Posted on 10/16/2018 2:12:15 PM PDT by Liberty7732
I’ve raised six boys to manhood and I think I have a pretty solid handle on what would solve the anger of feminists at men. But they won’t like the answer. Really won’t like the answer.
This thinking is spinning off from the political hackery against Brett Kavanaugh that also exposed some really strong emotions from a subset of women against men. Kavanaugh personally may have been innocent of the evidence-less accusations, but he acted as a locum for the generic anger this group of women have for men — for myriad reasons.
For some, there is real cause to be angry at a man, or a few men, who have acted badly. For others, it is a sort of unhinged anger building up through the feeding of a narrative. The latter is mostly represented in an astonishing opinion piece that the Washington Post published from a retired female college professor.
The Post’s screed by a retired Grinnell College history professor who admitted to going off on her husband for a 30-minute screaming tirade after the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation that started with the headline, “Thanks for not raping us, all you ‘good men.’ But it’s not enough” and included gems such as “I hate all men and wish all men were dead.”
Remember, she said this To. Her. Husband.
Now this woman appears to be the typical college professor feminist, but not the typical American or American woman, as we noted last week in a study that identified seven categories of Americans by general worldview. The smallest identified in the study (and by far the loudest, magnified by the media and Hollywood) is the “progressive activist” contingent of 8 percent.
But she is emblematic of the radicalized thought that is the 8 percent tail wagging the Democratic Party dog, that could gain more adherents if such thinking is more mainstreamed on the left as it is on college campuses — from which she hails. So it is critical to push back with reason commentary based on all of history, logic and personal experience, and then get to the solutions that, based on her faulty thinking below, she probably does not want to hear.
We have to go through her tirade, because it embodies the thinking of the radicals driving Democrats and media coverage. She wrote:
“I yelled at my husband last night. Not pick-up-your-socks yell. Not how-could-you-ignore-that-red-light yell. This was real yelling. This was 30 minutes of from-the-gut yelling. Triggered by a small, thoughtless, dismissive, annoyed, patronizing comment. Really small. A micro-wave that triggered a hurricane. I blew. Hard and fast. And it terrified me. I’m still terrified by what I felt and what I said. I am almost 70 years old. I am a grandmother. Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead.”
The hateful illness encompassed in those last words needs no further remarking. But the author, like so many radical feminists who have out-sized voices in the media and culture, really seems to believe that every human with two X chromosomes agree with her, because they all have the same genetic structure and therefore all think alike. This is the same leftist “thinking” that leads too many to call Kanye West a “token negro” and worse because he is breaking from the leftist form that all black people think alike because they are black. It’s a sick ideology.
“My husband of 50 years did not have to stifle a laugh. He took it dead seriously. He did not defend his remark, he did not defend men. He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened. For a moment, it occurred to me to be grateful that I’m married to a man who will listen to a woman. The winds calmed ever so slightly in that moment. And then the storm surge welled up in me as I realized the pathetic impotence of nice men’s plan to rebuild the wreckage by listening to women.”
So while her cruel and hateful words spewed at her husband, leaving him “hunched and hurt,” she only became more angry and considered his niceness “pathetic impotence.” So is toxic masculinity the problem, or it’s opposite: pathetic impotence? There is simply no rational ideology or thinking process at work in this column the Post actually published.
“Don’t you dare sit there and sympathetically promise to change. Don’t say you will stop yourself before you blurt out some impatient, annoyed, controlling remark. [Note: Exactly what she is doing.] No, I said, you can’t change. You are unable to change. You don’t have the skills and you won’t do it. You, I said, are one of the good men. You respect women, you believe in women, you like women, you don’t hit women or rape women or in any way abuse women. You have applauded and funded feminism for a half-century. You are one of the good men. And you cannot change. You can listen all you want, but that will not create one iota of change.”
Again, to her husband of 50 years. I want to feel sorry for him, married to such a woman. I cannot imagine, because this surely is not the first time she has browbeat him. But perhaps he did deserve it, if he has been applauding and funding the kind of feminism that has led to this level of hate-fueled, vapid insipidness.
“And, for some reason, the most chilling memory of all, the one Christine Blasey Ford called up and that we all recognized: the laughter. The laughter of men who are bonding with each other by mocking us. When Ford testified under oath that the laughter is the sharpest memory of her high school assault, every woman within the sound of her voice could hear that laughter, had heard that laughter, somewhere, somehow.”
I won’t go into the obvious facts that most people see: There was zero corroboration or evidence to support Ford’s claim. None. But there were four witnesses to dispute it. That’s rational and fair-minded thinking. But for this author and those like her, an accusation alone is enough to prove veracity — no evidence required — if the accusation comes from a woman. The evidence here is that of this author living in a small information echo chamber of elite leftists. Just forehead smacking stuff from people who think so much of their own intelligence.
“The gender war that has broken out in this country is flooding all our houses.” No, it’s not. It’s really not. This is only in the fever swamps of feminists in the 8 percent. “It’s rising on the torrent of memories that every woman has.” No, they don’t.
However, there actually is a problem with men in our country, it’s just not the one the radical feminists are screaming about. The highest percentage of young men in our history are growing up without a father in the household, or any real male figure as this has become a generational problem. Ironically, it is feminists that has contributed mightily to this phenomenon in conjunction with the rise of the welfare state.
We have multiple generations of single-mother families, which has worked to impoverish a lot of women but also unleashed millions of young men into society that have no real concept of what it means to be a responsible adult man.
That’s where good fathers are essential. Of course, the most perfect, flawless men would still not placate the most hateful feminists, surely including the author in the Post, but in the end, that is on them and their choices.
