Posted on 12/24/2014 5:33:35 PM PST by Skooz
Hello all. Sitting here at home and wondering if anyone else out there is spending this evening alone.
On this night of all nights when families gather and friends share gifts and time, some of us are, for various reasons, spending Christmas Eve solo.
Not necessarily a bad thing - alone doesn't always mean lonely. But, it does mean alone.
Check in if that includes any of you, my fellow Freepers.
Saw it off with him, and if his mom and he band together in a sick union, certainly be civil to her but otherwise distance yourself from it.
Don’t waste any more peace scolding. Him or the mom.
/Dear-Abby mode out
I got no problem letting him go.
It’s for his own good.
The faster he finds his bottom, the sooner he squares his life away.
BTW, I’m an ALANON Alumni.
Been at it 30 years and been going quite a bit these last 5.
Not interested in going anymore.
It’s not like everyone doesn’t know what to do.
“Just rip that friggin bandaid off and let the healing begin”.
Adios Muchachos.
No more interruptions.
I want my mife back to what it use to be and unencumbered by some mommies boy.
...”It’s a wonderful life”...
Yes it is!.....and you’ve surrounded yourself with a warm and inviting mode to celebrate in....feels good doesn’t it!
But I miss the fireplace....alot! I have an apartment that though it is charming it lacks this....but otherwise small everything is cozy!
I went to the frig a short time ago and am so mindful of the PEacefullness this noght...even among Christmas Songs in the background and being on this thread...what Peace and Joy!
We invited Him here and I do think HE is!!!!
Maybe in fact your life will be better, if different... but our lives rightfully belong to God.
God probably doesn’t want a maniac hanging on the bus of your life because then you can’t do much good with it. But wait on God to see where He points you. Maybe the old laddie WILL crash and be forced into knowing he needs to let God into his life too, through means that all the scolding in the world never could have orchestrated. Or he could end up killing himself which is sad to see but it was by his will if he is a legal adult.
Remember the blind begger who went to the waters to be healed? Jesus asked Him if he wanted to be healed?..... Sometimes we need to get “well” by rising above our circumstances....take up our pad and walk too!
That is what will free you...when you walk forward...and leave him with the Lord.
Told me today, out of the blue, she would pick her son over me.
Only thing I can figure is everyone needs skme ridiculous outside excuse/enemy.
My quick response was “I have achieved objectification! I win and there is no second place”.
Don’t think she understood the export of what she said, that had no provocation.
But, if she is going to continue enabling him and tryin to manipulate me into being the one to cross that bridge, I won’t and made it clear.
He is the one with the problem and I like it just fine on this side of the Danube.
Of course we are servants of the Lord. We are also stewards and protectors of the freedom, rights, and liberties that flow from the Almighty. It is not a passive pass time but requires action on our part.
The Republic may yet fall and our descendents lose the blessings of Liberty but NOT ON MY WATCH.
"Ceterum censeo 0bama esse delendam."
Garde la Foi, mes amis! Nous nous sommes les sauveurs de la République! Maintenant et Toujours!
(Keep the Faith, my friends! We are the saviors of the Republic! Now and Forever!)
LonePalm, le Républicain du verre cassé (The Broken Glass Republican)
Sometimes we will find we can’t control the same macrocosm that we used to. Then tiring ourselves out trying is simply vain and contrary to the Lord’s will.
God help him because I know of no more powerful force that can.
Until he is forced onto his back, by life, he can never have the motivation to admit “he is powerless over alcohol and God is his only way out”.
It comes down to “I think, therefore I am”
I’m so sorry, MamaB.
Why does life have to be so hard?
Sounds like a sick bond all right. Well let her DO that if she must. The two may crash together.
...”let God arrange his careening into a wall”...
That’s such good advice....sometimes we are working against God by holding on and trying to do something for them that God has other plans for...we actually can get in the way of the remarkable God intends to bring our family members into position where he will deal with them Himself.
A story of parents who had a daughter into drugs was worth the read...they’d done everything possible...and the last straw they told her if she got involved again they would kick her out.
Well, they did and she broke into their home anyway...so they had her arrested for breaking and entering. She ended up in jail and through that ended up off drugs. She is now a contributing memeber to society and clean ever since with a family of her own etc.
It probably isn’t “Just” alcohol but a myriad of things, which he has been using the bottle to help him avoid facing.
Well, the Christian story explains why; and it’s first and foremost a Jewish story. Gentiles are team B, not team A, and it hasn’t yet finished playing out in the world.
WAsn’t that a great video...just goes to show things are not always what they might appear.
"Ceterum censeo 0bama esse delendam."
Garde la Foi, mes amis! Nous nous sommes les sauveurs de la République! Maintenant et Toujours!
(Keep the Faith, my friends! We are the saviors of the Republic! Now and Forever!)
LonePalm, le Républicain du verre cassé (The Broken Glass Republican)
....”mommies boy”....
Yes...and that is the problem as much as he is. Moms have an enormous capacity to love their kids no matter what....but I had to learn even moms can have their limit when God is ready to deal with their children....after all they are His first...
I had to learn my son was lying to me....which hurt greatly....but that woke me up as well....time to let go.
Well, folly in evaluating “what we can” will only end up with us running in vain circles.
Perhaps it is time for the former-republic to hit the wall, similarly to Vendome’s situation. Trying to buffer the problem away with endless scolding will only delay a truly healing resolution if it is even possible.
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