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California Trains Kids To Ask For Consent Every 10 Minutes During Sex
Daily Caller ^ | 10/14/15 | Blake Neff

Posted on 10/15/2015 2:53:21 AM PDT by markomalley

A look at the new landscape of sex education published by The New York Times contains an eye-opening anecdote: In California, teachers are telling kids to get consent every ten minutes during sex to avoid committing rape.

The article is about the brave new world created by affirmative consent, or “yes means yes,” which holds that a person must obtain explicit prior consent for every sexual act or else be considered to have committed sexual assault.The standard isn’t limited to sex itself; a person would also need explicit affirmative consent to kiss somebody, too.

All of this is in contrast to the prevailing criminal standard, known as “no means no,” where sexual assault occurs when a person proceeds with sexual activity despite an explicit refusal of consent. While this remains the criminal standard, California made a major shift last year by requiring all school disciplinary bodies to use affirmative consent, and it also required state sex education classes to use the standard as well. (RELATED: Students Explain Affirmative Consent With Cringeworthy Video)

That shift means a change in how sex education is handled, and the Times suggests that kids are finding affirmative consent to be a somewhat difficult standard to grasp. Among other things, some kids are getting the impression they need to set a timer during their intimate encounters to make sure their casual hookup doesn’t accidentally become a rape.

“What does that mean — you have to say ‘yes’ every 10 minutes?” one tenth grader is quoted asking sex ed instructor Shafia Zaloom.

“Pretty much,” Zaloom replied, adding that “It’s not a timing thing, but whoever initiates things to another level has to ask.”

If Zaloom’s advice is confusing, it isn’t because she lacks experience teaching the standard. The Times says she “has written a curriculum for affirmative consent programs that is being used throughout the country.”

But despite Zaloom’s expertise kids are still finding that affirmative consent is hard to mesh with the way people actually have sex (or, given their age, how they imagine people having sex). When given a list of phrases that could be used to gain consent, such as “Can I touch you there?”, students were dismissive.

“They’re all really awkward and bizarre,” one girl said.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Government; US: California
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To: fatnotlazy

We have a new commercial here in Kansas, “sex without consent is rape”. In my day the commercial would have been “ sex without marriage is sin.”


61 posted on 10/15/2015 6:04:48 AM PDT by cotton (one way, one truth, the life.)
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To: markomalley

Okay, honey, our “safe word” is going to be “yes”...


62 posted on 10/15/2015 6:08:17 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: markomalley

California is rapidly approaching the ideal of Whatever Is Not Prohibited Is Required. One will have to have recorded permission from a government office for anything and everything. Imagine having to adhere to a Nutrition Bureau diet with daily menus emailed to you that permit of no deviation.


63 posted on 10/15/2015 6:19:52 AM PDT by arthurus (Het is waar. Tutti i liberali sono feccia.)
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To: 4rcane

Obviously, it is.


64 posted on 10/15/2015 6:20:12 AM PDT by arthurus (Het is waar. Tutti i liberali sono feccia.)
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To: OttawaFreeper

That is coming. There will be compliance cameras in every room of every house. Orwell was right but a bit premature and, of course didn’t know how advanced the technology would be.


65 posted on 10/15/2015 6:22:17 AM PDT by arthurus (Het is waar. Tutti i liberali sono feccia.)
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To: Vaquero

Look west and see your own future.


66 posted on 10/15/2015 6:23:28 AM PDT by arthurus (Het is waar. Tutti i liberali sono feccia.)
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To: arthurus

I look south and mid west to see my future. I will migrate to AMERICA eventually. I suggest we kindred spirits all do the same.


67 posted on 10/15/2015 6:27:50 AM PDT by Vaquero ( Don't pick a fight with an old guy. If he is too old to fight, he'll just kill you.)
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To: markomalley

Do gay men have to do this when they hook up with strangers in the public bathrooms?


68 posted on 10/15/2015 6:29:38 AM PDT by AppyPappy (If you really want to irritate someone, point out something obvious they are trying hard to ignore.)
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To: Vaquero

I am looking even souther, like Colombia.


69 posted on 10/15/2015 6:43:14 AM PDT by arthurus (Het is waar. Tutti i liberali sono feccia.)
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To: markomalley

That is so when our mooslime overlords take over ... they can be ready.

I’m just saying.....


70 posted on 10/15/2015 6:54:00 AM PDT by JEDI4S (I don't mean to cause trouble...it just happens naturally through the Force!)
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To: markomalley

Remember when Liberals charged Conservatives with wanting to dictate your bedroom rules.

Now they want to micromanage your sex life.

They can go to hell.


71 posted on 10/15/2015 7:36:58 AM PDT by crusher2013 (Liberalism is Aristocracy masquerading as equality)
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To: markomalley

But it’s those evil Conservatives who want to control your body! Right!

So, now “free love” has become “sex by numbers’ and if you merk outside the lines your life is ruined. Wonderful.


72 posted on 10/15/2015 7:50:07 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: markomalley

Suppose she denies consent at minute 7? Does that mean that she is being raped for 3 minutes?

10 minutes is far too long. Consent should be asked every 45 seconds.


73 posted on 10/15/2015 8:04:18 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Ok. We won't call them 'Anchor Babies'. From now on, we shall call them 'Fetal Grappling Hooks'.)
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To: metmom

A friend pulled her children out of school here in Venice, FL because they are teaching the 5 tenents of Islam and have an absolute ban on teaching anything about Judaism or Christianity. She is now homeschooling one child and has put the other in a Christian school.


74 posted on 10/15/2015 8:15:03 AM PDT by Louis Foxwell (This is a wake up call. Join the Sultan Knish ping list.)
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To: markomalley

That should enhance the mood.

Or maybe that’s the point. The left doesn’t want intimacy between men and women. Or as they see it - rapists and victims.


75 posted on 10/15/2015 8:17:09 AM PDT by Let's Roll (Before it can get any better it has to stop getting worse - vote 4 most conservative available)
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To: markomalley
In California, teachers are telling kids to get consent every ten minutes during sex...

Sex lasts more than 10 minutes? Who knew!

76 posted on 10/15/2015 11:17:04 AM PDT by Mike Darancette (CA the sanctuary state for stupid.)
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To: markomalley

I’m guessing a person named Shafia Zaloom probably doesn’t get a lot of sex and doesn’t want anybody else to, either.


77 posted on 10/15/2015 11:24:20 AM PDT by mumblypeg (I've seen the future; brother it is murder. -L. Cohen)
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