I’ve taught my boys to honor, respect and protect women. They are to use their strength to protect women and the weak, never to prey on women or the weak. Never. Boys need to be reigned in from their natural, more base instincts — just as girls do but for different reasons with different results. Boys need to be given purpose that often involves physical labor when young, to channel their energy and strength into productivity, not into destruction.
But with six boys, the imperative to have a father who told them and modeled for them how to treat women is essential. And our boys were fortunate enough to have two sisters, and a mother and so they had plenty of practical opportunities.
Left to their own devices, boys will look for purpose in the pack, sometimes something beneficial such as sports, sometimes something destructive such as gangs. Or they will wander aimlessly and fall in with others operating on their base instincts. This is true in any area where single-parent homes dominate — and it holds true across race and ethnicity.
Conversely, in any area when boys have strong fathers who teach and model honoring attitudes towards women, the violence by young men is considerably less. Again, this is true regardless of race or ethnicity.
And here’s the full point: While I’ve used the first person “I” in this article, the reality is that this is all about the team my wife and I made in raising our children. We each brought our strengths that largely track with our gender. Whether you look at the biblical design for families, or just take history and research, the results are clear: two-parent families, male and female, are the best for raising children.
That is not the answer raging feminists want to hear. But it is the answer.
OK
That was the hardest thing to read.
And probably not worth it.
Didnt read a word because I know Feminist don’t like much of anything.
Seem to be a miserable hate filled bunch looking to place blame for all their short comings on someone other than them selves,.
Ask my sister
Or men might just decide that it’s just too much trouble, and too risky to deal with women at all.
I was going to say something like "If I were her husband..." but then I thought of the famous words of Winston Churchill:
SHREWISH MATRON: If I had you for a husband, I'd poison your tea!
WINSTON CHURCHILL: If I had you for a wife, I'd drink it!
...And here’s the full point: While I’ve used the first person “I” in this article, the reality is that this is all about the team my wife and I made in raising our children. We each brought our strengths that largely track with our gender. Whether you look at the biblical design for families, or just take history and research, the results are clear: two-parent families, male and female, are the best for raising children.
That is not the answer raging feminists want to hear. But it is the answer..."
Excellent article. Thanks.
“Whether you look at the biblical design for families, or just take history and research, the results are clear: two-parent families, male and female, are the best for raising children.”
Writing tip: Could have used this in the intro...
‘He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened.’
this is why he has a loudmouth bitch for a wife; I would have listened to her, nodded my head and said ‘okay, I guess; by the way, grab me a beer when you go into the kitchen...
I want to know what his comment was, without having to go to the WAcrapheap to read it.
It took forever to say something he could have said in the first sentence — and then expound upon it. But, no, he dragged it out until any reader would despair of where this was going and then when his point was finally made, you immediately wanted to say, “Jerk!”
There's the problem. Some things deserve only howls of derisive laughter.
The conclusion meant I had to read this shew’s ironic abuse of her long suffering husband, and the conclusion is a non-conclusion.
Every child deserves a mother and father who loves them. Marriages don’t always stay together, and being miserable together is not “for the children.” There is a huge difference between the women who marry who they see are good men but end up not being able to live with for good reasons, and the women who get pregnant with no known father anywhere near.
It is not all men’s fault for Weinstein and Cosby. It is not all women’s fault for this nasty professor or the ones who lie about being assaulted.
Every day for 26 years I play with small kids. Some are boys and some are girls. Each is precious. Nothing about goodness or kindness is built in. As adults, men and women have free will and kindness is always one of the options.
There was nothing stopping the following scenarios from happening, except for the individuals choosing not to be considerate of their fellow human beings:
“I’m glad you are going to be in my movie. You are beautiful and so talented, and this is a great break for you. If only I were a dashing and handsome producer, I might stand a chance of you going out for a drink with me. Sadly, I was born with these looks. But if you ever want some friendly company, I’m here for you.” - Good Harvey
“We’ve been going out for two weeks, ever since I separated from Camille. There’s something I want to tell you before we ever go too far. This is going to be hard for me to say, because I’ve never told anyone. I, uh, have this really weird sexual kink, uh, I don’t know if you are going to understand, but if you are going to go out with me, maybe you could find it in your heart if we played around with it a little, if not, that is ok too. Here is a NDA...’ - Good Bill
“I feel funny even talking about this. I know Brett was at some of these parties, and there was one party where someone, maybe it was him, not 100% sure, jumped on top of me and groped me, and it scared me to death because I was so young. I’m sorry, but it was so long ago, we were so young, alcohol was involved, and I just don’t know exactly who it was, so it’s nothing that should stop anyone from being appointed to the highest court of the land. But I thought maybe it was information people should have.” - Good Christine
You are far too rational and realistic :-)
Yeah, that’s what all the boys say...
Just read the first sentence and last paragraph. Everything in between is just fluff.
Yes, in a perfect world, a fair-minded mother and father who are experts at raising kids would be best. Unfortunately we don’t live in that perfect world. Lots of gray area in all that parenting stuff.
I do agree boys need some kind of physical activity to use up their pent up energy and maybe frustrations. I’ve long believed this is how sports got started.
Girls too need some kind of activity to direct their energy and keep their hands and minds busy. A combination of things would even be better such as sports, some kind of skill building exercise, and of course schoolwork/homework. More girls than boys seem to be better at academics. Maybe the girls aren’t so easily distracted or naturally know how to focus better.
Sugar and Spice and everything Vice.
Feminists hold two opposing viewpoints. On the one hand, they claim women can do anything men can, including being Navy Seals or combat Marines. On the other hand, they instantly demand men stop picking on the girl whenever they are opposed.
Conservatives know that men should respect women and that women are not as strong as men, but feminists won’t have it. They are schizo.
“The Devil finds work for idle hands”, as grandma used to say.
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