The point came where I had to make a choice, and despite a strong wish to shame my abusive father, I chose to make a decision for me, instead of making one for him. I realized that, by choosing otherwise, I would appear to be opposing him, but in truth, he would remain in control of my life forever.
Becoming homosexual has very little to do with sex, and everything to do with how we choose to "act out" in defiance of things we perceive as being "shoved upon us." The faggotry is just an unfortunate result of this choice, which is why so many fags commit suicide.
It's not because they feel ostracized by society; it's because they realize that they've made a choice against themselves, against who they truly are at their core.
You just cannot win an internal struggle when your entrenched position's justification is built upon a monstrous lie you told yourself back when you were young and stupid enough to believe it.
Far too often, the only way out is to end the life you chose to waste on a self-desrtuctive lie.
Look at the thousands more who left faggotry behind by accepting Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. There can be no more conclusive, inarguable proof against the lie that gays are "born" and not "made."
Last, don't bother trying to argue this unassailable truth; I speak from what I know to be true, not from that about which I at times find it interesting to hypothesize because,"I read an article somewhere..."
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You bring up an interesting point, about your father. I haven't heard of many lesbians who think they were 'born that way'. Most like to proudly say they CHOSE their way of life, and in many cases, it was because some man or other, and usually their father, was abusive in some way, so they reject ALL men.
I'm glad you had the strength of mind and will to see why that lifestyle looked in any way attractive to you, and still choose to avoid it.
I agree with most of what you say, I too have some experience with this, not the same as yours, but personal as well.
Sounds reasonable to me.
I am so sorry to hear that you suffered under an abusive father. On the other hand, I am glad that you decided not to allow him to destroy you. Prayers for you.