Posted on 10/15/2015 2:53:21 AM PDT by markomalley
A look at the new landscape of sex education published by The New York Times contains an eye-opening anecdote: In California, teachers are telling kids to get consent every ten minutes during sex to avoid committing rape.
The article is about the brave new world created by affirmative consent, or “yes means yes,” which holds that a person must obtain explicit prior consent for every sexual act or else be considered to have committed sexual assault.The standard isn’t limited to sex itself; a person would also need explicit affirmative consent to kiss somebody, too.
All of this is in contrast to the prevailing criminal standard, known as “no means no,” where sexual assault occurs when a person proceeds with sexual activity despite an explicit refusal of consent. While this remains the criminal standard, California made a major shift last year by requiring all school disciplinary bodies to use affirmative consent, and it also required state sex education classes to use the standard as well. (RELATED: Students Explain Affirmative Consent With Cringeworthy Video)
That shift means a change in how sex education is handled, and the Times suggests that kids are finding affirmative consent to be a somewhat difficult standard to grasp. Among other things, some kids are getting the impression they need to set a timer during their intimate encounters to make sure their casual hookup doesn’t accidentally become a rape.
“What does that mean — you have to say ‘yes’ every 10 minutes?” one tenth grader is quoted asking sex ed instructor Shafia Zaloom.
“Pretty much,” Zaloom replied, adding that “It’s not a timing thing, but whoever initiates things to another level has to ask.”
If Zaloom’s advice is confusing, it isn’t because she lacks experience teaching the standard. The Times says she “has written a curriculum for affirmative consent programs that is being used throughout the country.”
But despite Zaloom’s expertise kids are still finding that affirmative consent is hard to mesh with the way people actually have sex (or, given their age, how they imagine people having sex). When given a list of phrases that could be used to gain consent, such as “Can I touch you there?”, students were dismissive.
“They’re all really awkward and bizarre,” one girl said.
We have a new commercial here in Kansas, “sex without consent is rape”. In my day the commercial would have been “ sex without marriage is sin.”
Okay, honey, our “safe word” is going to be “yes”...
California is rapidly approaching the ideal of Whatever Is Not Prohibited Is Required. One will have to have recorded permission from a government office for anything and everything. Imagine having to adhere to a Nutrition Bureau diet with daily menus emailed to you that permit of no deviation.
Obviously, it is.
That is coming. There will be compliance cameras in every room of every house. Orwell was right but a bit premature and, of course didn’t know how advanced the technology would be.
Look west and see your own future.
I look south and mid west to see my future. I will migrate to AMERICA eventually. I suggest we kindred spirits all do the same.
Do gay men have to do this when they hook up with strangers in the public bathrooms?
I am looking even souther, like Colombia.
That is so when our mooslime overlords take over ... they can be ready.
I’m just saying.....
Remember when Liberals charged Conservatives with wanting to dictate your bedroom rules.
Now they want to micromanage your sex life.
They can go to hell.
But it’s those evil Conservatives who want to control your body! Right!
So, now “free love” has become “sex by numbers’ and if you merk outside the lines your life is ruined. Wonderful.
Suppose she denies consent at minute 7? Does that mean that she is being raped for 3 minutes?
10 minutes is far too long. Consent should be asked every 45 seconds.
A friend pulled her children out of school here in Venice, FL because they are teaching the 5 tenents of Islam and have an absolute ban on teaching anything about Judaism or Christianity. She is now homeschooling one child and has put the other in a Christian school.
That should enhance the mood.
Or maybe that’s the point. The left doesn’t want intimacy between men and women. Or as they see it - rapists and victims.
Sex lasts more than 10 minutes? Who knew!
I’m guessing a person named Shafia Zaloom probably doesn’t get a lot of sex and doesn’t want anybody else to, either.
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