with behavioral drugs.
Many young men’s eyes are now opening, though. MGTOW is an interesting trend. “Men need women like birds need anchors.”
Maybe not an empty hole, but an empty soul.
May your continuing friendship be a positive influence.
She'll need a real friend someday when the pricks are all gone and the venereal disease just hangs on.
FReegards!
I am familiar with that crowd. Your story is correct; they are broken people. Too much SITC nonsense and too many (ahem) “partners” (lotsa), during their lifetime has damaged their ability to pair bond.
One thing I would say to this women is that when you get into a really serious daily exercise program (particularly cardio), you begin to see that your life lies in front of you, not behind you.
As an aside, it is apparent that this women is depressed about the state of her life. That will go away when she starts getting fit and gets into a physically active lifestyle.
I am familiar with that crowd. Your story is correct; they are broken people. Too much SITC nonsense and too many (ahem) “partners” (lotsa), during their lifetime has damaged their ability to pair bond.
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.